Topic : What's Your Payoff for Being Overweight?

Why are you so set against people trying to get healthy? If you are so sure that there is no way you can lose weight and that other people should not even try and should have the negative attitude that you do then why read the weight loss message boards at all? I am sure that you have heard the expression: If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all. People come on here and post to make themselves feel good, the same reason we are trying to lose weight and be healthy. You should not take it upon yourself to try and depress everyone else just because you are. If you honestly do all the working out and eating right and don't lose weight, or worse, gain; then you need to see a doctor and find out what is wrong with your body. And I am sorry but I am a lot more inclined to believe 100's of doctors and nutritionists when they say that fat is not inherited then saying that I should not even try to be healthy because my parents were overweight, that is just an excuse. Sorry if I seem a little peeved, I just hate when someone tries to bring everyone down to their level of unhappiness, depression, and excuses.  

Hey all:  What is my payoff for being overweight?  That is something I am going to have to put a great deal of thought into.  Anyone got any answers to the question?  I know that I love food.  I know that it tastes good.  I know that it is all about instant gratification.  I don't think long term. Then comes the question what is my pay off of instant gratification?  I feel that it is the only thing in my life that I have any kind of control over.  I am the only one who can make me eat.  I am the only one who can put that food into my mouth and swallow it.  Then comes the question what is my pay off for having contol over my life.  Isn't life merely a roll of the dice.  We truly have no control over our own lives and what will be will be.  The guy upstairs already has everything planned out for us and whether we are big or small, short of tall etc.....hasn't that already been determined?  I love Dr. Phil's quotes....."How's that workin' for ya" and "what's the payoff" .  Right now it isn't working at all and my pay off is a whole lot of grief.  I need to find a much better pay off that works for me. 

Thanks for listening.  DEB 

Hi Brenda, 

Try power walking with a walkman.  Walking is free. Set a walking goal for yourself every day.  Tell yourself, "No Excuses." No matter what the weather is like or what you feel like, just walk. Fit it into your schedule no matter what.  As Dr. Phil would say, "Behave your way to success!" 

Good luck and let us know your progress. 

Lor 

I am no longer overweight.  I am considered to be clinically thin, even though I am about 7 pounds from goal weight.  I have lost 130 pounds and have seen numerous changes in my physical, mental and emotional bodies. 

Personally, the major payoff for me being overweight in the first place and then for staying that way for so long was my need to have a wall between me and other people and to have an excuse to be alone and lonely.  I look back now and see that I was mostly motivated by fear.  Fear of success, fear of relationships, fear of failure, fear of happiness, fear of sadness ... 

I tackled my bad eating and exercising habits a little bit at a time and I tackled the fear a little bit at a time.  I am desperately afraid sometimes, still, but now I don't hide behind food.   

Go slow, start slow, be easy on yourself. 

You can do it! 

not taking responsibility for the weight that is on YOUR bosy is a cop out!  Placing blame on others (runs in family etc.) is just trying to find an excuse for the weight...you know what though let's just say it isn't your fault if you are overweight but whose fault is it if you don't do anything about it?  Some people (myself included) eat when they aren't happy so yes I must dos omething about it... 

I do agree with your statement " I say if you are overweight and not  happy then you do whatever you have to do to be happy." which is what I am trying to.  I started UWC 8/1 and I have lost a total of 15 pounds and I am very happy to be doing this program.  i do not feel deprived or hungry like other diets I have been on.  My family and I are eating healthier... 

Can I ask if you have "just excepted myself like I am.  I am happy and thats all that matters" then why do you keep coming on here where others are trying to deal with their weight and change their lives and putting others down?  I think you misunderstood thsi board -- people on here are trying to find the reason they are overweight and to do so need to do soulsearching which may mean blaming themselves if that is the reason.  If it isn't your reason then that is great for you but let others figure out what is right for them and "do whatever they have to do to be happy."  

and I kept telling myself you only live for a short while so I am going enjoy my life while I am here -- but then I realized that if I keep going with my weight that I won't be enjoying life because I am more prone to illnesses and diseases when eating unhealthy.  (as good as it tastes) 

So now I tell myself "No unhealthy food tastes as good as thin feels!"  

And you know what else?  I have found many healthy foods that taste too...I have changes my family's eating habits so all of us feel healthier and those of us that need to are losing weight too!