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Created on : Friday, July 01, 2005, 12:37:25 pm
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Share your tips and strategies to stay motivated and on the path. You can do this!

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July 24, 2005, 12:54 pm CDT

Break it down into small goals

Hi!

 

I've lost 67.2 pounds with Weight Watchers and have just 4.6 more to go to get to goal.  One of the things that's helped me alot to stay on track is to break the larger goal down in to a series of smaller goals.

 

I started out at 207.8 pounds with a goal of 71.8 pounds to lose to get to 136.  Although I have always been aware of the total I needed to lose during my journey, I didn't focus on that.  I focusted on small things.

 

The first goal was to lose enough to be weigh in under 205.  I didn't care if is was 204.8 - it didn't matter how small the amount was to get under 205 - as long as it was under 205, I'd met my goal.  So, each weight-loss goal was small.  And alot of small goals add up.

 

The other goal I set for myself was to concentrate on changing my behavior so when I do get to goal, I'll be able to deal with not gaining the weight back.   I've been focusing on doing things that don't involve eating and on enjoying making healthy choices when I do eat.  And to be able to eat anything, including sweets (my former "downfall") in moderation.

 

I also had to realize that in the past, I didn't want to give up overeating - I got too much pleasure out of it.  So I had to be willing to give up the overeating; waht was the use of making the time and effort of losing that much weight if I really didn't want to give up the behavior that got me fat?

 

Jeanne

 
July 26, 2005, 11:48 pm CDT

Staying Motivated

Quote From: jmhawaii

Hi!

I've lost 67.2 pounds with Weight Watchers and have just 4.6 more to go to get to goal. One of the things that's helped me alot to stay on track is to break the larger goal down in to a series of smaller goals.

I started out at 207.8 pounds with a goal of 71.8 pounds to lose to get to 136. Although I have always been aware of the total I needed to lose during my journey, I didn't focus on that. I focusted on small things.

The first goal was to lose enough to be weigh in under 205. I didn't care if is was 204.8 - it didn't matter how small the amount was to get under 205 - as long as it was under 205, I'd met my goal. So, each weight-loss goal was small. And alot of small goals add up.

The other goal I set for myself was to concentrate on changing my behavior so when I do get to goal, I'll be able to deal with not gaining the weight back. I've been focusing on doing things that don't involve eating and on enjoying making healthy choices when I do eat. And to be able to eat anything, including sweets (my former "downfall") in moderation.

I also had to realize that in the past, I didn't want to give up overeating - I got too much pleasure out of it. So I had to be willing to give up the overeating; waht was the use of making the time and effort of losing that much weight if I really didn't want to give up the behavior that got me fat?

Jeanne

That is awesome! I am just starting out with trying to lose weight and have decided to keep an online journal of, well, my journey. I've been doing it for a little over a week, so far so good. But I'm not stupid - I do know there will be tough times ahead. Reading stories like yours is really inspiring to me and gives me the motivation I need. Do you know of any online support groups? Again, that is awesome that you are so close to your goal! I know I don't know you, but I know what it's like, and I'm proud of you and hope to one day be where you are at - satisfied. Thank you again for the inspiration.

 

-M

 
July 27, 2005, 8:59 am CDT

Im new to site, looking for encouragement

Quote From: jmhawaii

Hi!

I've lost 67.2 pounds with Weight Watchers and have just 4.6 more to go to get to goal. One of the things that's helped me alot to stay on track is to break the larger goal down in to a series of smaller goals.

I started out at 207.8 pounds with a goal of 71.8 pounds to lose to get to 136. Although I have always been aware of the total I needed to lose during my journey, I didn't focus on that. I focusted on small things.

The first goal was to lose enough to be weigh in under 205. I didn't care if is was 204.8 - it didn't matter how small the amount was to get under 205 - as long as it was under 205, I'd met my goal. So, each weight-loss goal was small. And alot of small goals add up.

The other goal I set for myself was to concentrate on changing my behavior so when I do get to goal, I'll be able to deal with not gaining the weight back. I've been focusing on doing things that don't involve eating and on enjoying making healthy choices when I do eat. And to be able to eat anything, including sweets (my former "downfall") in moderation.

I also had to realize that in the past, I didn't want to give up overeating - I got too much pleasure out of it. So I had to be willing to give up the overeating; waht was the use of making the time and effort of losing that much weight if I really didn't want to give up the behavior that got me fat?

Jeanne

 

Hi there,

 

I lost 41 lbs, (weight watchers without the meetings) gained back about 10, and was stabilized there. (137) I have been off work 14 months, and have had 5 surgeries- two of them on my foot. I have gained weight and now weigh in at 173. The best weight for me is 120-125. I am not quite 5'  2" losing 48-53 pounds at age 45 is scary, and I agree about the small goals.

 

I didn't do any exercise last time, and now I am so out of shape I am concerned about the ability to do my job. I am getting ready to go and walk a track near my house now that the heat has broken. I am thinking of trying Pilates and lifting free weights too. I have 6 weeks to get fit enough to work a 40 hour week in a factory,which I will have not done in 16 months!!!!!

ANY tips would be appriciated!!!!

                                                              Lisa

 
July 27, 2005, 9:03 am CDT

Staying Motivated

Hi everyone,

I am new to posting, and I posted this as a reply to someone, then realized I could get ideas from others if I just posted in general.

 

I lost 41 lbs, (weight watchers without the meetings) gained back about 10, and was stabilized there. (137) I have been off work 14 months, and have had 5 surgeries- two of them on my foot. I have gained weight and now weigh in at 173. The best weight for me is 120-125. I am not quite 5'  2" losing 48-53 pounds at age 45 is scary, and I agree about the small goals.

 

I didn't do any exercise last time, and now I am so out of shape I am concerned about the ability to do my job. I am getting ready to go and walk a track near my house now that the heat has broken. I am thinking of trying Pilates and lifting free weights too. I have 6 weeks to get fit enough to work a 40 hour week in a factory,which I will have not done in 16 months!!!!!

ANY tips would be appriciated!!!!

                                                              Lisa

 
July 31, 2005, 12:33 am CDT

WHERE ARE THE OTHER MESSAGE BOARDS ???????

Hi there has anyone ANY IDEA WHERE THE OVER 50'S BOARD IS ...OR IN FACT ANY OF THE OVER 40'S ETC ,EXCEPT FOR OVER 20'S THE OTHERS SEEM TO HAVE VANISHED ???????..have spent the last half an hour looking into ALL message boards ....have posted the moderator .....many times ......no reply !!!!!!! Any help[ would be much appreciated Susie xx

 
July 31, 2005, 11:12 am CDT

Staying Motivated

Quote From: stardelli

Hi there has anyone ANY IDEA WHERE THE OVER 50'S BOARD IS ...OR IN FACT ANY OF THE OVER 40'S ETC ,EXCEPT FOR OVER 20'S THE OTHERS SEEM TO HAVE VANISHED ???????..have spent the last half an hour looking into ALL message boards ....have posted the moderator .....many times ......no reply !!!!!!! Any help[ would be much appreciated Susie xx

 The boards that you are looking for can be found by clicking the MESSAGE BOARDS link at the top of this page, then  go down to WEIGHT and click the WEIGHT LOSS CHALLENGE DISCUSSIONS link.  If you scroll down to the bottom of the first page you will see that there are 2 pages of these boards and the ones that you are looking for are on the second page. 
 
August 3, 2005, 9:33 am CDT

You are on track

Quote From: lisakat60

Hi everyone,

I am new to posting, and I posted this as a reply to someone, then realized I could get ideas from others if I just posted in general.

 

I lost 41 lbs, (weight watchers without the meetings) gained back about 10, and was stabilized there. (137) I have been off work 14 months, and have had 5 surgeries- two of them on my foot. I have gained weight and now weigh in at 173. The best weight for me is 120-125. I am not quite 5'  2" losing 48-53 pounds at age 45 is scary, and I agree about the small goals.

 

I didn't do any exercise last time, and now I am so out of shape I am concerned about the ability to do my job. I am getting ready to go and walk a track near my house now that the heat has broken. I am thinking of trying Pilates and lifting free weights too. I have 6 weeks to get fit enough to work a 40 hour week in a factory,which I will have not done in 16 months!!!!!

ANY tips would be appriciated!!!!

                                                              Lisa

Hi Lisa, you are on track with starting with walking.  Because you had your feet operated on, I would suggest that if your doctor hasn't authorized you to get orthipetics for your feet, you should get them.  They helped me alot - I am flat footed.  I ran into really big problems last year when my calves locked up and I could barely walk for a couple of weeks.

 

  1. Get yourself a good pair of shoes. I like New Balance and got mine from SEARS when they were on sale for $49.99. 
  2. Do stretches after your walk - your muscles will get tight if you don't.
  3. Take it really slow.  Make a goal to do 1/2 the track for 1 week.  Then the whole track for week 2.
  4. You may have walk every other day.  It depends on your legs.

I highly recommend Pilates for every body!  It did wonders for me.  If you do free weights & pilates.  Do the free weights for the upper body as your lower body is being worked out with pilates.

 

If you can get help with a personal trainer at a gym, that would be the best advice to.  I know that the machines at the gym help you to build up your muscles better.

 

However, you can't do it all over night.  Acknowledge that when you go back to work you will still need to work on exercise.  You might find water aerobics or another type of class beneficial as well.

 

Take it really slow so that you can allow yourself an opportunity to adapt to an exercise program or otherwise, you will stop.

 

Also know that it's easier getting started than maintaining.  I walk my dogs every other day and they know it!  I don't walk for myself - I walk for them!  I'm an excellent caretaker so I use my sense of caretaking to make me exercise.  Hey, I do whatever works for me!

 
August 3, 2005, 9:39 am CDT

Trying to get out of the Blahs....

I've finally figured out what I need to do get back on track.  I got it all planned out but I just can't seem to take the next step.  It's like, I'm frozen in time.  I know what I need to do and just refuse to think or do it.

 

I know that I've been tackling this since 11/18/03 when I committed to the WLC.  I took time off to do Self Matters and then spent a lot of time mastering Key 4, Step 2 to where I could finally just read the book without some stupid life event throwing me off.  I can stop my binges & urges, I just don't want to focus anymore.

 

Did any one else have this problem?  I'm thinking that it's just FEAR of finally tackling my weight which is the last of my "TO BE FIXED" to do.  I have lived as a depressive for more than 40 years.  I've beaten myself up and kept myself living a victimize life style during all that time. 

 

I know that once I begin, I won't be depressed anymore because I'll be too busy living the life style. It's just that this is my biggest UNKNOWN I've faced to date.

 

Has anyone else been here?  At this place that I am in?  I know that it's common because I'm a member of a WLC support group and all the members are just like me.  Have lived with the HAVE TO LOSE WEIGHT, HAVE TO ... to do list for so long that it's become just a life style and letting go of it is just so scary.

 

Need someone to talk to about this.

 
August 4, 2005, 8:27 am CDT

Marcia

Quote From: marcia52

I've finally figured out what I need to do get back on track.  I got it all planned out but I just can't seem to take the next step.  It's like, I'm frozen in time.  I know what I need to do and just refuse to think or do it.

 

I know that I've been tackling this since 11/18/03 when I committed to the WLC.  I took time off to do Self Matters and then spent a lot of time mastering Key 4, Step 2 to where I could finally just read the book without some stupid life event throwing me off.  I can stop my binges & urges, I just don't want to focus anymore.

 

Did any one else have this problem?  I'm thinking that it's just FEAR of finally tackling my weight which is the last of my "TO BE FIXED" to do.  I have lived as a depressive for more than 40 years.  I've beaten myself up and kept myself living a victimize life style during all that time. 

 

I know that once I begin, I won't be depressed anymore because I'll be too busy living the life style. It's just that this is my biggest UNKNOWN I've faced to date.

 

Has anyone else been here?  At this place that I am in?  I know that it's common because I'm a member of a WLC support group and all the members are just like me.  Have lived with the HAVE TO LOSE WEIGHT, HAVE TO ... to do list for so long that it's become just a life style and letting go of it is just so scary.

 

Need someone to talk to about this.

 I had tried all kinds of diets, all kinds of exercise routines for many years. I knew which ones worked for me and would enable me to lose the weight I wanted and needed to lose. I just couldn't stick to them long enough, the old willpower mentality. Then I found a weight loss hypnotherapy class and signed up for it. Through hypnosis I "revisited" what exercise was like as a child-PLAYING. Since the first session 2 1/2 years ago, I exercise regularly, and it's fun. I know not everyone can afford to do this, or even believes that it can work for them, but it definitely worked for me. It immediately gave me new inner dialogue to replace the tapes I had been using when I would snack or binge, and it put me in touch with my true inner voice. After the sessions, I tackled SELF MATTERS to help me understand where all my faulty thinking came from and how to get past it. But for the immediate jolt to get up and get moving, I can't say enough about hypnosis.
 
August 4, 2005, 12:23 pm CDT

Thanks..

Quote From: ritehere

 I had tried all kinds of diets, all kinds of exercise routines for many years. I knew which ones worked for me and would enable me to lose the weight I wanted and needed to lose. I just couldn't stick to them long enough, the old willpower mentality. Then I found a weight loss hypnotherapy class and signed up for it. Through hypnosis I "revisited" what exercise was like as a child-PLAYING. Since the first session 2 1/2 years ago, I exercise regularly, and it's fun. I know not everyone can afford to do this, or even believes that it can work for them, but it definitely worked for me. It immediately gave me new inner dialogue to replace the tapes I had been using when I would snack or binge, and it put me in touch with my true inner voice. After the sessions, I tackled SELF MATTERS to help me understand where all my faulty thinking came from and how to get past it. But for the immediate jolt to get up and get moving, I can't say enough about hypnosis.

I actually don't need hypnosis. I'm a visualist and if I can see it in my mind, I have done it.  Doing even a mediation works well with me.  I used Dr. Lawlis' cd's on weight loss and it really helped me thru some hard times.  But I need to break out of this BLAH feeling. Ever other day, I walk my dogs, go to the gym on 1 non-walking day, and do yardwork when the weather is okay.

 

Exercise is a great blah release. I guess I'm using the wrong word.  It's like I know that I have to stop sitting on the couch but moving is just something I'm not used to.  If I could afford to go to a professional therapist, I would go gladly. 

 

I was just wondering if anyone else had felt this way and had made it thru it.  I go thru it periodically - I've done so many different things to pull myself out.  I was just wondering if there was an easier way to do it.

 

M

 
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