I need some serious advice regarding an incident that happened to my 4 year old daughter yesterday -5/23. At around 4:30 pm I receive a call from my daughter's preschool. The Director from the school made that call to me and like any parent I was worried because I thought she got hurt or something serious had happened to her.
The Director asked when I was coming to pick her up and I stated, I am on my way to pick her up right now. She briefly told me that something had happened during naptime and she wanted to speak with me when I got there. She stated that it had something to do with sexual curiosity.
Alot of things were running through my mind but I was trying not to let it get to me till I got to the school. Luckily, the school was only minutes away and I got there safely but a little shaken about this. I walk into the director's office and there sits my daughter's teacher and her.
They mentioned to me that during naptime this boy had asked my daughter to lick or kiss his private area and they saw both of them lick each other. I was very shocked at this time. The Director of course told me that this was a normal thing and that kids are curious at this age. She handed me a flyer which stated "Sexual Exploration and Curiosity During the Preschool Years". She stated she was also calling in the parents of this boy. She would not give me any information on who this boy was but I feel that I have a right to know because this boy had violated my daughter and now I am furious because I feel that this is not a normal behavior for this little boy to request this from my daughter. The teacher felt that they did not want to shame the boy and talked to him about it privately. She told me that she told the boy that being curious about sexuality should be done in private or in the home. In the paperwork that I was handed by the school it did not say anything about kissing or licking private parts.
I am very appauled about how these kids learn sexuality at a very young age. I feel that they have a right to know about the birds and the bees but not this type of sexuality. To me, I feel that this child is not normal and I think his environment is not normal. This child is learning this from somewhere and all I could think of is from his home. People like me pay a pretty penny to put my children in these schools and I feel that these children have not been monitored properly.
I was told that the boy and my daughter were near each other during naptime and I was wondering why the children were not being monitored more carefully.
What I was thinking of doing was going back to the school and having them put my daughter in a different classroom away from that boy. In the meantime, I am thinking about pulling her out of that school and putting her into a different school. At this time, it may be difficult to find somewhere to put her so leaving her in the school would be my only option? What would you do?
I also was thinking of reporting this but don't exactly know who to report this to. As a mom, should I be freaked out about this incident or should I take this lightly? There should be no excuse for this boy's behavior. What do you think about all this? I am need of some answers.
Can anyone respond to this?
