Topic : Overeating

 Be aware that you are using food as a stress reducing coping mechanism. It's not working is it? I know if your parents are going through a divorce they are probably focused on themselves and not you right now, but you need to let them both know how you feel. If possible, ask them if they will let you get some counseling for the stress you are feeling. The habits you are setting up now could cause a lifetime of eating and weight problems. Good luck to you and let us know how it goes.

I understand your pain, 

  

   As a girl I liked to eat when I was, sad, mad, upest....I would eat and eat and eat! I didn't realize that I was fat till after people started to call me mrs. Piggy. I was a grasser, and that is very dangerous, because you can stretch your stomach out and end up never being full!  

I started to drink water before I ate, I chewed real good and slow...stopping eating when I felt the least bit full, I also ate 5 or 6 times a day but they were small meals....I also ate a lot of apples to keep me satisfied! 

I went from a size 14 to a size 7 over the summer before 9th grade, and I felt great! 

My parents started their break up and divorce when I was 31, I felt like a child again, I couldn't eat for a while, then all of a sudden, it happened again, I was 13 again and eating so much! I would take the leftover food from my childrens plate when they were done eating, as I would start to do the dishes I would snack on the food. I found myself thinking back to when I was a child and everything I felt then I felt now.  

BUT then I found  Dr. Phil and I realized my problem, (also when my child asked me when I wasn't going to be fat anymore that helped too!) I started to the things I did back then and more, I looked at myself every day and told myself that I loved me, over and over..till finaly I believed it, and also I always thought in the back of my mind that it was my fault that they were geting a divorce. You see I have a ill child and my parents have helped me so much I thought I strained their relationship, but you know what? Nothing between a mom & a Dad is your fault. They are their own people and no matter what they say in anger it is between them and not you! 

Believe me girl they love you and probably are not thinking strait about a few things and probably have said things that they didn't even mean. 

So girl!!! Pull up those boot straps and take charge! Say to your self that you love you, say it over and over till you know it and not just think it! Go out and walk a lot, and while you are out there, start thinking to yourself about how important you are in this world, who knows you may be the next President or the next #1 Female artist in the world!  

e-mail me any time if you feel I can help! 

  

Love & Hope 

Erica 

  

  

Thank you for your messages, RITEHERE, plz can you let me know more about this hypno thing.  

You 2 are awesome and amazing, and you made me smile, 

I know that I can change my problems, I just needed some sort of motivation and now I have it. 

By the way, I only come on the internet on weekends.  

THANKS 

 I attended a hypnotherapy weight loss class. If you want to try this, find a reputable pratictioner. The person I had worked in conjuction with an oncologists office, helping cancer patients. You can also use Dr Phil's book. I just finished the 4th chapter, and in it you make personalized positive messages for yourself. In hypnotherapy you do the same things, but alot of the messages are generalized for a wider audience. And, with hypnotherapy I found that I relied on Dr Phil's books to guide me to understanding some of my insights anyway. So you might want to try that, but before you do anything, I would see about getting some help for coping with your parents' situation. When you learn better ways to cope with this type of stress, oftentimes the eating problems will resolve themselves.

Hey there,I'm a 20 year old girl,I am 1.65 and I weigh 67 kilo's 

Is that a normal weight for me?I'd also like to lose about 7 kilo's anyone has tips? 

  

Thnxxx 

Michelle 

 I'm at the end of week 2 on my LAST weight loss journey ever. I used to eat very badly, bingeing for all sorts of reasons, and diet pills never worked because all they did was to kill your appetite. Eating was about much more than hunger, although hunger DID enter in to it. I was eating foods that did not nourish me, so my body was always screaming for nourishment, which I would "feed" with more junk. It's a vicious cycle which leads to sugar addiction, bad health and obesity. When you begin eating healthy foods, and get over the physical attractions to sugar, you find that the physical cravings go away. True hunger feels different from hypoglycemia. But that's just the first step, in order to stay on a healthy diet, you have to tackle the mental reasons that you eat to excess.

I just finished chapter 4-  Right Thinking. It was a very good, eye-opening experience. I feel much more confidant about my ability to lose this weight once and for all. Btw I lost another 1 1/2 lbs this week, a total of 5 lbs since I started two weeks ago!

On to week 3 and chapter 5.

Yes, I eat for the taste also, I love things like donuts and pastry's. I know I have to stop But I'm on a sugar high i think. I have quit eating junk before buy switching to fruit but it takes me about 3 or more days of real bad cravings before I can go with out. Just keep trying and you should get there. And good for you (ritehere?). What a hard job it is to get it off. 5lbs that is great, keep on trucking.

 Yep, that sounds like sugar addiction. Hypoglycemia is that condition where you HAVE to eat something every 3 hours OR LESS, or you get shaky, nauseated, and a headache. Well, it hasn't been proven to be sugar related, but I've found that all of that goes away when you take sugar out of your diet. And it takes about 3-4 days to get over those cravings. And I've gone through the process more than once, so I don't think it's an isolated incident for me. True hunger takes a lot longer to manifest itself.
It's sad that a lot more diets don't address this at the beginning because I suspect that sugar addiction foils many diets before they even get started. So many people don't understand that those cravings are temperary. They can be very hard to combat if you don't understand what it is and that it doesn't go on forever.

5 down, 30 to go!

I am over 100#'s overweight.  I can't get started and I can't keep motivated.  I try to watch what I eat, I just don't get much exercise.  I joined Curves and it helped, but then I needed surgery on my stomach.  It didn't help with the women that worked there constantly telling me they didn't think I would make it.  It's been nearly 3 years and I need to start up again.  Besides the guilt and not being motivated, I just need to get in the car and go down the hill and get started again.  Why am I having such a problem.  I am very frustrated and I feel bad.  Gerri

Look Gerri, 

                   If all you need to do is get of your lazy butt, then Damn it woman do it!!  Your over your stomach surgery? that was 3yrs ago. If you liked it at curves get you A$$ back there! and show those woman that they are wrong ! Don't listen to them if you really want to do it then do it, Prove those women wrong, Give them what for. Leave that damn car parked where it's at and damn well walk. Just start walking and increase it 5minutes every day until you are walking a good 30 mins with  comfort, and then start picking up pace and as it gets easier for you add more time till you are walking 45minutes a day. Buy  yourself  a pedometer, i have one and i walk 10,000 steps a day i do it in 1hour and my goal is to do it in 45minutes before i increase my steps it's so much fun, gives you time to think and puts you in a really good mood, if i stop walking or exercising i get depressed. You suffer from depression so start exercising and stop making excuses. 

          I'll be waiting to here what you have to say! and I'm a real good butt kicker,lol.