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Created on : Friday, July 01, 2005, 01:17:37 pm
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Do you prefer an alternative to traditional schooling? Share tips, advice, support, and chat with others that homeschool their children.

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October 11, 2007, 6:52 pm CDT

Homeschooling

I have never been homeschool I would hate being homeschooled.
I never had many firends; and was teased mostly untill 11th grade.
In some way it makes you stringer and you look back and some of the bad things are now something you have a precent for bad things in the future
 
October 29, 2007, 7:49 pm CDT

love homeschool!

Quote From: jaimie1974

This question is for parents who home school their children-
1) What are your reasons for deciding to home school? Did you always know you would home school, or were there other circumstances?
2) How do you keep your children in the loop? with their friends?
3) Do your children have to fulfill a requirement for physical education? For example, in public school children have gym class. If they are home schooled, do they have to go to the YMCA or some other organized  physical activity? 

1. My kids have been in regular school their whole lives since kindergarten(they didn't go to pre-k) but they've always wanted to be homeschool everyday because they say school is a waste of time, the just sit there in class for seven hours.My kids never had a problem with school except the fact that they are very opinionated if you know what I mean,also my son doesn't do his work or pay attention in class. I waited till they were both in High school so my daughter was in 9th grade and my daughter was in 11th. I told my daughter to look for internet homeschools one day towards the end of summer and she found a great government funded program(totally free) that goes by state standards called Connections Academy. They've been enrolled for 2 months now and they love it. I don't have too worry if they understand everthing because they have awesome interactive instructional guides, plus the lessons are quick and easy.Plus it's mostly internet based (they send you whatever text books you need).

2.My kids made plenty of friends during public school so they visit each other and e-mail and call there friends whenever they want.

3.My kids have to do 20 minutes of physical activity everyday but they can't just take a walk so they usually ride their bikes or since we have a membership at a gym we usually go to a gym.

 

I love homeschool and so do they!!!!!!!!

 
November 22, 2007, 10:05 pm CST

Homeschooling

Quote From: pleseone

we started home scooling this year do to my son has traking and visong probles he is dislxea  

and the schools was not really doing any good we was getting a head then fall back so i thought what can it hrt we go from 1:30 to about 5;00 everday with sat sun day off, with a least a hR of home work when I am at work he has to do for me. 

 Do you all worry is they are getting all they need or learning all the right things or any of that.? 

Alot we do is reading  Sci is all hands on alote of phoincs do to it was like starting all over with the reading we have been doing HTS vision therapy 1888-810-3937 They have one for ADD and things in that line as well  as traking . look in to this If you all have not IT really does Work  I really helped my son   Do to alot is with there eyes and not really add and the things schools are so fast to pass things off as. 

  later scared and worred. 

  

  

I would like to say that I personally have no problem with homeschooling if it is done right.  I am personally an advocate for public schools.  I myself am a public high school teacher.  I have to, however, express some concern that you are homeschooling your children after I read the message you posted.  I would like to suggest that you try together with another homeschool teacher who also homeschools their children to attempt to give your child(ren) a better opportunity to learn basic English grammar, mechanics and syntax.    I cannot tell you how many homeschooled childrem I have gotten in my classes that have learned such improper English in homeschool.  These unfortunate students have a much harder time catching up to the rest of the class and sometimes never fully develop their English skills (as far as writing and, at times, spoken grammer is concerned)  I feel as if there is a reason that teachers are required to attain (at minimum) a bachelor's degree to teach in this country.  If your children had been in public school and you found out that there was a teacher who had never gone to college but that was allowed to teach 5 (sometimes 6) classes a day, you would be appalled.  Please consider giving your children a fair opportunity to learn in areas that you yourself are not proficient in.
 
December 8, 2007, 10:03 pm CST

Homeschooling opinion

Hello to all of you dedicated and loving parents who feel that homeschooling is the best thing or the right thing for your children!  I completely believe that you are all doing this out of love!...However, I truly feel that, even though they may be receiving disciplined and detailed educating by you, there is no possible way they are getting full life benefits.  There are so many life lessons and interaction from going to school than you could ever offer your children.  I'm so sorry to throw out the negative, but the reality is there.  I am not an educator or teacher but I do know of at least 2 situations I can share.

I lived across the street form a family that already had "disfunctional" family issues going on.  Once the one daughter seemed to have personal issues at school the mom switched her to another school district for high school.  This was a positive outcome!  Then, when the next daughter began having poor judgement issues and not doing well in school, the mother took her out of the public school at grade 9 (as she would have started high schhol) and made her stay home and do high school via computer - at home as she claimed was home schooling!!!   This daughter has not at all had any positive outcome.  She has had severe and emotionally painful issues occur!  Her mom assumed keeping her at home would "shield" her from the "outside world".  But it only made her rebel and make even worse choices in her young life.  Not to mention, her mom did not really support or oversee her as a daughter or in her "homeschooling". 

Next story...This family had 2 very young daughters and felt that from day one of school-age homeschooling was best.  They were kept home and schooled by mom.  By the time the girls were in 1st and 3rd grade their mom realized that they needed the life experience and interaction that school offers.  Also, she realized that they may be treated as different or not included in play, etc. even from neighborhood kids they knew.  Kids can be cruel even when they are not purposely doing so.  Also, there are so many extracurricular "things" - like after school skating parties, classmates' B-Day parties, Field trips unavailable to home-schooled children and many more things.  Your children ARE missing out in LIFE!  Also, how might they survive in the REAL WORLD once they get finished w/ your schooling???

Again, I want to praise you all for dedicatiing your time and loving your children w/the best you feel you know.  Let me end on that note!

 
December 21, 2007, 11:52 pm CST

Homeschooling

Quote From: juliekope

Hello to all of you dedicated and loving parents who feel that homeschooling is the best thing or the right thing for your children!  I completely believe that you are all doing this out of love!...However, I truly feel that, even though they may be receiving disciplined and detailed educating by you, there is no possible way they are getting full life benefits.  There are so many life lessons and interaction from going to school than you could ever offer your children.  I'm so sorry to throw out the negative, but the reality is there.  I am not an educator or teacher but I do know of at least 2 situations I can share.

I lived across the street form a family that already had "disfunctional" family issues going on.  Once the one daughter seemed to have personal issues at school the mom switched her to another school district for high school.  This was a positive outcome!  Then, when the next daughter began having poor judgement issues and not doing well in school, the mother took her out of the public school at grade 9 (as she would have started high schhol) and made her stay home and do high school via computer - at home as she claimed was home schooling!!!   This daughter has not at all had any positive outcome.  She has had severe and emotionally painful issues occur!  Her mom assumed keeping her at home would "shield" her from the "outside world".  But it only made her rebel and make even worse choices in her young life.  Not to mention, her mom did not really support or oversee her as a daughter or in her "homeschooling". 

Next story...This family had 2 very young daughters and felt that from day one of school-age homeschooling was best.  They were kept home and schooled by mom.  By the time the girls were in 1st and 3rd grade their mom realized that they needed the life experience and interaction that school offers.  Also, she realized that they may be treated as different or not included in play, etc. even from neighborhood kids they knew.  Kids can be cruel even when they are not purposely doing so.  Also, there are so many extracurricular "things" - like after school skating parties, classmates' B-Day parties, Field trips unavailable to home-schooled children and many more things.  Your children ARE missing out in LIFE!  Also, how might they survive in the REAL WORLD once they get finished w/ your schooling???

Again, I want to praise you all for dedicatiing your time and loving your children w/the best you feel you know.  Let me end on that note!

Homeschooling is a very personal decision, and is one that should not be taken lightly.  I shared your feelings for a long time, until my sister-in-law decided to homeschool all three of her children, staring in 1st grade.  I was concerned about the childrens' social well-being and opportunities for extracurricular activities.  Since she started doing this 7 years ago, I have been proven wrong over and over again.

 

It takes a very special parent to have the desire and will to dedicate their life to schooling their children.  It appears that the people you know of who failed were not cut out to do this in the first place.  There are endless opportunities for homeschooled children to participate in outside activities - the parents just need to be motivated enough to search them out.  My neices and nephew are all extremely involved in basketball, volleyball, church activities, piano lessons, just to name a few.  Plus, there are homeschool groups all over the country that provide opportunities for the students to meet for field trips, group learning classes, and several other activities.  Again, the parents need to take the initiative to seek them out.

 

I'm sure some homeschooled children do miss out on fun things in life, but publicly schooled children miss out on just as much when their parents don't provide them with experiences.  As for surviving in the real world after they graduate...do you think these kids have been living in a box for the past 18 years?!?!  If homeschooling is done right, they fit into society just as well, if not better, than other children.  Many, many Ivy League universities have a high percentage of homeschool graduates enrolled, look it up if you don't believe it. 

 

I have tossed around the idea of homeschooling my children, simply because I'm disgusted at what kids are exposed to in public schools.  I have decided that is not best for our family, because I personally don't think I could offer my children as many experiences as I would like them to have.  But, there are so many wonderful parents out there who are able to do this (I have met several), and I think they deserve the utmost applause!!! 

 

You should look into some successful homeschool stories rather than basing your opinion on two miserably failed attempts at it.  Hopefully you will be able to see the positive in homeschooling before you pass on your narrow-minded, completely false ideas to others!

 
January 8, 2008, 9:19 am CST

Forced to Homeschool

 When My daughter was 13 she was in a severe auto accident and suffered a traumatic brain injury. She suffered short term memory loss. The kids and even one of the Teachers made fun of her because she couldn't remember their names. The school said a traumatic brain injury is not a disability, so they refused to put her in special education. She gave up and quit at 16. Then when our Son started K, they said he was learning disabled. After 6 months of tests and specialist, they could find nothing wrong with him. But they did put him in special education for 1 hour a day. They told me to except the fact that he may never learn to read. We put him in a small private school , he was reading in 2 weeks. After 2 years, the school closed down. Now he is almost 11 and my youngest daughter is 8. We have spent thousands of dollars on curriculums and I am stuck. We started out great, then Grandpa died. Then another Grandpa died. I just can't get back on track. I feel like an absolute failure. We live in a rural area with the most horrible schools. The bus that goes by used to be full of kids, now there is only a handful. The only people I have talked to at the library that know about our homeschool community are all faith based programs. I am so not interested in my children learning their faith from their academics. What do I do, I'm lost!
 
February 5, 2008, 11:51 pm CST

Homeschooling

Quote From: wyett17

Homeschooling is a very personal decision, and is one that should not be taken lightly.  I shared your feelings for a long time, until my sister-in-law decided to homeschool all three of her children, staring in 1st grade.  I was concerned about the childrens' social well-being and opportunities for extracurricular activities.  Since she started doing this 7 years ago, I have been proven wrong over and over again.

 

It takes a very special parent to have the desire and will to dedicate their life to schooling their children.  It appears that the people you know of who failed were not cut out to do this in the first place.  There are endless opportunities for homeschooled children to participate in outside activities - the parents just need to be motivated enough to search them out.  My neices and nephew are all extremely involved in basketball, volleyball, church activities, piano lessons, just to name a few.  Plus, there are homeschool groups all over the country that provide opportunities for the students to meet for field trips, group learning classes, and several other activities.  Again, the parents need to take the initiative to seek them out.

 

I'm sure some homeschooled children do miss out on fun things in life, but publicly schooled children miss out on just as much when their parents don't provide them with experiences.  As for surviving in the real world after they graduate...do you think these kids have been living in a box for the past 18 years?!?!  If homeschooling is done right, they fit into society just as well, if not better, than other children.  Many, many Ivy League universities have a high percentage of homeschool graduates enrolled, look it up if you don't believe it. 

 

I have tossed around the idea of homeschooling my children, simply because I'm disgusted at what kids are exposed to in public schools.  I have decided that is not best for our family, because I personally don't think I could offer my children as many experiences as I would like them to have.  But, there are so many wonderful parents out there who are able to do this (I have met several), and I think they deserve the utmost applause!!! 

 

You should look into some successful homeschool stories rather than basing your opinion on two miserably failed attempts at it.  Hopefully you will be able to see the positive in homeschooling before you pass on your narrow-minded, completely false ideas to others!

I took homeschooling up lightly, and it makes me feel better because now I am at home and not having to worry about anyone else distracting me or having the constant worry of being assaulted, or even killed. And I don't have to worry about my mental health either.
 
February 13, 2008, 12:18 am CST

Homeschooling

I just want to say that I was a gifted kid who hated school with a passion. I was abused by students and even by teachers, and if I ever had kids I would never send them to go through that hell. Public school is a prison. But, here in Canada there are a few schools where kids are free to learn at their own rate, even play video games, and their averages are lightly above average. So this proves in the pudding that institutionalism is not needed to teach children. Besides which, if you don't learn something for yourself you don't really learn anything. I think intuitionalism is a form of abuse and in a better world all children would either be home schooled or community schooled. Encouraging the heart, drive and respect of the individual does more for a kid than herding him/her as a part of a group mentality.

 
March 9, 2008, 3:44 pm CDT

Keep on homeschooling!!

Quote From: momof5here

I home-schooled my son in the 7th grade, while living in Southern California. I did so for a few reasons, safety being one of them. California has this "average daily attendance" thing going on, whereby trouble-making or otherwise dangerous kids are NOT expelled, since the school actually ends up losing money. Demographically speaking, most California Public Schools have a lot of "bad apples" in the public schools, even in affluent Orange County, where I lived. 

  

I now live in Florida, where the quality of education isn't much better than it was in California, and still far inferior to the education I received in Northern New Jersey. I suspect that they are about two or three grade levels behind down here (i.e. my 6th grader step-son is learning what my son learned in the 3rd or 4th grade). I would LOVE to be able to home-school again, since the internet makes it very easy to find the resourses. The only downside I see is the socialization aspect, but extra-curricular sports, dance or arts involvement or church youth group would take care of that. 

  

When it comes to education, the responsibility ultimately falls to the PARENTS. Follow your gut instinct here and you won't go wrong. 

Thank you, from all the homeschooling families out there that work very hard to educate their children and keep them on track at home.  Along with raising my children, it is one of the hardest jobs I have ever done.

Keep on going and follow your instincts.  I am thankful for the internet, it is a tremendous help.  Don’t worry about socialization, you just need to find a homeschool group or two with church and you will eventually get more involved in more activities.  Look what your state has to offer online.  It takes time but it is well worth it!

 

Tracy 

 
March 9, 2008, 3:58 pm CDT

Homeschooling

Quote From: reneep

 When My daughter was 13 she was in a severe auto accident and suffered a traumatic brain injury. She suffered short term memory loss. The kids and even one of the Teachers made fun of her because she couldn't remember their names. The school said a traumatic brain injury is not a disability, so they refused to put her in special education. She gave up and quit at 16. Then when our Son started K, they said he was learning disabled. After 6 months of tests and specialist, they could find nothing wrong with him. But they did put him in special education for 1 hour a day. They told me to except the fact that he may never learn to read. We put him in a small private school , he was reading in 2 weeks. After 2 years, the school closed down. Now he is almost 11 and my youngest daughter is 8. We have spent thousands of dollars on curriculums and I am stuck. We started out great, then Grandpa died. Then another Grandpa died. I just can't get back on track. I feel like an absolute failure. We live in a rural area with the most horrible schools. The bus that goes by used to be full of kids, now there is only a handful. The only people I have talked to at the library that know about our homeschool community are all faith based programs. I am so not interested in my children learning their faith from their academics. What do I do, I'm lost!

If you have the internet then you have everything you need.  It can all start there.  When searching online, you can find something that might interest you or your children.  This is called unschooling.  Making your own curriculum combined with books that I purchased at a teachers store.  It works for us and my children are so happy.  It just takes time be patient.  My prayers are with your family. 

 

Tracy

 
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