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Topic : 07/12 A Predator in the House?

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Created on : Thursday, July 06, 2006, 07:05:33 pm
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The FBI estimates that there is one child molester per square mile in the United States. Could that predator be in your home?  Could it be your husband, your father, or your trusted friend? Kitty considers reconciling with her ex-husband, James, but worries that he may have inappropriately touched his 15-year-old daughter. James says he’s just showing love and affection toward his child, but Kitty is making him look like a pervert. Is Kitty overreacting, or is James crossing the line? Then, Trista’s ex-boyfriend, Aaron, has been accused of molestation by her 5-year-old female cousin. Aaron says he is completely innocent and will do anything to prove it. Trista has trouble believing him, and refuses to reconcile until she knows the truth. Plus, Elizabeth says her husband of nearly 20 years destroyed a once normal life when he used their 8-year-old daughter, Emily, as bait to molest her young male friends. Now that he’s in prison, Elizabeth is faced with challenging questions from her daughter. Is your child being groomed by a pedophile? Join the discussion.

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July 20, 2006, 1:25 pm CDT

michelle 5

Quote From: michelle_5

That is why I wrote to Dr. Phil about this situation (I'm still waiting for a reply) because I fear my cousin will act on her threat. She is so totally fed up with the justice system. The bathroom incident was in May of 2005. It has been a year and she has tried to speak with anyone who will listen: the police, child care protective services, politicians. They say that because the perpetrator is no longer in the house there is no threat to the child any more. In New York a child younger than 4 is not a reliable witness. How can that be! This monster knows that and he will continue to prey on toddlers. The law needs to be changed. Is anyone out there that can help? 

You could also go to Oprah & her message boards...she has been also on this subject. You could also try Jessica Lunsford site http://www.jmlfoundation.com/ .... her father has done wonders....the news media.....the Surgeon General....online petitions? Another thought of mine (take for what you will) is a book (kit) with all the information on "red flags" to watch for etc. Neighborhood watches....such as mentioned on Oprah's boards "KICS" Keeping Innocent Children Safe! Be a speaker at schools even!  

  

All right this is probably go over badly BUT did or has ...anyone thought that THAT is why this is all over? They pick innocent children because most people can not see or willing to admit the "red flags" as it happens! Children can NOT make it up period....they do not have the developed mind to do so.... on the subject. They can not control it, they are not the adult....they HAVE to listen to an adult! It can NOT be proven unless there is evidence of such! How does someone prove it? He siad....she said....that isn't proof. They even go as far as threatening the child, trust me I know! Also I really would like to point out that all this little stuff can turn into another Jessica Lunsford case!!!!!! Many say or think it will not hurt a child if anything of this nature happens...OH but it does....plus it could lead them into even more wanting even more of a fix so to speak....get into porn (if hasn't already) then further.... etc. 

  

  

 
July 20, 2006, 7:51 pm CDT

i need help

Hello everyone I have somewhat of the same problem, My  ex-sister in-law's soon to be ex-husband came to my house telling me things about my nephew.  Things that him and his mother are doing he caught them in the bed together and he has seen them do other things. I went to cps and the police department to have an investigation done but the told me because he was thirteen that was their life style. I have no money for a lawyer and the cops won't do anything because hes not in a life threatening situation.  So what can I do? everyone I have talked to says nothing.  there is also another child there that child is 17 months old. help.  confused
 
July 20, 2006, 8:01 pm CDT

I agree, small children cannot make this up

Quote From: sinfulyd

You could also go to Oprah & her message boards...she has been also on this subject. You could also try Jessica Lunsford site http://www.jmlfoundation.com/ .... her father has done wonders....the news media.....the Surgeon General....online petitions? Another thought of mine (take for what you will) is a book (kit) with all the information on "red flags" to watch for etc. Neighborhood watches....such as mentioned on Oprah's boards "KICS" Keeping Innocent Children Safe! Be a speaker at schools even!  

  

All right this is probably go over badly BUT did or has ...anyone thought that THAT is why this is all over? They pick innocent children because most people can not see or willing to admit the "red flags" as it happens! Children can NOT make it up period....they do not have the developed mind to do so.... on the subject. They can not control it, they are not the adult....they HAVE to listen to an adult! It can NOT be proven unless there is evidence of such! How does someone prove it? He siad....she said....that isn't proof. They even go as far as threatening the child, trust me I know! Also I really would like to point out that all this little stuff can turn into another Jessica Lunsford case!!!!!! Many say or think it will not hurt a child if anything of this nature happens...OH but it does....plus it could lead them into even more wanting even more of a fix so to speak....get into porn (if hasn't already) then further.... etc. 

  

  

It's like that little girl on the show a couple of days ago.  I don't believe for a moment that she made it up. The guy was quick to say that maybe it was one of the many friends of the mother. The girlfriend took the little girl to confront the guy. Although Dr. Phil says it was a bad idea, I must say I am proud of that little girl for speaking up.  

  

I also would like to know the results of the poligraph test.  

 
July 21, 2006, 6:00 am CDT

Here here me too!

Quote From: michelle_5

It's like that little girl on the show a couple of days ago.  I don't believe for a moment that she made it up. The guy was quick to say that maybe it was one of the many friends of the mother. The girlfriend took the little girl to confront the guy. Although Dr. Phil says it was a bad idea, I must say I am proud of that little girl for speaking up.  

  

I also would like to know the results of the poligraph test.  

I agree big time! The little girl at least felt it was not right & spoke up without being scared. But geezmonettie what an excuse.....how conveniently  that there was others to TRY & point blame on! Now WHY in the world would a little girl such as that..... ONLY pick him? What reason does she have to lie? Oh I know....she thought it all up by her little ole self because he just wouldn't get her a puppy like he said he would is all!!!!!!  She wanted to get him into trouble so she said something.....YEAHRITE 

Basicly she has picked him out of a line up now.....so thus he lies about it because she is so young.....claiming she doesn't know who is who etc. YEAHRITE 

Way to go little one! 

 
July 21, 2006, 11:02 am CDT

This is for the person that thinks that: "If they have no criminal history and are good up standing citizens and are over the age of 30, they are probably innocent"

Are you out of your mind? Really, you must be joking. The mayor of a nearby community  {Oswego, NY] was just sentenced to prison for trolling the internet looking for sex with young girls.
 
July 21, 2006, 12:40 pm CDT

shocked and horrified by Dr. Phil's response

 On the show "Predator in the House?", the male guest with the 15 year old daughter was clearly violating his daughter and was acting very predatory towards her. They slept in the same bed together, he let her put his hand up her shirt on her breast, he let her straddle his lap, and the ex- wife caught him leering at her. This girl is clearly being sexually abused and exploited; young girls don't act out so sexually aggressive unless they have been violated in some way and  their boundaries become confused. 

     His ex-wife said he and the girl acted more like lovers than family, and he said she was just jealous.The ex-wife also mentioned she was afraid to leave him alone on the beach with other young teenage gilrs for fear of what he would do - this man is CLEARLY a predator. 

     I was shocked when Dr. Phil's response at the end was that this man is just a "guy", like Dr. Phil is a "guy", as if it  is just a "GUY thing" to sexulaixe teenage girls.   (!!!)      Dr.Phil even said that "young daughters all of a sudden turn into Anjelina Jolie" which I find to be a very inapproproiate, objectifying comment. It is NOT normal or a "guy thing" to look at your daughter sexually, or to treat her as a lover and not as a daughter. Dr. Phil added to the problem instead of telling this man he has a serious sickness and has damaged his daughter greatly  and he needs  to get serious treatment.  The daughter needs serious treatment and protection.  I grew up in a home where my father treated me the same way and it is very damaging to be preyed upon by your father. I was horrifed and shocked by Dr. Phil's response which aimed to protect and justify the abuser. It is not a "guy thing" and is NOT ok or acceptable to sexualize young girls, EVER.  

 
July 21, 2006, 6:59 pm CDT

07/12 A Predator in the House?

Quote From: amandae

Hello everyone I have somewhat of the same problem, My  ex-sister in-law's soon to be ex-husband came to my house telling me things about my nephew.  Things that him and his mother are doing he caught them in the bed together and he has seen them do other things. I went to cps and the police department to have an investigation done but the told me because he was thirteen that was their life style. I have no money for a lawyer and the cops won't do anything because hes not in a life threatening situation.  So what can I do? everyone I have talked to says nothing.  there is also another child there that child is 17 months old. help.  confused

It may be necessary to go beyond the local law enforcement.  Call this phone number and they can help you. 

24 HR counseling Child Abuse
1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453)

 

A Child's Voice Connection, Prevent Child Abuse; Abductions 

http://www.drphil.com/messageboard/topic/999 

  

  

djmatt 

  

  

 
July 23, 2006, 2:40 pm CDT

thear truley are indeed a lot of people in prison that are not gulty

Quote From: marriedugh

If your fiance' is in prison for LIFE then he is where he belongs..If you ask the prisoners they are all INNOCENT..they must think we all think like you......Not so naive in La
thear are girls that just do not like thear dads or step dads and clame to have been molested by them! i truley think we need a better system to keep inocent people out of jail, by no way am i saying all in jail are inocent but alot  of people serving time thear did nothing! its relly too easy for a child to say things like this and no proof what so ever is ever rendered! thear relly are alot of evil kids out thear that indeed clame this out of anger! but when they meet god thats when they will wish they had just told the truth!
 
July 24, 2006, 7:48 am CDT

Guilty or Innocent

Quote From: afraid

thear are girls that just do not like thear dads or step dads and clame to have been molested by them! i truley think we need a better system to keep inocent people out of jail, by no way am i saying all in jail are inocent but alot  of people serving time thear did nothing! its relly too easy for a child to say things like this and no proof what so ever is ever rendered! thear relly are alot of evil kids out thear that indeed clame this out of anger! but when they meet god thats when they will wish they had just told the truth!

A child can NOT make it up!  

It also depends on how old the child is and IF they were coached by someone! 

If he is in prison for life....then there MUST be a good reason! There had to be PROOF on this one, period! 

Predators & Pedophiles etc. are absolutely superb liars! Even THEY think they are innocent until the day they die!  

And "DITTO" when THEY meet THEIR so called God they will wish they had not done it at all either! 

What line of DUNG is being fed on this one!!!!!!!!!!!!! 

 
July 24, 2006, 1:42 pm CDT

child molester

Last year I found out that my daughter and husband had a thing going on while I was working. He was 52 and she was 17. I don't know the whole story but have lived thru hell the past year. You see it all came out when my daughter ended up pregnant by her step dad. I won't go into all the nasty details but I just couldn't live with the thought of it and I turned my husband in to social services. He is now in prison he got 13 years but only has to serve 2 because she testified it was consentual.I haven't spoke to either one for over a year now. He has tried numerous times but I refuse to speak to him. She ran away when  I found out she was pregnant, and she hasn't tried to make contact with me since. The saddest part is my 10 year old son, he now has another sister that is by his half sister and his dad is in prison. We live in a small town and everyone knows about it, some people back me and some shun me for what I did( turning him in) I really don't care what they think, I just know that I couldn't live with what my husband told me ( it nearly made me lose my mind) and I just did what I felt I had to do for myself and my family. It's been a tough year for me and my  family but we do all we can to continue to live with all that's happened.  

 
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