Topic : Obesity

It does seem to start with having kids, I am definately bigger since i had my daughter. I think you are right in that maybe part of my problem is i see this as a tackle for the whole amount of weight, maybe if i was happy with losing 10 and then another 10 it wouldn't seem as impossible as thinking omg i have to lose 200 pounds. ugh even seeing that typed out makes me want to cry. I thankyou for your support it means alot, i hope we keep talking. And you are right about my husband and child, my husband keeps saying im going to die young unless i wake up and realize what im doing to myself. I guess i kept telling myself  it was ok because i enjoy eating and i enjoy the bad things, but if i die in 5 years from a heart attack, not really going to enjoy anything then ! I guess ive also had really low self esteem so sometimes i get in the slump of maybe they would be better off so who cares, thats the depression creeping up i know, and its so beyond horrible i know. i know they need me , just some days its really hard to face this problem.

I am glad for you that you have started walking, i think thats the key to take this in small steps, keep up the good work ! !

I just wanted to say thankyou. Having someone out there to listen and support me is wonderful. I wasn't going to sign up on here, but i think it does help to talk about how you are feeling and get it out there. thankyou for your email, i may take you up on that some time )

I am trying to take inventory and be accountalbe for things, but its increasingly hard. who wants to admit that they have eaten themselves into this kind of state. it sucks, but as i told some of the other people maybe we all need to just take baby steps and together we can accomplish something. isn't that what dr phil always says. especially you can't change what you dont acknowledge. that was a huge one for me, hiding hiding hiding. im not THAT big... this isn't really happening to ME. i can fix it tomorrow.... i know i have to stop these thoughts, its just how thats the problem. im here for you too ))

Hello Chapom,

You know baby steps are the first step.  Each day you will get stronger and stronger.  My first day of exercise I thought I would die.  I just keep pushing myself.  I try to look at a picture of myself when I was a little bigger than I am now.  It has made me realize what I actually looked like.  This my help you.  If you don't have no one to walk with, maybe you could walk with the kids alittle each day.  I'm sure once you find the point where you can increase your walking, you'll really like it.  Then the weight will start to come off.  I have been told to watch the inches you lose.  Sometimes you may not lose weight but measure for the inches you have lost.  You can lose the weight with the support you get here.  Just take it one day at a time.  If you want you can e-mail me at: sreid@comporium.net .  I'll be a supporter for you.  I'm really pulling for you.  Always remember life is to short to waste.  When your bad thought start talking to you, shut them out.  Try to think of something great you want and can accomplish for yourself.  Try each day to be the best you that you can be.

Stacy

I'm right there with you, I weigh in at 336 and struggle with sticking to working out. My problem is I lose inches rather than pounds so I get discouraged on the scales and give up. And I am Bipolar, so I have about one week a month where I am so depressed it's hard to get out of bed, but that would be better if I excercised more.  Also I get bored easily. If I could get and keep a good workout partner, that is when I am at my best.

But I have a new game plan. I met a girl on spark that told me about  a local gym that does'nt require a start up fee or contract and you can either pay 36 on a mnoth to month or if you just want to stop in every once in a while only $5 a visit! So now my sister commited to 1 day a week, sister in law to 1-2 days, possibly a friend to a day and then the girl on spark any time. So it looks promising that I will have several workout buddies!

and did I tell you about sparkpeople.com? You all will love it. It is a free online weightloss site. It has free meal planning, excercise you can do, recipies, you can get advice form the coaches and there is message boards. Lots and lots of tools and it is all free. I have been a member for awhile and it has really been a goood support system for me.

Anyway it was nice talking to you all. It's nice to know that your not alone in this battle. One day we will find the right game plan for ourselves and everything will just fall into place and we will start  shedding lb after lb.

Love and Smiles :o)

I am so happy for you ! Taking that first step is awesome and you should be really proud even if it is just 1 day a week to start ! i am going to have a look at that sight you offered as well thats really neat.

 i have yet to do it, i think it was friday i said ok enough is enough we have to start watching what we eat, i think i ate a whole pizza last night (( although i went to the doctor yesturday and had my blood pressure checked and its even worse so that was a bit of a wake up call also.

I have heard also that with depression working out can really help a person overcome that or at least decrease the symptoms, the problem seems to be getting over it enough to want to do the exercising. but with new found support i think we are on the right track for sure ! keep up the good work !

Hey everyone,

Since Spring is almost here.  The energy is in the air.  I feel more energized.    The sun will be out more.  That will make you want to get out and about.  This is a new year and hopefully a new me.  I hope everyone will set a small goal and reach it and then set another.  I'm going to the beach in July.  I want to be able to go this time feeling better about myself.  In past years I have gone and I feel excited about it until I get there.  Being overweight isn't fun there.  You feel so miserable.  I won't wear a bathing suit.  It has been a long time since I have.  I usually wear a shirt and shorts.  I won't go swimming either.  My family tells me not to worry about what people think.  In my head I know what they say.  I know I can't lose all  this weight in the next few months.  I can atleast loss some.

    I hope everyone will have a great day.  Remember all the supporters here.  They're really great.  The tips and advice is also.

Stacy

 Same here.  I like to see how everyone is doing.  There hasn't been much going on the site. 

Any new topics to get it started? 

Stacy