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December 10, 2006, 9:55 pm PST
Looking healthy matters
Quote From: Candie I need to get something off of my chest. I've lost about 80 pounds in last 6 months. When I look in the mirror I see the same person and feel like the same person, only I know I'm healthier. I haven't changed anything about me other then my weight. I'm still the same person on the inside (loving, caring, happy, friendly and very social), but people treat me different. Men now open doors for me, smile and flirt with me and try to pick me up which really makes me mad. Women act like their jealous (friends and family mostly). Why don't people treat me the same as before I lost the weight. At first I thought I was just reading more into it then it was. People treat obese people different from skinny people and that is a real shame because we are all the same. We just come in different packaging. I made my mind to treat and love all people the same no matter what size. Thanks for listening. Love Each and Everyone of You! "Men now open doors for me, smile and flirt with me and try to pick me up which really makes me mad"
Why should it make you mad? You worked hard to get down to
a reasonable weight. Men are more interested in you because you
are more attractive and your sexual desirability is tied to signals of
youth and health- obesity is a signal of a host of physical
ills or potential for problems. Normal men are naturally more
attracted to someone who looks healthy and svelte.
Women are envious or jealous because you have changed into
someone more desireable. Didn't you just point out that men
are more interested in you? Hello, you now seem more in control
and more adequate, whereas before you were not someone women had to
compare themselves unfavorably against, and you were not in competition
as you are now for the attentions of males.
That "different packaging" you dismiss as anything significant is more
than just a different color wrapping paper. Obesity is a signal
that you are out of control and may have health issues or genetic
problems, or that these issues may surface in the future, that you eat
too much and are not physically active and athletic and
healthy. The packaging you choose matters. It's
not that every person does not have intrinsic worth or value in the
sight of God. It does say something about your desireability as a
mate. It will change your relationships with women
that began when you were someone pigeonholed into a certain role, and
then you decided you would cast yourself in a new role and play a
different part, that of someone who is more desireable and more
take-charge.
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