Topic : Obesity

 I think it's great that you're getting your wake-up call long before I did. I was overweight at 37 years old too, but kept trying one diet after another and all that did was add more pounds than I'd started with as soon as the diet was over. Don't waste time on embarrassment--there's nothing to be ashamed of it you're working positively to improve your health. Please come to the "200 Pounds or more to lose" message board where WE ALL share the same feelings of being morbidly obese. WE ALL know the unique challenges of trying to exercise at that weight. And we are ALL very tired of being grouped with people with 30 or 50 or even 75 pounds to lose because they haven't a clue what it's like for us. We will be on the program for YEARS while they will be able to reach their weight goal in a year or less. WE will have success too in that time, but people will still look at us and see an obese person because even after a year of good weight loss we will still be obese.

It can be very distressing and very depressing OR it can be a situation that we can share and air our feelings. It's been proven that weight loss is improved when shared with others in the same situation. And I can tell you from experience in other support groups that unless someone has 200 pounds (or at least close to 200 pounds) to lose OR MORE they are NOT in the same situation we are. Please come join our group--you'll be so glad you found the caring support you need to make it along the weight loss journey. We do care and we want to help you and we'd like you to come and help us too.

Hope to see you on the board soon.

Cherie

Hi there,

 

I just now saw your post and I am very sorry for not replying to you sooner!!!!! I would love to chat with you!! I wanted to send you a private e-mail, or send you regular e-mail, but I didn't see any way of doing it, so I figured I would do it this way.

 

I am in the same situation that you are when it comes to being overweight and depressed!! I just went to my Dr and I weight 294 pounds. So I also have a lot to lose as well!! I am also on mediciation for depression. I was told that I have severe Depression, or either Major depression..which ever is worse thats the one I have! I think they both sound about the same, but could be wrong.

 

I also do not feel worthy and that's not good for either one of us!  So I know what you are going through!

 

I also lost my grandparents last yr and this yr. They raised me. Daddy (Grandpa) died in March of this yr, and Grandma died last yr.

 

CONGRATS for being married for so long to the same man!!!!!! :) My husband and I have been married now for 20 yrs. I also grew up and believe that the "man is the head of the house, and that the woman is to submit herself unto her own husband" It is also in the bible. This is the way that I still believe, but my husband is not very controlling! He pays the bills, we talk about many things, but the final decision is his to make...but I always let him know how I feel, and he takes my feelings into consideration!  He is not a Missionary, and even though we do not attend church on a regular basis, we still still believe this way, because this is the way we were both raised.

 

Have you ever thought of going with your husband? Or will he not let you? Just curious! :)

 

I am getting ready to turn 38, and I know what you mean! I do not want to die young either!!!! How about you and I getting together and writing each other? Feel up to it? Because personally, I feel like everyone needs a friend to talk to, or to just laugh with, or even to cry on their shoulder! That's what friends are for, and hey..I know I could use some friends and would love to be your friend!! :)

 

Don't worry, I have low self esteem also. I have had it all my life, and still do! Maybe we can work on this together and help each other out...maybe we can even help each other with losing this weight we have on us! :) Hey, I'm willing if you are!!! :)

 

You know, about our husband's. I also feel unworthy when it comes to mine as well, but hey, there must be something about you that he loves, or he wouldn't have married you!! :)

 

Audry@ec.rr.com send me an e-mail, and let's become friends with each other! I know that we can do this together!! :)

 

Love & Hugs,

Audry

Hello everyone. I, too, am starting once again to try to  try to get my life in order and get losing this weight that I have put on. I believe that I weigh around 350 pounds and just feel so sad and frustrated and just don't know where to begin. Well, actually I do know where to begin I just can't seem to do it.  I think that I have really given up on myself and have resigned myself to a life of unhappiness and dissatisfaction with myself. However, I don't want to give up on myself. Today, I really do want to start again. 

  

I see that there are many people on this message board who are just like me in many ways. I want to shout to all of you.... "DON'T  GIVE UP. YOU ARE WORTH IT. YOU CAN DO IT".  I know from my own experience that  this is really tough but I do believe that together we can do it.   In fact, I need to shout these same things to myself. I, too, need to be reminded of this.  Start fresh today and if you fail, start again tomorrow.  If I can help anyone, feel free to email me at krista1234@shaw.ca. 

  

Have a great day. 

  

Krista 

i guess i'm not tired enough of it. i'm 5'7" tall and 320 lbs. i'm miserable and mad at myself. i had a membership to fitness club but that went bad. i had a job that i got off work early enough to meet my  brother at the club. i got down to 280 from 329. i was feeling better. really proud of myself. i lost that job, ( it was seasonal) and my new job made it hard to get to the club. now my member-ship has expired and i'm getting fat again. it took me 6 months to lose 49 pounds and about a month to put it back on.  i get up at 3:30 a.m. so i can start work at 5:00 a.m. i work till 5:00 p.m. usually. i do'nt feel like working out but i know i need to. i just can't seem to make myself do it. my brother has a new girlfriend also so he's out of the picture. i rarely seem him. were really not that close any- way. he's no support. he can eat whatever he wants and never gain a pound. for him when it comes to working out he could take it or leave it. he does'nt really need it. i do'nt have many friends so i'm on my own. i do'nt make friends easily because i have a hard time trusting people. it takes a long time for me to trust somebody. i'm not very outgoing. and it seems like when i was thinner it was easier to make contact with people. when your fat it's like nobody wants to get near you, like it's going to rub off on them. i've always battled my weight but not obese, just fat. i'm a bad procrastinator also. i bought dr. phils weight loss book but i can't seem to find time to read it. i'm not much on reading. i've bought a couple other weight loss books also, but i need to read them too. i have several self-help books, but again i need to read them. there's not enough time in the day. i need somebody to do this with me, but that's just not going to happen. i'll have to go it alone which is how it's been for me for 13 years now. this should be easy. i should be used to this.

I have noticed that on the message boards alot of the messages are repeats. HOW COME?

I think what you might be referring to is a QUOTE feature that is available on our site.  If you click the "reply with quote" button it will show the original message above yours in a white box.  

this is my first message.  i have put off for a long time doing this, but i need people to talk to that understands where i am coming from.  weight has always been an issue with me.  i am begining to see it is where i am in life and who im with that is the biggest problem and how to deal with that is my priorty.  i am a woman who weighs 294 pounds and i have not said that to anyone before.  that may be the start of healing my self.  i hope to be on line to read and share every day.  love and laughter to all.

i wrote one letter already and i havent heard back. um not sure that neone is out there listenin. um fat um ugly n i don't know where to go from here. um sittin here all alone tonite after havin a few drinks n i don't exactly know if um comin or goin at this point. my father called me tonite and told me that he started drinkin again after hearin that if he ever took another drink ever that he may as well say good bye to his children. did that stop him? nooooo!!!! i am the youngest of eight children and daddy's baby at that and if he's gonna try and kill himself then i jus think there is jus no reason for me to stick around and watch. um no angel, believe me. but i don't wanna sit by and watch him kill himself. what do i do? please someone help..