Topic : Obesity

I thought I would chime in here as I have been thinking a lot about my weight recently and am working to start again on losing weight.  I, too, have issues with similar foods.  Anyway, I was always a bit above normal, but when I became a teen, I gained 100lbs in one year.   By the time I graduated from high school, I weighed 270lbs.  Food was an out for me, a way to cope with home, school, and feeling out of control.  My mother was also obese, and she was an emotional eater.  I don't want to pry too much, but depending on when her weight increased and how much she eats at one time, this may have become a coping technique for her.  Being supportive of her, getting her into a family gym where the family works out together, or maybe getting a nutritionist for a while may encourage weight loss.   Even without spending money, the family working on their weight together in a loving, supportive way can make a big difference, and looking back I wish I would have had this.  In any event, added support of various kinds can help with finding new, healthier coping skills.  Just a thought. 

KK 

I am 46 yrs old, have inflamatory desease and cannot hardly function. I am a thin person trapped in this fat disgusting body and I want out one way or another. I hate me and try toNever look in mirrors. I see that person and do not know who it is. I suffer from depression and hate everything about the person I see in the mirror. Pictures of me make me almost pyhsically sick. That is not who the real me is. The only problem is I cannot find her anymore. It tried reading Authentic self but got so lost that or scared I quit reading it. I am 5'3" and weigh 228lbs. I need help! My life is taking a real slide down hill. I am a christian and letting God down and also my family. I cannot work right now and that scares the hell out of me. I feel so depressed to the point of numbness. I try not to feel anything because that is better then feeling the way I do. I have lost weight in the past when happy and did not even diet. I think it is more mental then anything. I am lonely.

Who is that fat women in the mirror?

Maybe we can help each other out.  Do you have a email address so we can talk one on one? 

Sincerely, Someone Who Cares 

I am 5'4" and weight 395 pounds... 

I have always been on a diet.. it's my life... I also feel like a yo yo.. cause that is all I seem to do..  

I just joined Curves for women and it hasn't been easy for me there cause I am so out of shape..  

I cry myself to sleep at night. 

I know deep down inside there is a slim woman inside this fat obese piggy persona I must carry around..  

meladyuni  (Maggs) 

Let them know how much they mean to you.  Ask them to exercise with you and maybe join a weight support group with you also.  But if you exercise with them make sure it's not to hard for them or they will give up before they get started.  Even if you don't have any weight to lose it nice to have a best friend to go with you, to a weight support group.  Make her feel like she's helping you out as much as your'e helping her out.   A lot of love and support can go a long way.   

Sincerely,  From a overweight person 

This message board has a lot of good listeners with a lot of good advice.  Hang in there and don't give up.  We do care.  I also cry myself to sleep.  Your'e not alone.  Best Wishes! 

Hello!  I recently had a a conversation with my sister who has lost 170 by having gastric bypass surgery.   She looks great, and I am proud of her.  She said to me "I am really worried about your weight."  I was very offended by this.  At first, I wasn't sure why.  She would never have made a comment like that when she was overweight.  I think it may be more helpful to your friend if you ask them to start taking walks with you or going to the mall and walking around to get exercise.  I wouldn't use the reason you are doing this to help their weight.  It's a way to help them without making them feel even worse than they probably already do.  My sister will tell me tips that she has learned along the way with recipes and I really appreciate that.  As a snack, she gets the Tostidos scoops and puts a little salsa in each one.   I enjoy hearing those ideas.  Good luck with your friend! 

Hi,   

I'm 16 years old and 250 pounds (exactly) and I don't want to be overweight anymore. I've been obese for as long as I can remember. I don't think I was obese as a toddler, from the pictures I've seen but it's hard to tell.   

I've been wanting to try something new, and I don't think dying my hair a reddish-purple (temporary color!) is going to cut it anymore.   

I homeschool, and I'm sure that the teens & preteens here think I am the biggest weirdo they have ever seen because I barely go out of the house. Most of them probably do not even know my name.   

I never used to mind being overweight, besides the fact that it makes my left foot hurt... I really thought that I was pretty, or at least pretty for an over weight person. My family is also overweight. Everyone but my dad weighs more than I do.   

That brings me to another point... it's sad when your dad weighs about 80 pounds less than you do.   

What I liked about my body before was that I had big hips and a small(ish) stomach. Don't get me wrong, I wanted to loose weight even then, but not as much as I do now. Well, my stomach has gotten increasingly bigger and I hate it. I've also been picking out other things that make me feel not so pretty... like my nose, which is ironic because I used to actually think my nose was almost "perfect". I don't even think my nose has changed any!   

A lot of things have been happening in my life lately, a lot of stressful changes have been made. I think it is time that I do a change for the better and uncover, not the new me, but the me that I know I am already--just a hundred pounds lighter.   

I like to do normal things, like dancing and going for walks and meeting people. I have no problem at social gatherings, like at weddings, I'm normally one of the first to get up and start dancing and I normally barely stop until it is time to go. My sister, on the other hand, will sit at the table, which is almost always at the edge of the room, and not engage in any dancing. She will talk to people, which she is not particularly fond of most of the time, but she will not dance. She says she doesn't want to look like an idiot. I say it's fun to look like an idiot every once in awhile.   

Anyway, my point is that most of the time I FEEL like a skinny person is supposed to feel, but here lately I catch myself picking on my looks--even ones I can't help!   

I know if I loose the weight it will help with lots of things, and exercise will probably give me an excellent way on loosing the stress that all those family changes have put on me.   

If you have any tips, please let me know! I'll keep everyone posted on my progress!   

-Hoover