I would love some advice about how to be a supportive spouse in my husband's weight loss or maybe weight gain. He has slowly, but steadily, been putting on weight since we were married 10 yrs ago. I worry b/c his family has a history of obesity along with many severely overweight health issues (diabetes, high blood pressure, blood clots, heart problems, etc.) He has tried very hard to help his own family with their weight problems (without much result) but he thinks that b/c he's not as overweight as they are, he's not in danger. I try to offer healthy food and don't buy junk food, but the minute he's out of the house and can have lunch with work buddies, or we go to dinner with friends, he picks the worse things on the menu. He has very little time to exercise but could make time if it were a priority so he doesn't get any exercise at all. I have tried being nice about it, I've also said some not so nice things b/c I get so frustrated with him. He tells me to be supportive, but when he doesn't try to lose the weight, I tend to get less supportive after a while. Then he won't tell me "how" to be suportive when I ask what i can do. I love him to death, but I'm becoming less attracted to him. I just see him to caring for himself. I welcome any advice that I can use to help him. BTW, he "wants" to lose the weight, he just doesn't want to give up eating healthier and doesn't want to exercise. Thx!
