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March 4, 2008, 12:37 pm PST

MY 7 YR OLD ANOREXIC SON

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Men need the treatment they deserve.

The hospital I do recovery speaking for had some manorexics.

Eating disorders are a power trip against the natural shape of the body.

I know it is less acceptable for a male to go into treatement. My personal e-mail address is as follows for you to get help.

hippielynn@yahoo.com

I JUST CAN'T BELIEVE IT.......I'VE SENT SO MANY EMAILS TO DR PHIL ASKING FOR HELP AND GUIDANCE WHEN THEY FIRST RESPONDED TO MY EMAIL ABOUT MY SON (PREADOLESCENT EATING DISORDER) AND I HAVE HEARD NOTHING!!!!!!!!!! hippielynn.... thanks so much for your email but like you said, you were an adult - he's only 7. There are no clinics on the east coast that I'm aware of that will take a 7 yr old boy because it's so rare. I'm past frustrated at this point. Anybody out there with any words of advice I would love to hear from you. thank you and God bless you.

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March 8, 2008, 1:43 pm PST

Still thinking abt you

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I JUST CAN'T BELIEVE IT.......I'VE SENT SO MANY EMAILS TO DR PHIL ASKING FOR HELP AND GUIDANCE WHEN THEY FIRST RESPONDED TO MY EMAIL ABOUT MY SON (PREADOLESCENT EATING DISORDER) AND I HAVE HEARD NOTHING!!!!!!!!!! hippielynn.... thanks so much for your email but like you said, you were an adult - he's only 7. There are no clinics on the east coast that I'm aware of that will take a 7 yr old boy because it's so rare. I'm past frustrated at this point. Anybody out there with any words of advice I would love to hear from you. thank you and God bless you.

Sharry;

Still concerned abt the well-being of your son.

You are still free to e-mail me in regards. And although there aren't any clinics where you live. The cost of treatment would probably be forgiven by the hospital here in the mid-west. If your son would like to e-mai; me, he's more than welcome.

And you are as well.

It's not a 'lost cause' at all. And I'd be happy to talk to him.

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March 8, 2008, 11:25 pm PST

I totally Understand

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PLease I have suffered from anorexia over the past year. I went from wieghing 225lbs down to 95 in less than a year. Thanks to family ove just the past few months i have managed to go from eating 100 calories a day to eating more. Corrently i am up to weighing about 106lbs, and at first i was doing good with eating. But now i am really scared because all i can think about is food. ( i don't know if it's because i deprived myself for so long?) I dont eat expeccially before i go to work in the morning because i dont want to feel like a fat pig, but when i am by myself all i can think about is food and it is extremely difficult not to go into the kitchen and just start pigging out. I really dont want to have to live my entire life like this, constantly thinking about food and worrying about what im eating. it has gotten to the point where i have lost contact with most of family who i used to be extremely close with, and i think i am slowly loosing my friends. I am so scared that all this pressure is going to lead me back down to not eating anything again because in the long run I truly was happier when i didnt have food in my stomach, i didnt have to worry about feeling like a fat pig. ALso i have had a lot of people come up to me and tell me how i look much better because i have gained a little bit of wait and when they say things like that to me it just makes me feel worse. I really am at the point that I don't know what to do, i havent been able to sleep through an entire night in the past month and ahalf.

You can read more about my personal story on my myspace (myspace.com/Spoiledblonde697). I am in a similar situation...my lowest weight was 100, and I'm like 104 right now, my highest weight was, probably 143 in the seventh grade (But we are SO not supposed to talk numbers!)...same height, 65 in. . I've been in and out of treatment for a long time, and I'm only twenty. I just totally understand all of your emotions, and I know it doesn't mean anything, but you aren't a fat pig. It's something we all know intellectually, but are unable to internalize. My struggle is exacerbated by a history of sexual assault... Every day is a struggle...I'm hesitant to put a picture of myself on here, because I do NOT want it to be triggering in any way to anyone (Especially since when I put pic.s on myspace my family almost disowned me so I had to delete them.) But since I see myself as in the recovery mindset, and a lot like you, I guess I will share some pictures. It's the dangers and obsession of this disease that make me so frightened. I want to get better so bad...The pictures are the worst effects of my illness, and some of my better moments.

This is probably one of my worst, because I was just absolutely rock bottom. These are all about a week to three weeks old...the scars are from my history of self harm, which is another issue altogether. But this is NOT NOT NOT a competition, that only makes things worse. THIS, THIS PICTURE, is disgusting, and I know it.

This is motteling, my blood pools at all my pressure points. I also have arthritis in my back, insomnia, severe depression, anxiety...and all that good stuff that we all know about

The twisting of my spine is what really hurts so much...the point of these photos is not to compete, or glamourize. It's to talk about an illness we all have in common...we've been there, some still are. Raising awareness is so important to me, that I WILL open myself up to the public. This not something I want, and I don't think it's something any of us want...but I can NOT speak for everyone.

One final image, so people can see my face. It's not happy, it's not proud of an accomplishment...I just want to get through this, and live life like a normal girl. Lots of people need help, Dr. Phil can't take on every anorexic in the world...personal responsibility comes in somewhere, and I'm a hypocrite for saying so because I'm not fully recovered. But being able to talk about my struggles has been extremely helpful, and I hope that somehow it helped those that don't "get it" to understand a little better...for everyone else, I was just preaching to the choir I suppose. Contacting me via myspace or AIM is totally ok...support in recovery is always a good thing.

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Cortney

I HOPE THIS WAS NOT BAD FOR ANYONE. IF IT IS, EMAIL ME IMMEDIATELY AND I WILL TAKE IT DOWN. I DO NOT WANT TO BE A TRIGGER. I FEEL FOR ANYONE WHO IS SUFFERING, AND TOTALLY UNDERSTAND WHAT IT IS LIKE.

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March 11, 2008, 4:08 pm PDT

Wow

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You can read more about my personal story on my myspace (myspace.com/Spoiledblonde697). I am in a similar situation...my lowest weight was 100, and I'm like 104 right now, my highest weight was, probably 143 in the seventh grade (But we are SO not supposed to talk numbers!)...same height, 65 in. . I've been in and out of treatment for a long time, and I'm only twenty. I just totally understand all of your emotions, and I know it doesn't mean anything, but you aren't a fat pig. It's something we all know intellectually, but are unable to internalize. My struggle is exacerbated by a history of sexual assault... Every day is a struggle...I'm hesitant to put a picture of myself on here, because I do NOT want it to be triggering in any way to anyone (Especially since when I put pic.s on myspace my family almost disowned me so I had to delete them.) But since I see myself as in the recovery mindset, and a lot like you, I guess I will share some pictures. It's the dangers and obsession of this disease that make me so frightened. I want to get better so bad...The pictures are the worst effects of my illness, and some of my better moments.

This is probably one of my worst, because I was just absolutely rock bottom. These are all about a week to three weeks old...the scars are from my history of self harm, which is another issue altogether. But this is NOT NOT NOT a competition, that only makes things worse. THIS, THIS PICTURE, is disgusting, and I know it.

This is motteling, my blood pools at all my pressure points. I also have arthritis in my back, insomnia, severe depression, anxiety...and all that good stuff that we all know about

The twisting of my spine is what really hurts so much...the point of these photos is not to compete, or glamourize. It's to talk about an illness we all have in common...we've been there, some still are. Raising awareness is so important to me, that I WILL open myself up to the public. This not something I want, and I don't think it's something any of us want...but I can NOT speak for everyone.

One final image, so people can see my face. It's not happy, it's not proud of an accomplishment...I just want to get through this, and live life like a normal girl. Lots of people need help, Dr. Phil can't take on every anorexic in the world...personal responsibility comes in somewhere, and I'm a hypocrite for saying so because I'm not fully recovered. But being able to talk about my struggles has been extremely helpful, and I hope that somehow it helped those that don't "get it" to understand a little better...for everyone else, I was just preaching to the choir I suppose. Contacting me via myspace or AIM is totally ok...support in recovery is always a good thing.

xoxo

Cortney

I HOPE THIS WAS NOT BAD FOR ANYONE. IF IT IS, EMAIL ME IMMEDIATELY AND I WILL TAKE IT DOWN. I DO NOT WANT TO BE A TRIGGER. I FEEL FOR ANYONE WHO IS SUFFERING, AND TOTALLY UNDERSTAND WHAT IT IS LIKE.

Hi, my name's Courtney too. People always think I'm anorexic because I'm really skinny. I work out a lot i have nice abbs, but working out isn't making me any skinnier, it builds muscles so I shouldn't look that skinny. I'm not anorexic allthough I thought I was once, I went a long time hardly eating anything! It made me feel bad when people call me anorexic or "too skinny" How do you feel about it since you actually went through it? I hope you are doing great recovering!!

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March 17, 2008, 2:15 am PDT

Pretty:)

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You can read more about my personal story on my myspace (myspace.com/Spoiledblonde697). I am in a similar situation...my lowest weight was 100, and I'm like 104 right now, my highest weight was, probably 143 in the seventh grade (But we are SO not supposed to talk numbers!)...same height, 65 in. . I've been in and out of treatment for a long time, and I'm only twenty. I just totally understand all of your emotions, and I know it doesn't mean anything, but you aren't a fat pig. It's something we all know intellectually, but are unable to internalize. My struggle is exacerbated by a history of sexual assault... Every day is a struggle...I'm hesitant to put a picture of myself on here, because I do NOT want it to be triggering in any way to anyone (Especially since when I put pic.s on myspace my family almost disowned me so I had to delete them.) But since I see myself as in the recovery mindset, and a lot like you, I guess I will share some pictures. It's the dangers and obsession of this disease that make me so frightened. I want to get better so bad...The pictures are the worst effects of my illness, and some of my better moments.

This is probably one of my worst, because I was just absolutely rock bottom. These are all about a week to three weeks old...the scars are from my history of self harm, which is another issue altogether. But this is NOT NOT NOT a competition, that only makes things worse. THIS, THIS PICTURE, is disgusting, and I know it.

This is motteling, my blood pools at all my pressure points. I also have arthritis in my back, insomnia, severe depression, anxiety...and all that good stuff that we all know about

The twisting of my spine is what really hurts so much...the point of these photos is not to compete, or glamourize. It's to talk about an illness we all have in common...we've been there, some still are. Raising awareness is so important to me, that I WILL open myself up to the public. This not something I want, and I don't think it's something any of us want...but I can NOT speak for everyone.

One final image, so people can see my face. It's not happy, it's not proud of an accomplishment...I just want to get through this, and live life like a normal girl. Lots of people need help, Dr. Phil can't take on every anorexic in the world...personal responsibility comes in somewhere, and I'm a hypocrite for saying so because I'm not fully recovered. But being able to talk about my struggles has been extremely helpful, and I hope that somehow it helped those that don't "get it" to understand a little better...for everyone else, I was just preaching to the choir I suppose. Contacting me via myspace or AIM is totally ok...support in recovery is always a good thing.

xoxo

Cortney

I HOPE THIS WAS NOT BAD FOR ANYONE. IF IT IS, EMAIL ME IMMEDIATELY AND I WILL TAKE IT DOWN. I DO NOT WANT TO BE A TRIGGER. I FEEL FOR ANYONE WHO IS SUFFERING, AND TOTALLY UNDERSTAND WHAT IT IS LIKE.

Except for the bruising, I think you look pretty, I wish I could look like that, so so so bad.
I'm working on it, I can usually control my eating when I'm with friends and at school and such, I just don't eat so I don't look like a pig.
But at home I usually can't stop my self from going in the kitchen and making a hotdog or something, I HATE IT.
I'm 124 pounds, I want to be under 100, I hope I have as much self control as you so I can look that skinny, thank you!

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April 9, 2008, 11:04 pm PDT

Breack free

Hi my name is Maria and I have anorexia nervosa since I was 5 well when I was 5 I was diagnosed with eating disorder specifically anorexia couple year later.So I been anorexic for all my life is all I know is all I'm or I fell I'm I"m 5'2" and when I was 18 years old I weight 60 lb or less the only reason I'm still fighting is because 7 years go God taught was funny to challenge my life some more by give me the gift of a child a beautiful girl she is the only reason why I didn't let my self completely go but is hard is so hard I want to be strong so I can be a good rule model for my girl and for be there for her but is to hard yes I'm managing to not go to ow with my weight but is watch going on inside me the heart the most anorexia is kill me from inside out is not about the number in the scale is about the Hell that is inside me that I have to deal every day off my life that hart so bad will love to love my self to feel worked good enough but that is not the case.I will give anything o just one day to fell Like I belong ,good enough ,to love my self to fell proud off my self just for one day be anorexia I just want a fighting chance to give sense off my life to do something with it anorexia keep my soul inside her prison and keep me from do anything with my life I feel like passenger in my own life I set there watching my life go by paralyze from doing anything with it is hell and all I wants To Break free to finally live my life.Doctor tell me that anorexia is my daises but I'm not anorexia well I will like to discover that one day and hop-ply will not be to late.

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April 18, 2008, 10:54 pm PDT

Anorexia

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Hi my name is Maria and I have anorexia nervosa since I was 5 well when I was 5 I was diagnosed with eating disorder specifically anorexia couple year later.So I been anorexic for all my life is all I know is all I'm or I fell I'm I"m 5'2" and when I was 18 years old I weight 60 lb or less the only reason I'm still fighting is because 7 years go God taught was funny to challenge my life some more by give me the gift of a child a beautiful girl she is the only reason why I didn't let my self completely go but is hard is so hard I want to be strong so I can be a good rule model for my girl and for be there for her but is to hard yes I'm managing to not go to ow with my weight but is watch going on inside me the heart the most anorexia is kill me from inside out is not about the number in the scale is about the Hell that is inside me that I have to deal every day off my life that hart so bad will love to love my self to feel worked good enough but that is not the case.I will give anything o just one day to fell Like I belong ,good enough ,to love my self to fell proud off my self just for one day be anorexia I just want a fighting chance to give sense off my life to do something with it anorexia keep my soul inside her prison and keep me from do anything with my life I feel like passenger in my own life I set there watching my life go by paralyze from doing anything with it is hell and all I wants To Break free to finally live my life.Doctor tell me that anorexia is my daises but I'm not anorexia well I will like to discover that one day and hop-ply will not be to late.

I am SOO sorry you are going through this and have been all of your life. God blessed you with a child and your child needs her mommy. I know anorexia isn't something you can just stop and make it go away.. it a disease that you have to work at and fight and it sounds like you have been fighting it. Keep on doing that and help your body get stronger so you can watch your baby girl grow up!! You said you see a doctor? Do you see a dietician? A therapist? You need to get all the help you can get. Hang in there and keep fighting this disease and just remember that there are many anorexic survivors and you can be one of them. You are in my thoughts. :-]

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April 29, 2008, 10:31 pm PDT

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Hi my name is Trisha and I am 21 years old with a great husband and two wonderful kids but I have been suffering with anorexia since I was 14 years old and for the past 4 years I was fine with no eating disorder and happy with myself. In the past two weeks I have stopped eating and started abusing laxatives and lost 12 pounds, my height is 5'6 weight now is 142 and i am able to lie to my family about my weight loss because I tell them I am sick or I will eat later. Buy I have a 2 little girls who need their mother and I know if I do not stop i will probably die.

My question to anyone who will answer is should I tell my husband about my eating disorder or continue to live in silent shame waiting for him to figure it out on his own.

Please no judgmental comments I know what I am doing is wrong that is why I am asking for help.

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May 1, 2008, 8:33 pm PDT

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i am 33 and have been battling eating disorders for over 15 years. I am anorexic. I am a stablized anorexic i guess. I am 5'4 and weigh 105lbs. Yes i understand the BMI is 18 and that is underweight but i have not lost weight in a while. After all these years and i just started therapy last year i have remembered apparently years or horrific sexual child abuse that went on unnoticed and unspoken for the first 15 years of my life. So after hearing that you would have an eating disorder too....lol...now i am being diagnosed with Dissociative Identity Disorder. I am overwhelmed...i feel ashamed and embarrassed and all this stress causes me to struggle with anorexia every day and i have to force myself to eat hourly....and then to remember that today right now this very minute i am safe and no one can hurt me....is anyone else dealing with issues like mine? i need help trying to stay "grounded" and to remember to eat.....lol

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