Topic : Obesity

Quote From: sarteaga

Hello, My name is Sandra. I am a 36 year old over weight female from West Tennessee. My resolution for 2007 is to become a NEW PERSON. In doing that I have had to first and foremost start in trying to become a new person inside...now it is time to work on the outside as well. In 2006 I have reached the highest weight I have ever been. It has been effecting my life for many years emotionally but now even more pyhsically. It is no longer a descion...it is a must.

 

I do have the support of a womderful man in my life trying to help me achieve the goals that I need to reach. He is the reason that I have made some of the changes for the inner person. I know he loves me for who I am and the outer person has no bearing...but I also know how much happier he would be if I did look better & healthier outside. But even with his support I would love to have the support of people that are actually expereincing some of the obstacles that I am. Someone that knows what I am going through and can lend support when needed.

 

I have considered Weight Watchers and Curves and all the other diet programs advertised...anything that I think can help. I am actually checking into them all personally this week firsthand. If you know anything about any of them personally that could help me I would appreciate the advice. I have all the books by Dr Phil, getting them all with the best of intentions of reading them and going on his program...but not sticking to my plan...it's time! If anyone would like to start Dr Phils Ultimate Weight Loss Challenge with me please contact me. My email is sarteaga@charter.net. I hope to hear from lots of supporters! Maybe even some possibly from the West TN area that we could workout together, attend meeting etc together

Quote From: swchick

"according to medical information my mom has, someone who's 5'4-5'5 should be around 130pounds but most women are 150-160.  Still, that doesn't mean you're fat. Body proportions are always different, so are bone mass and muscle mass. These are just guidelines and I'd suggest you think more in terms of what makes you feel good and healthy as opposed to numbers.  Numbers always depress people."



The WHO-CDC body mass index chart for women in your age bracket has the top end of the normal range at 150 pounds. 
 Ideal weight for an average frame non-athlete would be less, but the range allows for general variance in body type.   A larger frame is overweight outside the wide range allowed as  "normal."  (BMI is not a very effective measure for highly conditioned athletes with low body fat and an extra-high percentage of lean muscle mass, but it is a good measure for ordinary people, and certainly for  relatively sedentary people in your age bracket) .  You would be classified as obese if your weight exceeded 175 pounds in absence of the special factors mentioned above.

Your dad may be vain and narcissistic,  He is certainly sending the message and has for years that he does not approve of the way you look or the way you manage your eating.  It's painful not to have the approval of a parent.  But you are a grown-up now.   If you don't like your wight, get it off.  If you really like it,  tell him you appreciate the concern, but you are a grown-up now and his comments are unwelcome.  Whatever the root of his anxieties,  you have to realize that you are in charge of taking care of you and nobody else, even a nagger, can get those unhealthy pounds off but you.

  

Quote From: beecharm3r7

Yeah I did mention that I am losing weight...but that wasn't my point. I was simply giving an example that sometimes it hurts one's progress when those they love keep nagging. It doesn't help with motivation and I know with me, it makes me really upset.  Sometimes I can't have a normal conversation with my dad without the issue of food being brought up.  What I was trying to get at is that when someone, a parent in my case, keeps bringing up this issue, it effects you.

 

Like I said, people who obsess over counting calories and what they eat is a new form of eating disorder.  They don't realize it but because of this, it can put more and more pressure on others...which could also lead to eating disorders.  Thankfully I don't have one but I have friends who are bulimic and I do worry that I might one day follow in their footsteps.

Quote From: beecharm3r7

Yeah I did mention that I am losing weight...but that wasn't my point. I was simply giving an example that sometimes it hurts one's progress when those they love keep nagging. It doesn't help with motivation and I know with me, it makes me really upset.  Sometimes I can't have a normal conversation with my dad without the issue of food being brought up.  What I was trying to get at is that when someone, a parent in my case, keeps bringing up this issue, it effects you.

 

Like I said, people who obsess over counting calories and what they eat is a new form of eating disorder.  They don't realize it but because of this, it can put more and more pressure on others...which could also lead to eating disorders.  Thankfully I don't have one but I have friends who are bulimic and I do worry that I might one day follow in their footsteps.

Quote From: mconst

Hello;

I am a 40 year old women, 140lbs over weight, I have never been so depressed in all my life. I have spent thousands of dollars on weight loss books, diet pills and weight loss programs, sure I lose 10 to 20 pounds here and there but have never, ever reached my goal. I am so depressed about this.   What else can I try? where can I turn?  I feel hopeless, and  don't know what to do.....

 

I have a lot of stress in my life with my health, and also my husbands health, he is terminally ill.  I am unable to work due to a work disability. I use food as my comfort,  I don't know any other way. I wish I could go on the shows on TV that provide you with the trainers and cooks to help you loose weight. WOW that would be a dream come true to have someone help me get the weight off and teach me to keep it off.... Anyway, I don't even know why I bother to tell this to strangers, I guess I just needed to vent my feelings.

Thanks for  reading

Sad and depressed

Quote From: swchick

 You just don't want to do it.

I sound terribly unsympathetic, but I actually do have a great deal of sympathy for you and your situation.   I gained a bunch of weight after injury and illness took a toll, and life kept throwing nasty little curve balls.   But just chose healthy eating and activity over the temporary pleasures of eating for entertainment.

The trick to losing weight  for me I think was to start slowly, gradually implementing lifestyle changes.  I have probably gone too far now and that's a story for another day.   But slow and steady does win the race.  You simply have to find new ways to comfort and entertain yourself.

Quote From: mconst

 You sound like so many people I know,  The problem is,  you have no idea of my medical history, family life or anything else, so how dare you judge me by saying you just don't want to do it.  You might want to find out facts before you get involved with things you know nothing about.

 

I do eat healthy, and exercise as much as my chronic pain allows me to,  I cut out soda, chips candy of any kind, and all sweets, anyway I am not going to sit here and defend myself to you. I just wanted you to know that I am trying, have been trying and will continue to try, I was just looking to vent not get judged.....

Quote From: swchick

 Did you not say you " use food for comfort"?

To lose weight, you have to stop that. 

You can eat healthy food and still eat too much of it.  You have to eat less, forever.
It's not comfortable.  It's not easy.  That's what it takes, however, especially when it is too difficult to do much strenuous excercise.

I have been overweight.  I have been chronically ill and dealt with chronic pain.  I was in an accident that make it hard to walk.   I have ankylosing spondylitis.   I have dealt with ill relatives and shocking, traumatic illness of my child.  I am not without sympathy for you.

But you know what to do.  You don't want to do it.