Topic : Obesity

Hi Everyone,

 

I am new to the message boards. Anway I am 21 years of age and have been dealing with an eating disorder for almost all of my life. It has consumed me to the point where i am not able to eat in front of a lot of people and can not go to parties either. What happens to me is that i binge to the point that i am severly sick and then i starve myself up to 4 days. This has also had an effect on my mental health cause when I binge I feel hopeless and like crap and ask myself why can I just not eat properly. Also due to this with my eatting disorder I really almost never know when I am hungry I always think that I am hungry. I have been praying to just be done with this but is always comes to haunt me. I don't even know how it all started. Why or how I started this habit of eatting. I know that all of my life I have been overweight. I have been made fun of, teased, tormented and even bullied where I could no longer go to school. I am afraid to go out in the community and this has controlled my life so much that I am almost house bound. Is it possible that i can overcome this?

 Yes, I don't think children or minors should have any weight loss surgery done unless it is a life or death situation.  They should be old enough to make that decision, like 18 years old.  Plus their bodies aren't done developing until then. 
No, I don't think it is the "easy way out" and it makes me mad when people say that.  What is so easy about it?  I had the surgery done 8 months ago and there is nothing easy about it.  I use to weigh over 260 pounds (for over 20 years) and now weigh about 175.  I worked my butt off to get were I am today.  It took me 16 months to get approved by my insurance, two 6 month exercise and weight programs (doctor supervised), seeing 4 doctors on a monthly basis, numberous nutritional classes, months of research, cost over $20,000 for everything (which I had to work two jobs to help pay for).  Then once I had the surgery I could only start out eating 2 ounces of food 3 times a day.  I now get to eat 4 to 6 ounces 3 times a day,  exercise my butt off on a daily basis, watch and measure every little thing I put in my month, no sugar, no caffeine, no fatty foods, doctor visits every 3 months.  So you tell me how this is taking the easy way out!!!!  Don't  get me wrong,  I have NEVER regretted doing the surgery because now I have a second chance to live a long and healthy life.  I know the surgery isn't for everyone but it sure was for me.  IT SAVED MY LIFE!!!!  So what was your point?

My sister has the very same problem although I wouldn't blame her husband for it. The problem goes much deeper than that. I would imagine it does for your sister too.

It would be great if Dr. Phil would have another show and throw out to the viewing audience that there are people dying out here without insurance and nowhere to turn for help to get the bariatric surgery that they need so desparately. They obviously need counseling as well, but there has got to be some way to help turn this around before it's too late for them.

hello

    there is always hope, ppl may not agree with what i am going to tell you but you need to get away from that man, before you will ever feel good abot yourself.  I am 46 and have been through some of the same things you have. you didn't say what happened after you had the surgery but it does sound like you didn't have much support. don't ever give up on yourself and don't ever give up yourself for someone else your post really touched my heart cuz i can feel your pain.  if you want to give me your e-mail I would love to talk to you, I wuld like to give back some of what has been given to me.  keep your chin up and if you need a friend I am here.

                                                                                                                                         tam

I am a morbidly obese woman at the wonderful age of 50.  I was losing weight starting in 2003 (depression after the death of my older sister).  This continued until 2006 when I had the joy (?) of needing a complete hyterectomy.  After the surgery it was discovered that I had developed a hernia which I wanted removed.  The surgeon refused until I lost at least 200 lbs.  I began going to a gastric bypass class, preparing for that surgery, but found that the information they provided simply did not give me convidence in their proceedures (Kaiser Permanente).  I therefore left the class, have regained the weight I had lost while attending the class and believe that both the hernia & I are simply getting bigger and bigger.

 

I have so very many other illnesses that I will not even begin to list them except to say that 2 of them are epilepsy and diabetes.  I take about 14 different medications twice a day.  Believe me, I am not a happy camper  All I can say is HELP!!

I am a 53 year old widow. I have always been a "Big Girl" for as long as I can remember. I believe it started when I was between 5 and 9 when I was sexually abused by my father. Before you get angry, I am not using that as an excuse. I have dealt with and forgiven him and myself many years ago but I do believe it has created some kind of  defense mechanism in me to keep me fat.

I married when I was 30. This man accepted me for the woman I was regardless of my size. Then I was 250 lbs, today I have ballooned to 342 lbs and I can't seem to control my food "AT ALL". Every day I tell myself, I will not stop at Dunkin' Donuts on the way to work, and before you know it... I'm in the drive thru. I have even tried taking a different way to work but every way I go there is a Dunkin'  Donut.

I know you have all heard the saying "I am sick and tired of being sick and tired" well that's me.

I know I am killing myself but I don't know how to stop.

I been a widow for 9 years now and would like to meet someone special to enjoy life with but I am so ashamed and so embarrassed that I have let things get so bad. I feel I am an embarrassment to my family and friends, I have turned myself into a hermit. I don't go out I watch TV all the time.

 

I am just so lost I don't know what to do.

Really recommend Weight Watchers - I have been on it for a little over a year and have lost 49 pounds and have another 20 to go - it is truly a life style change that I believe anyone can do -

Hi im Kez,

                  I`m wanting to know if my trouble with my weight loss is due to my not eating alot, I only eat at lunch time a salad roll but i can`t eat brekky or dinner when i try to eat just the thought of it makes me feel sick and im not a sweet eater if i eat anything with sugar i throw up, I walk 30min a day but can`t seem to lose any more weight.

 

Kez

Hi,

My names janice. I too have MS,,,since '99 & have always had weight issues. I lose, gain, lose, gain, you know,,,,,yo-yo'ing. I'm about 40 lbs overweight. The MS does limit us doesn't it? I can still walk a little, not enough to constitute being called excercise. It's depressing to not be able to excercise like I need to and want to. So, having to sit more than I want to-I nibble. BUT, I nibble when I'm depressed, when I'm happy-it doesn't matter. I try to control my snacking. I just this week decided to try-slowly-cutting out my snacking. I have a 28 year old son, daughter-in-law & a beautiful grand-daughter who I want to be proud of me. If I'm gonna have to deal with the MS, I don't want my family to see a fat 'MS'ER', but an 'MS'ER' who can still take care of herself. And it's hard to do. If you want to, my e-mail address is  rjsamuels@ctc.net. Good Luck & best wishes!

I'm with you.  I had the surgery too, and it changed my life.  I lost 140 pounds, over two years ago.  Since then I went to community college and graduated with straight A's, and am currently studying at a University!  Just for fun, I'm even taking a ski class!!! 

 

I was real lucky in that my HMO (Healthnet), covered everything. 

 

I was obese for the last 20 years and I now feel like I've been released from prison.  So, everyone out there, you CAN overcome that horrible weight trap.  You CAN change your life.  It can be done!  Don't give up! 

 

Peggy