Topic : What's Your Payoff for Being Overweight?

I'll chat with ya.  And give you my advice, and let you know where I'm at, and so on, and so on  if you'd like it. 

  

I need to lose, after I have this baby,  ahem, 60lbs.  I went from 125lbs, to 185lbs.  Now, I've had some complications to complicate my weight gain, but it distresses me just as much as if I did it all on my own.  Being with my fiance's family didn't help either, they don't exactly eat chicken and fish as part of their diet, and I hadn't seen any veggies there, well, potatoes, but I don't consider that to be a vegetable, that's a starch.  We lived with them for a while about 4 - 5 months until we could find a place of our own, we moved from one town to another while he found a new job, and I got sick and had to stay home, with nothing but chips and crap to snack on.  I'm not impressed with myself or them.  But hey, it's their lives and I can fix the damage that had been done during that time. 

  

Now, I am going to be giving birth in about 5-7 weeks.  But I want to jump start my health again and start working out again, of course I'm only allowed to walk at minimum heart rate for 20 minutes a day, but hey, it's something, it's the act itself for me right now.  Not the weight loss. 

  

Anyway, send a reply because I would like to know if you're into this full time or not.  I've had people jump on with me in the past to get in shape, but when I showed more dedication than them, they quit, and I lost my support.  That really ticked me off.  I tend to go hard core when I train and diet, I've been doing fitness for about 2 years now, I've learned a lot and researched a lot as well.   

So, if you'd like, I'm here to train and let you know how I'm doing and give advice as well, as well as congratulate you when you succeed, send pictures of progress and everything. 

Support buddy all the way! 

You sound like exactly what I need!  Our stories are very similar, because I went from 130 to 185 in the last year and a half...since I had a baby and became a stay-at-home Mom.  Most of the weight was from the pregnancy, but I've watched it slowly climb since the summer.   I think I'm having some sort of nervous-breakdown (ha haa) about being as big as I am.   I'm planning on getting pregnant later this year and all I can think is that I'll be over 200 pounds...and that really terrifies me.  Email me at trisninity@yahoo.com anytime.  I look forward to hearing from you!  And THANK YOU.

  i dont know what my payoff is for being overweight, but I would like to find out. I developed an eating disorder at the age of 13 and have struggled ever since. I lost alot of weight taking diet pills at between the age of 16 and 35. I managed to stay slim  most of my adult life, but it was up and down. Today I weight 230 lbs (bigger then I have ever been) and I cant seem to get motivated. I was watching the show this morning and I could definitely relate to the girl who could not follow through with change. I am divorced and I feel that at the age of 42 my life is over and this is the way that I will be until I die. Dr Phil gave me some hope this morning, I have to change my lifestyle. I get off track when I start thinking about how far I have to go to get to my goal weight and I start thinking  " why even try?"  I started drinking water day before yesterday and I have been eating salads and grilled chicken. My biggest addiction is sunflower seeds , that will be one of my biggest obstacles. I want to be healthy and happy. I am in therapy to change the way I feel on the inside, I want my outside to match too.

 your only 42 life begins at 40 which I'll be turning this year. I heard that 40's is the new 30's. 

try taking one step at a time you said your 230lbs, what is your goal to lose mine is 30lbs but I'm doing it at 4.4lbs a month that's my goal that's 1.1lb a week and I'm taking one day at a time.Sunflower seeds are they not healthy? keep drink your water very important. I'm doing Dr Phil's book as well and not sure as yet what my pay off is yet either, but I'm sure I'll work it out. Got to keep doing UNTIL we get it. 

Have a great day. 

Hello everyone....im a 17 year old female and i have been stuggling with my weight for sometime now 

and i cant stand it ne more...i currently weigh in at 209lbs and i stand ground at 5"11-6 feet tall 

Now ppl tel me that im a good size for my height and im not...and i know that because i dont feel good about myself...my self esteem is so low and i need help....i recently took off about 30lbs but it all came back...and im graduating this year and i want to be at my goal by then....165lbs....so  if u have ne tips or advice u can pass along to me that would be great....its just so hard because im a teenager and image is so "Big" right now and i dont know what to do ne more 

Thank you very much 

  

 Hi, i am a mom of two and I don't think I have ever been my ideal or target weight since I was probly 12 and not even then..  I'm only 25 and I feel so out of control   It doesn't seem to matter how hard I have tried to lose the weight I just can't seem to lose it .. I excerise , I try to eat healthy we have cut just about all fat out of our diets.  Being the size I am makes me feel sick. I can't find clothes to fit right. I have a big event coming up for my husband's fire department and I have nothing to wear because I can't afford to go spend $100 or more for clothes to fit  me I hate being the size I am. I just feel so lost  and I really need support and some help cause it feel like no one understands me or how I feel .. my email is emajsmom@yahoo.ca 

 

Crystal 

I know how you feel I have two children I was overweight when I had my daughter but lost weight while pregnant with her cause of problems she's healthy thought . I gained alot with my son  I was pregnant and under alot of stress having just lost my father  and takin care of my father in law who was terminal and deid shortly after son was born.  I went from being 200 with my daughter to just short of 300 since late 2003 early 2004.. I just don't know what to do either nothing I have tried has worked  maybe we can find something together..  Best of luck

I'm working with Kristen33 to get weight gone and a healthy life back.  Send your e-mail and we'll chat.  It's good to have a wide range of support, hopefully you find it here and wherever else you need it!!

I had to think about this for awhile, now I feel the need to put it into writing so maybe I can heal it.  I was a normal healthy little girl up to the age of 9, I have been over weight most of my life since then. At the age of 9 I watched my 15 year old brother die, and there was nothing that I could do about it. I tried to get to him in the water, but I couldn't. I have blamed myself for his death every since then, and I am 31 now. I then got to watch my family fall apart, my mom turned to alcohol, my dad turned to drugs, and I turned to food. My parents have since beat there inner demons, but I have not. Food is always there for me, it does not judge me, it will never leave me. How messed up is that. I hold my kids and my husband at a distance. I love them yes, but I fear loving them too much. But food, that has always been my one true love. Maybe thats why I fear giving it up. So I guess my pay off is safety, I can give it up for awhile but I soon talk my self right back into the loving embrace of it. So how do you give up a friend that has always been there? I know I need to, it is an unhealthy relationship. Well I guess I have more to work on than I thought I did before I read the topic. Its out there now, and I cannot ignore it any longer.

I can't pick just one pay off for me. I became overweight at the age of 7. For a long time I couldn't pin point the exact moment when I started to over eat until I say a picture of myself at myself 7th birthday and a picture of myself just a few months later. It was not a healthy weight gain, even for a growing kid. At that time I was in a Catholic school, but I wasn't Catholic. I felt very left out because we went to Church every week and I didn't know what was going on. It was hard for me to make friends at that school and I turned to food for comfort. Ever since then food has softened every tough moment for me. I come from a family where everyone is thin and so from the beginning I was pressured to loose weight. I was very resentful of that because I felt like there was something wrong with me, and I was not as worthy as the rest of my family because I was overweight. I guess I have used my weight as a shield. A challenge to everyone around me to love me inspite of it. I guess I still to this day use my weight to insure that the people around me love me for who I am not for how I look.