Topic : Pre-school

 We have found him a new pre school and pulling him out.  This is a huge sacrifice for us too because of the $$ but we will find a way. Tomorrow I will be at his school all day and have a thanksgiving feast. I will be seeing everyone and we will be saying good bye. I plan to remain in a good composure.  The new school told me they won't allow that sort of  behavioir. It is a simplier facility but it is still a nice one.

 simple is a good thing. Out of the five child cares that I have worked in over the years, the ones who had less, less kids, the smallest centers and all were the best. Kids don't care what a center has or how big it is, they want to have fun, I am sure your sone will be ok with simple :) Good luck. My daughter has her kindergarten Thanksgiving feast on Monday, she is excited as she gets to be on stage performing,LOL. She loves to sing, especially when it is in front of people,LOL

My 4 yr old son has began a violent streak towards my 16 month old daughter and I'm very worried.  I noticed he was becoming jealous when she started walking ( she was a late walker, 14mos).

 

when she was born I made him "the best baby helper in the world" so he wouldn't feel left out; he would sit next to her, hold her bottle, talk to her, pet her head, etc.  He litterally was 'the best baby helper in the world'.  The past few weeks he has not wanted to do anything with her; he doesn't want her near him, he pushes her away and has started hitting her.

 

I'm really troubled by this.  He hit her in the face, today, and I took away his title.  I keep thinking that he is going to seriously hurt her.

 

We have three children, a 5 yo who attends kindergarten and has a very calm temperment;  our 4 yo who's very hyper, athletic, "all boy"; and our 16 mos old daughter.

 

Can someone advise me if I should seek counselling or adjust my discipline tactics?

My daughter who is 2(she will be 3 in July), has a terrible temper.  Her tantrums are out of control.  I have two boys and they never got this bad. She doesn't listen and I don't know what to do.  I have tried everything that I know to do.

When she doesn't get her way, if she can't hurt you, she will pull out her hair, bite herself till she almost bleeds, pinch herself, etc.   Does anyone have any advice.

I am a home day care teacher.I might be able to help.I need to know in what situation does she react the most?,may be try to observe those.Are you a stay at home mom or do you work?My first advice would be don't give in and don't give up.If her demands are unreasonable do not give in.When she throws a tantrum try to completely ignore her.If she bites herself or pulls her hair let her be.It might be hard to watch her hurt herself but If she sees she is not getting your immediate attention like she wants it she might stop that behavior.She will understand that she must get your attention in a positive way.This is the message you have to convay,However,If she continues to hurt herself than you might want to consult a behavior expert like a child psychologist .You might try verbalising to your daugter that hurting herself is not the way to get what she wants.keep me posted.

First of all i tis normal for kids this age to throw tantrums, I do beleive in ignoring them and then after she is done throwing her fit, sit her down and talk to her aboout her behavior, that it is not acceptable.

Ont he other hand if she is hurting self, I personally do not beleive that is a good thing, I would advise you to talk to her doctor if need to. I am not one who blames disorders on everything in life, but there are disorders centered around harming one slef and yes, tehy can be developed at an early age. There is a hair pulling disorder called trichotillomania and it can stem from a mental issue down to stress, whatever, My oldest went throughthis and she was only three years old, it came down to stress for her as I was babysitting two siblings who were VERY high maintence, their home life was bad and they had no good manners, demanded so much, my attention pretty well was focused on them and it was not good, she was also upset over hte ice strom that we had in Ohio that year, everything was so out of whack, her daddy was gone all kinds of hours helping people and it was hristmas time and we had to have Christmas at some one elses home, all our plans went out the window and she had a hard time with this, she was never diagonosed with the disorder but we watched her like a hawk and we used "POSITIVE" reinforcement, she no longer does this as we figured out the solution, we started talking to her a head of time about changes in plans and if the unexpected does happen, we are prepared to discuss the situation, needless to say, I stopped watching those two kids, and things started to get back to normal.

I think as parents we need to be aware of what is going on with our kids, and documenting helps as well, I started recording everything that I saw and I even asked her questions like, "How does it make you feel when you pull out your hair?" whatever,Little ones are smarter then we give them credit for, it doesn't hurt to document and ask her questions and to approach the dictor and if this is ll just a way to get her own way, then stick to your guns and hang in tehre, it will get better.

my son is 4. he has been in preschool since he was 10 months old, full time from 7:30 - 4:30 so its a long day but i have to work. the behavior problems started with, biting, then hitting, then pushing, and now on top of all of that mouthing off pretty bad and verbal threats to teachers and other kids. i limit what he watches down to playhouse disney ONLY. but when hed go somewhere hed see other shows without me finding out till hes already seen it. hes threatend to go home get a gun come back and shoot the teacher. he has no toy guns, swords, or any  other toy weapons allowed  at all nor do we keep any weapons in the house. hes very aggressive/ violent in school. he is very smart and he knows what hes done wrong, what he is supposed to do, and he will tell you why he does something. ive turned to his pediactricion who hasnt helped at all, he says hes too young,  and no school hes been to knows what to do with him. oh and hes been in now his fourth school in almost two years do to violent behavior. i dont know what to do, and nothing works and i dont want hi on medicine. help!!!~~~erin~~~

I have a 4 year old who while is too young for pre k here.  (She has to be 4 on or before the 15th of September, and her birthday isn't until the 19th.)  So I have been working with her consistently, we have our "school time" during the day.  At almost 4 1/2 she knows all of her colors, shapes, and numbers.  She can also write her first and middle names, and this week we have started on her last name.  She is super smart, and I am really proud of her. :)  My biggest thing now is she will be able to start pre k this year.  But from my first daughter's experience in pre k (who is now 8) she really didn't learn much in pre k.  Basically how to be around other children and that was about it.  My 4 year old gets bored easily and you have to keep things interesting for her.  I do not want her to regress from what she has learned.  My 8 year old didn't learn how to write her name, inspite of me trying to teach her, until she was in kindergarten.  My 4 year old is already on a kindergarten level, being that she can write her abc's and numbers.  Plus she is also learning addition.  I would say to put her pre k because of the other kid interaction, but there are 5 children including her in our home, ages 16, 10, 8, and 2.  I just really do not see the point of pre k for her at this time.

Unfortunately, your pediatrician dropped the ball when, after apparently ruling out any major physical problems, did not suggest a psychological evaluation. Yes, they can be done on the pre-school set; my now 11-y/o daughter was evaluated at age 4 1/2 (coincidentally, she was in FT day care from 10 mo.). See whether even the preschool can recommend someone; this will also tell them that you are serious about addressing the problem. I can empathize with not wanting him on meds for the sake of being "on meds," but If, after a thorough assessment, meds are required, so be it. You can't continue like this much longer, what will you do when he starts kindergarten??