Topic : 07/13 Online Dating

I don't know who you are going to meet on your date in California but I just wanted to write to you to make sure it is not the same guy that I just had a relationship with.  He is from Florida. He flew from Florida to California about a couple of months ago. I was in a relationship for years with this guy who I met on the internet. He was too good to be true at the time. He talked to me for months before getting together. I ran off with him to Florida and he turned out to be really crazy. It was the ride from hell. I stayed with him for years and  I was mentally and physically abused by this man. I left him last year.  I know he is a member of eHarmony.  Please if you could write me back and just give me his first name, then I will know if it is him. I know he is out of the country at the time and is  coming back to Florida  and it could be him. Don't want to cause any problems, just want to make sure it is not him. If it is him, I want to give you warning. I pray for your sake it is someone else and not him. Good luck with dating. I am not saying I would never try it again, but I would do it with caution. If this is the same guy, you want to stay as far away as you can. I think he needs medication. He comes across  on the phone and internet very well, but turns into something really evil.

If his name is Bob, I could fill you in on quite a bit. If not, ignore the email. I ended a relationship Iast year with someone I met on the internet. I stayed with him for years. We moved to Florida. I know he is into dating on the internet. It was the relationship from hell. I would never want anyone to go through what I went through if it is the same guy.

I met my husband online in 2002, we now have a six month old girl.  Internet dating gets a really bad rap just give it a try. 

  

Good Luck All 

I met my husband online in november 2001. we married in march of 2002.  He is the best thing that has ever happened to me.  He is a better daddy to my children than their birth father.  we met on the chat program ICQ.  you have to weed out the weirdos but there are also a lot of good men out in the world. 

I met my husband of 6 years now in Yahoo chat.  We knew eachother 1 year online ( e-mails, snail mail, phone calls....)  before we actually met eachother.  I wasn't 'looking'  and neither was he it just happened.  I did get involved with one jerk before him but thankfully it ended within 2 months.  My advice for anybody looking for a mate online is simple, If you are the one doing all the mailing, calling, visiting, etc... He/She probably isn't serious.  And don't fall for anyone that seems like a 'prince charming' or sounds too good to be true.  Remember that everybody will show their good side online but it is a diffrent story when you are living with them 24/7.  And finally if he is really intrested then he will stick around.

About online dating... I signed up on Match.com. Very much doubting I would find anyone at all. I met a few jerks and a few people who ended up being very good friends. Then I met Sean. A man in the Air Force. He was in Korea at the time but had it posted that he was in my area. We began talking and the first thing I asked was "Can I completely be myself?" because I was so tired of trying to be what the others wanted me to be or be what I assumed they expected of me.  

   

He said. "I wouldn't want it any other way." So we talked and I began falling in love with him, even though we had never met in person. He had 6 months left to go. Everytime I heard his voice on the phone I would cry. Or when he got offline.  

   

After i admitted my feelings for him, he got a bit scared. One thing that scared him was that I am bipolar and my son is autistic. He disappeared. But had promised no matter what that we would meet when he got back to the states. My heart was crushed. I dated others and was determined to get over him.  

   

After he returned to the states we met and went out. I thought that was it and we would never see each other again. Months went by and I continued dating others and he went on to fix his relationship with his ex. Once again I was crushed, but determined to get over it.  

   

One night he called and said that he was over his ex and had feeling for me but wanted to date and make sure before we started a relationship. I said ok through a million tears.  

   

The next morning he was at my door without warning, picked my son and I up and we have been together ever since.   

   

Like I said, I am bipolar and have borderline personality disorder which the latter stems from abuse as a child..I have many insecurities and doubts and fears and UNFORTUNATELY....moods. He has been a wonderful man to me and my son, very kind and loving and patient.  

   

I have driven him absolutely crazy with my instability, so I am hoping I don't run him off. It is a horrible fear of mine.  

   

I wish you all luck in finding a wonderful man....There are good ones out there...Really!!!  

You are so right. All the things people fear about online dating can be said about face to face dating.  People can lie to your face just as easily as they do online.

I signed up on match.com for the 6 months.  I met few men for dates and there were some I would never meet.  Some of the men were in there hoping to talk you into phone sex or meet for sex.  There were men who were married and cheating in match.com.  If a man won't post his photo, there is a 99% chance that he is in a relationship or married.  

I was about to give up and just commit myself to a life of work and the single divorced  life. Into the final month of the membership, a man sent me a message that got my attention.  He lived in another state that I didn't consider extending my search to.    

He came to my town one weekend and took me out to dinner.  We have been together now for 4 1/2 years and married for 2 years.  I'm glad I stayed in match and didn't cancel.    

   

   

I am a hoster of a chat room, which is used for dating a lot. I am watching you woman all bash men online lying and using none up todate pictures... but this happens a lot with woman also. For example, a while ago Dr. Phil had a show on mothers with secerts, one was a woman who had an online affiar and her 16 year old busted her... Well this woman, was a owner on my hosting company, and the picture she used for 5 years was a 20 year old skinny blonde. It was quite the shock to see what she really looked like. If you are going to do online dating you need to be prepared that 90% of men and woman are lying all the time about many different things.. 

  

weight 

looks 

age 

children 

marriage 

job 

  

In my 8 years of hosting a chat room I have been invited to many marriages, of couples who met online, and now are raising familys together. If you do find the love of your life online, congrats!! 

  

I sort of met the love of my life online... We were set up on a date, but due to the fact that he is so shy, he didnt speak all night. Thank god I was smart enough to give him my msn username. The next day we chatted set up a second date, and a year 1/2 later we are still together actting like teenagers.  

Ladies (and gents) online dating is safe if you are smart about it. I met a number of losers and winners online. Granted some people were better off at the psych ward, but this is why you meet in public places during the day. I met my husband  online. Rather he met me, because he initiated the chase. From the first conversation online, to the phone we clicked. Still I knew it may all be a facade. Fortunately he is the love of my life. Had it not been for the internet I don't think I would have ever found him. He wasn't the type of guy that I would generally date. He turned out to be the perfect match for me. So don't be afraid to date online. Just do it RIGHT and SMART.