Topic : Pre-school

 I really want my son to start Pre-school this year.. however that didn't happen (very mad about that) He's delayed in some of the speach and talking more, potting training.. still not going that well :( I am at a complete loss here I need him to start Pre-school 2007. my husband does not help out at all...... if my son gets him mad or irratates him... he will call him names or just leave the room. his way of ignoring....... with me.. my son puts on the whole DOG ACT.. I'm really hating that a lot... a simple task will turn out to be a horrible tantrum, or crying session...... HELP

Hello, I have been working in a Daycare preschool for 2 years and a teacher's aid for 1. Okay first if you son does have a speech problem there are preschools that he can go to . I worked for a Bright Features!! I loved it there!! It had 6 classrooms all preschool, but we had special needs kids in the classroom!! They offer speech,  and other great things. We also did the potty training thing also. Once your son sees his friends going he will want to be in big boy underwear. But you could also try putting him in the underwear, and keep going at it. It does get messy but I had one of my parents do that while we were on spring break and he was potty trained!!  Because after couple of times your son feels it and feels it he will not like it at all. But you can tell if you child is ready or not!! Have you tried a local daycare? Go check out a local daycare and look at the preschools!! Some do have a rule they have to be potty trained some dont. But then he can make friends and start learing at the sametime!! Please tell your husband to try not to call him names, to will hurt him in the long run!!  The whole dog act I see all the time at school. What works best for me is. If your son starts to do the dog thing, bend down eye level and tell him if he does not stop crying or whatever he is going to do. Then he is going to have to go set on a set or somewhere away form what he was doing. If he tries to talk to you while crying or yelling. Tell him you are not going to talk to him until he is done crying or yelling. And he will need to wipe off the tears. If he keeps getting off the stairs or pillow where you put him, keep putting him back where you put him until he gives up and does what he was asked. After he does what he was asked then tell him he did a great job acting like a big boy.  Im going threw this with one of my little girls in my classroom. She doesnt what to listen, but after a couple of mins she sees her friends playing or doing project. And she does what she is asked. But sometimes she doesnt do what she is asked and I wait until she is ready to do it. If you let him  keep getting away with it, he knows that he can get away with it. It will get alot worse later!! I hope this makes sense if not email me!!

Hope it works, it will take a couple of times for him to realize that the dog act is not going to work!!

  My four year old is Autistic. He was diagnosed when he was two. When he was three he was elligble for special pre-school education. It has been two years now and it was the best thing we could have ever done for him. Before he started school, he was very detached from us and other family members. He din't even interact with his brother. Since school, his eye contact is better, he participates more(with ques of course) in activities and is more verbal, whereas two years ago he didn't talk at all. The verbal is sometimes eccolalia, sometimes it's a two-word to three word sentence in context. He has speech therapy four days a week at this school and there are four assistants to the teacher. Little by little I see my boys personality and I am very hopeful. I know he has a life-long dissibility, but he is very special and unique and will most likely keep suprising us. Is there anyone else reading these boards that has an Autistic child that wouldn't mind sharing their stories? I wouldn't mind reading about the bad days too, because we have plenty of those. Those are the times I am frustrated and "out of breath "as I like to say.

My little angle's name is Derek

hi all, i really need some advice on how to get my 3 yr old to stop biting other children at preschool and other family members at home. His teacher says he is very bright for his age. he is just now starting to use the potty.  (  I'M SO PROUD OF HIM)  he goes 5 days a week from 8:00 to12:00. I am a stay at home mom, and a full time student, his dad and I do live together. our son tries to be the boss. i say use other forms of discipline, dad says spank.... we do disagree on spanking, i spank once in a great while. our child is very capable of understanding the consequences, but doesn't care. we take his television viewing away, yank all his toys he doesn't care. I know he can comprehend because. he knows the alphabet. can count to 30, shapes, colors etc.. why does he act so defiant? PLEASE, ANY ADVICE ON HOW TO GET A CHILD TO STOP HITTING & BITING

 

THANKS ! GOD BLESS YOU ALL

okay i don't know you or your ex wife. i do know that Indiana is a 90/10 battle custody cases, it is very hard for a man to get custody of his kids in this state. its very sad when little ones are taken away from either parent, most of all the kids suffer the most. just because two adults cannot reside in the same town or house. doesn't mean the kids want to see either parent any less. your son,( not sure what age) probably under 5 wants to be with mommy ( forever). let him see her more try to talking to the ex and have her move closer. so she can be the daycare provider. no it would be that she would be spending time with yours and her son, the one you BOTH created. i don't know your side or hers. i do know that the children end up suffering the most. my boyfriend and i had separated for a while when our son was 1 1/2 he is 3 now, we ended up getting back together, and yes i got primary custody, he lived with me. his dad did live an hr or so away, he got him every other weekend and on Mon nights. i did not want to be with his daddy, but my son sure did, just remember its not your sons fault you aren't with mommy.

He is only 4. He goes to a pre school who has allowed a little boy to stay in class who I observed in class 2 weeks ago to be very out of control.  My son was in class with this child last year but he was removed and I had no idea where he went. I came to understand he was taken out of class and put with a teacher who was more strict but they said it did not do any good. All this year I have heard how this child has done this and that and I just could not believe it coming from my son. Well I went and observed and was very disturbed what I found. I found a child who could not sit still for one minute. He was jiggling in his seat and the minute a teacher walked away from him, he started to get violent. I saw him get in children's faces in line and not let up on the eye stare, I saw him pin my own son to the ground while my son was seated in on the ground with tons of kids around. He had been put on a chair and the minute to teacher left, he scooted off the chair and scooted on the floor past 20 kiddos and then turned around and tackled my son to the ground. He was on him so fast and I knew what he was going to do. I did not get to my son in time, but in time to pull him off of him before he did anything else. He was smiling the whole time when he did it. In the class room he had continued to  push and shove and fight for toys but the last thing completely has shocked me, I witnessed this child running through the class room and on the corner was a little girl cutting out a project at a table. He ran by and put both of his hands forward  put them around a ltitle girls neck and he started to choke her.    I had been told before him pinning my son to the ground and him attempted choking of the little girl( with scissors mind you) that he was just doing little boy rambuncious behavoir. They though now know  what I saw was correct and I am shocked they have allowed this child to remain.  They said that he must have eaten a donut but I don't believe so. I believe that he needs to be evaluated. I feel there is a disservice to the children in class because he is constantly disrupting it and a disservice to the parents because they need to given the facts to get their child help.  I told the teachers this and they agreed but it seemed it was out of their hands due to the policies of the school. They are a ministry and they want to help all the kids and work with a child but at this point, I feel my son is being put at risk.  The director told my husband that my son needs to hold his own. When I went, my son stood his ground and told him to get out of his face but was completely blind sided when he was pinned to the ground, so was the little girl.   I do not understand why they continue to have him in. I and another mother are in the process of trying to get together and do something. Please please pray that something will be done. We love the program but not the tolerence. Plus understand too, I almost cried when I sat there and looked at this smiling child and knew what could potentially be wrong and he was not getting the help he needs and deserves. I have though no idea where to go from there and hope that I can find a place to put him to get kindergarten readiness as well as a safe place with a different policy towards bad behavior.   Please please, any advice would be helpful. I don't know what else is out there and if moving him, if we would encounter the same things at another facility.  

just a note that I wrote this out prior and sent it to my church family. If you don't pray, that is ok. I just didn't want to keep writing it over and over again. It gets me feeling very upset everytime I have to rehash it.

The first thing you need to do is go to family and jobs services or whoever it is that is over the daycare sytrem (human services/), report the problems, they are obligated to check things out when there are complaints, go to the school board, whatever the case, do not give up until some one lsitens to you and I know that Iw ould not tolerate this as a parent, if the teachers/staff are not going to do something about this and allows it to continue, they need to be reported. By profession, I am a preschool teacher, have taught preschool and worked in five child care centers through out the years and you bet, we disenrolled children like this, of course we talked with parnets and did everything possible to help out but when it interferes with other kids being ina safe and fun environment, action must be taken. I have also seen the reverse where kids were disenrolled when really all they needed was redirection and more of a challenge, the schools, childcare centers, preschools are responsible for the well being of the kids and by reading your post, this is not happening and you need to step up as a parent and do what you need to do for the saety of your children.

 

Well, you are certainly very upset and with good reason.  However, if you feel your son is at risk then you should move him somewhere else.  Next,  did you not research the current facility and know they had such an "open" policy on these type of things?  My son's preschool has the same type of open policies, however, it is part of a public school district and there are rules.  You had mentioned that this was a ministry type organization and from what I understand they can do what they feel is OK.  They have no school district board to answer to.  Also, I was a little shocked with your comments about what the other boy's parents/school should and shouldn't be doing.  This boy, rowdy or not, has an inalienable right to be at their school.  If they allow it, then YOU need to make a choice for another school.  It sounds like they are pretty set in their ways and their ways do not work for you.   Also, maybe this boy and your child just don't get along.  True, the school should help facilitate some more peaceful soltuions, but again, it is their call.  The fact that the director has stated your son "need to hold his own" pretty much sums up their position.  No, I do not agree and condone what is going on but I know I have other choices for my son.  I would suggest (although the wait lists may be long) looking into elementary schools where part of the campus is strictly for preschool.  This way they are forced to adhere to set policies as put forth by the district.  And, the good thing is they will tailor your child to his future in that district where he will attend.   So, once he starts Kindergarten they will already know him, his personality and his abilities as well.  Our program in our state (California) is awesome!  With a part-time and full-time program and 10% fees for additional children in the program.  Good luck! 

I agree thatyou may need to find another preschool for your child, for if they do not see this as a problem then chances are they are not going to do anything about it and no way would I leave my child some where knowing that the chances of him gettting hurt are quite high. I pesonally would have already taken my child out for kids deserve to be hapy and safe his/her environment. But I still say, it wouldn't hurt to put some complaints in, Christian preschool or not, they still have rules to abide by, at least in Ohio they do, They have a certain criteria that they have to follow such as ratios, safety issues, staff qualifications.........................