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Created on : Tuesday, August 08, 2006, 01:43:09 pm
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Millions of people suffer from sleep issues such as insomnia, sleep apnea, narcolepsy, sleep walking, sleep terrors, or restless leg syndrome. Share your stories and offer advice and support to others facing similar conditions.

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October 17, 2006, 8:49 am CDT

sleep? who needs sleep?

In the culture we live in it seems to me that is tabu to have sleeping problems. People in the US seem to think if you need a nap, even though u have only slept maybe 25 hours in a 7 day period, that a nap is for a lazy person. I am always tired. I wake up all night, I take lunesta and 3mg of Xanax everynight. But that does not stop night sweats due to surgical menopause. I am not lazy. I am a housewife of 19 years, a mother to a 26 year old son, and a 14 year old daughter. I am 46 and can not take esrogen, and I have been going thru this since I was 41. I dont suppose any men out there can understand this because they dont have to go through it,but they do have to suffer our mood swings, our hot flashes, night sweats, even though they could add another blanket they would rather complain how cold it is. I guess i should not of got started on this subject!zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz!
 
October 17, 2006, 12:04 pm CDT

Struggling with Sleep Issues?

Does anyone out there ever have problems getting up in the middle of the night and craving sweets?  I have been doing this for years, until about 6 months ago when my doctor perscribed trazodone?  I asked for something to help me sleep and to stay asleep not realizing that I had this eating problem at night and now everything is clicking together.  In the six months that I have  taken this sleeping pill, I have maybe gotton up twice to eat. 

I don't weigh myself, but I know I have lost weight because of how clothes fit and people often tell me it looks like I've lost weight.

I don't really like to rely on medication, but if it works then I'm taking it

 
October 17, 2006, 12:47 pm CDT

I need sleep

My husbands favorite saying is "you can sleep along time when you are dead".  But I need sleep now.  I have been an insomnica all my life.  I'm 40 now.  I have a husband who likes to stay up late watching tv and a 2 year old that wakes up before the sun comes out.  I've thought about moving into our guest bedroom at the other end of the house.  Any suggestions?
 
October 17, 2006, 1:53 pm CDT

At A Loss for Living Life....

I have never done this before, but now I am so discouraged I know I have to talk to real people instead of quacks for doctors ( who apparently don't listen half the time anyway).  I don't exactly know if this goes completely with sleep problems. but that's one of many issues.

How about a little background:

I am a 24 year old mom of the most precious 2 year-old litlle girl in my life.  Her father and I have been engaged for 5 years and have been together for about 7 years.  I graduated from high school in 2000, met Kevin ( my fiance) that same summer, helped him take care of his ailing mother who passed away in april of '01, went to school for cosmetology and graduated June of that year, all at the same time of either waitressing in restaurants or working in a call-center.  In the earlier years (1993ish), I almost lost my Mom from Breast-Cancer, had a near-deadly accident by being run over by 3/4 ton truck, almost loss my Dad in "99 from a bad mix of cholesterol drugsbeing diabetic and having CMT ( Charco Marie Toothe disease) at the same time.  I give you all this background to explain how I got towhere I am today, wherever that is, and it'll all make sense in the end.

Fast forward to 2003:

Moved with my fiance 4 hours away from our families for better jobs ( I had a management transfer into a larger call center).  Things were pretty typical for us, living our "Vie de genesses" when my Mom on a visit told him to make sure to bring me to a Dr. to get a lumped checked out by different specialists ( I had found the lump 2 yrs prior and the only diagnosis I got from about 4 Dr's in our are was that it had to be an infection from one of the injuries I had suffered in the "accident"). Within 2 days, an ER Dr. had scheduled me for surgery to be done within 5 days due to the fact of having it for so long and not really knowing what it was.  And 3 days after I got the call no-one wants to get...it was Cancer.  The Dr's were dismayed at the type it was, Non-Hodgkins Lymphoma, at my age , so my mass was sent to 3 other reputable Cancer Centers in the states and I ended up at Dana-Farber in Boston about 2 months later and was confirmed as having N-HL.  But there was another issue at hand, throughout all of the tests and surgery Iwas not aware of the fact that I was .....PREGNANT....with my first child.  I was so scared of everything, espescially when my Boston Dr. said I could have the baby, because it was probably my last chance since I also had HPV ( had been diagnosed in '99) and we would do treatment after the baby arrived .  Needless to say my pregnancy was not enjoyed but feared.  Not only having all this to deal with but an alcoholic for a partner did not help the situation.

So I had my baby girl on May 7, 2004.  She weighed a meer 5 pounds but luckily was healthy enough not to go to NICU.  Kevin had staightened out his life just a month before and has been sober since.  I went through my radiation treatments and am tested every 3 months with an unpleasant round of test, but am in "cure-rate".  Before all this I had had Mono in '98 I think and I nevere came back the same.  My fatigue levels were aweful and now after all of this I  am even worse today.  This spring I was diagnosed as being Bi-polar ( just like mustbecrazy) but as of about 2 weeks ago, I had not slept more than a few hours a night in about 3 years.  After going threw about 60 diff meds, I have found Cymbalta and Amitryptaline to rely on for sleep.  But the fatigue is aweful!  Because of all the diff meds I had to try, I barely remember the beginng of my daughters life and feel like a HORRIBLE mother.  Kevin has done so well in taking care of the both of us after he gets home from work, and I'm lifeless.  I am not the vibrant person he met and I feel like a failure as apartner.  He has had to overcome so much and has accomplished more in the past few years than anyone thought he would in his whole life,  and I am so proud of himm.  And dayd after day, it's always the same, me on the couch barely able to function.  I have a hard time not putting my baby down twice in the day because I just can't seem to function.  After reading "mustbecrazy" and her trials in the years of being"sick" and just not finding answers, I spoke to one of my Dr.'s about Narcolepsy and he said it can't be that, but it always seems he disregards my complaints and rushes me out.  I've been to psychiatrists and oncologists and can't get anywhere.  I am so sick and tired of just being sick and tired and for me it seems as if things would be easier on everyone else if I would be a fade-out in the background.  I'm sick of worrying my loving parents (they've been there every step of the way).  I'm sick of not being able to be active with our daughter.  And I'm sick of just feeling like nothing and a bad partner.  I just don't know what to do anymore.  I feel so lost and alone.  I can't get my Dr. to listen and feel like such a failure for being so damn tired all the time.  I am desperate for answers.  I am desperate for a break.  I miss me and everyone else does too but I just can't seem to function anymore.  My 25th birthday is coming up in December and this is not how I wanted life to be.  I would not wish this on my worst enemy.  I didn't want life to be perfect because there is no such thing, but I wanted to enjoy every minute since I have experienced seeing the "life is so short" saying in reality.  I can't keep going like this but I don't know what to do anymore.  I've always looked at everything in my life that was a struggle as "just a bump in the road",  but this "bump" has been here long enough and I give up.  Please help if you can.  I have nowhere else to turn.  Please help me figure out literally what thje hell is going on here.  Thanks for a listening ear.

 
October 17, 2006, 7:18 pm CDT

get a sleep study

IF YOU ARE HAVING ANY TYPE OF SLEEP PROBLEM, ASK YOUR DOCTOR SPECIFICALLY FOR A REFERRAL TO A SLEEP SPECIALIST...A SLEEP STUDY WILL REVEAL JUST WHAT TYPE OF SLEEP DISORDER YOU MAY HAVE.

 

IF YOUR DOCTOR TRIES TO PUT YOU OFF, OR TELLS YOU THAT "IT COULDN'T BE THAT", INSIST...DEMAND...GET WHAT YOU WANT...I'VE BEEN TO SO MANY DOCTORS WHO ARE JERKS WHO DON'T LISTEN...I REALLY LIKE MY CURRENT DOC...A WOMAN, BY THE WAY...MEN JUST DON'T WANT TO LISTEN TO WOMEN'S "WHINING".

 
October 17, 2006, 7:27 pm CDT

BIPOLAR MESSAGE BOARD

Quote From: softail_baby

I have never done this before, but now I am so discouraged I know I have to talk to real people instead of quacks for doctors ( who apparently don't listen half the time anyway).  I don't exactly know if this goes completely with sleep problems. but that's one of many issues.

How about a little background:

I am a 24 year old mom of the most precious 2 year-old litlle girl in my life.  Her father and I have been engaged for 5 years and have been together for about 7 years.  I graduated from high school in 2000, met Kevin ( my fiance) that same summer, helped him take care of his ailing mother who passed away in april of '01, went to school for cosmetology and graduated June of that year, all at the same time of either waitressing in restaurants or working in a call-center.  In the earlier years (1993ish), I almost lost my Mom from Breast-Cancer, had a near-deadly accident by being run over by 3/4 ton truck, almost loss my Dad in "99 from a bad mix of cholesterol drugsbeing diabetic and having CMT ( Charco Marie Toothe disease) at the same time.  I give you all this background to explain how I got towhere I am today, wherever that is, and it'll all make sense in the end.

Fast forward to 2003:

Moved with my fiance 4 hours away from our families for better jobs ( I had a management transfer into a larger call center).  Things were pretty typical for us, living our "Vie de genesses" when my Mom on a visit told him to make sure to bring me to a Dr. to get a lumped checked out by different specialists ( I had found the lump 2 yrs prior and the only diagnosis I got from about 4 Dr's in our are was that it had to be an infection from one of the injuries I had suffered in the "accident"). Within 2 days, an ER Dr. had scheduled me for surgery to be done within 5 days due to the fact of having it for so long and not really knowing what it was.  And 3 days after I got the call no-one wants to get...it was Cancer.  The Dr's were dismayed at the type it was, Non-Hodgkins Lymphoma, at my age , so my mass was sent to 3 other reputable Cancer Centers in the states and I ended up at Dana-Farber in Boston about 2 months later and was confirmed as having N-HL.  But there was another issue at hand, throughout all of the tests and surgery Iwas not aware of the fact that I was .....PREGNANT....with my first child.  I was so scared of everything, espescially when my Boston Dr. said I could have the baby, because it was probably my last chance since I also had HPV ( had been diagnosed in '99) and we would do treatment after the baby arrived .  Needless to say my pregnancy was not enjoyed but feared.  Not only having all this to deal with but an alcoholic for a partner did not help the situation.

So I had my baby girl on May 7, 2004.  She weighed a meer 5 pounds but luckily was healthy enough not to go to NICU.  Kevin had staightened out his life just a month before and has been sober since.  I went through my radiation treatments and am tested every 3 months with an unpleasant round of test, but am in "cure-rate".  Before all this I had had Mono in '98 I think and I nevere came back the same.  My fatigue levels were aweful and now after all of this I  am even worse today.  This spring I was diagnosed as being Bi-polar ( just like mustbecrazy) but as of about 2 weeks ago, I had not slept more than a few hours a night in about 3 years.  After going threw about 60 diff meds, I have found Cymbalta and Amitryptaline to rely on for sleep.  But the fatigue is aweful!  Because of all the diff meds I had to try, I barely remember the beginng of my daughters life and feel like a HORRIBLE mother.  Kevin has done so well in taking care of the both of us after he gets home from work, and I'm lifeless.  I am not the vibrant person he met and I feel like a failure as apartner.  He has had to overcome so much and has accomplished more in the past few years than anyone thought he would in his whole life,  and I am so proud of himm.  And dayd after day, it's always the same, me on the couch barely able to function.  I have a hard time not putting my baby down twice in the day because I just can't seem to function.  After reading "mustbecrazy" and her trials in the years of being"sick" and just not finding answers, I spoke to one of my Dr.'s about Narcolepsy and he said it can't be that, but it always seems he disregards my complaints and rushes me out.  I've been to psychiatrists and oncologists and can't get anywhere.  I am so sick and tired of just being sick and tired and for me it seems as if things would be easier on everyone else if I would be a fade-out in the background.  I'm sick of worrying my loving parents (they've been there every step of the way).  I'm sick of not being able to be active with our daughter.  And I'm sick of just feeling like nothing and a bad partner.  I just don't know what to do anymore.  I feel so lost and alone.  I can't get my Dr. to listen and feel like such a failure for being so damn tired all the time.  I am desperate for answers.  I am desperate for a break.  I miss me and everyone else does too but I just can't seem to function anymore.  My 25th birthday is coming up in December and this is not how I wanted life to be.  I would not wish this on my worst enemy.  I didn't want life to be perfect because there is no such thing, but I wanted to enjoy every minute since I have experienced seeing the "life is so short" saying in reality.  I can't keep going like this but I don't know what to do anymore.  I've always looked at everything in my life that was a struggle as "just a bump in the road",  but this "bump" has been here long enough and I give up.  Please help if you can.  I have nowhere else to turn.  Please help me figure out literally what thje hell is going on here.  Thanks for a listening ear.

I would like to invite you to visit Dr. Phil's bipolar message board (if you already have, I apologize...I'm very bad with names). 

 

There are a lot of people posting to that board...it is the busiest board among the ones that I've visited.

 

It is under the heading Mental Health Issues and then under the heading Bipolar Disorder.

 

Hope to see you over on the bipolar board.

 

Also, please read my previous message...I've learned over the years (I'm 45) that you have to be very assertive to get what you want and need when it comes to referrals.  Sleep disorders are REAL and should be treated.  Also, sleep disorders are common with Bipolar Disorder, and the lack of proper sleep can really mess with the moods!!

 

Good Luck,

Becky

 
November 4, 2006, 9:07 pm CST

Information Needed

Does anyone know where I can get or the name of the device Dr. Phil gave to the audience once and to a guest of two? It is like a watch that reads your heartbeat and helps you wake up. I have a very hard problem waking up in the morning. Sometimes people will come to wake me up and I don't even remember them coming into my room. Other times I just can't get myself up until hours after I need to wake up. Going to college classes and not being able to wake myself up is getting to be a real problem. Please email me or reply to this if you have any information concerning this product.

Thank you.

 
November 5, 2006, 5:03 am CST

RE: Information Needed

Quote From: advicegurl05

Does anyone know where I can get or the name of the device Dr. Phil gave to the audience once and to a guest of two? It is like a watch that reads your heartbeat and helps you wake up. I have a very hard problem waking up in the morning. Sometimes people will come to wake me up and I don't even remember them coming into my room. Other times I just can't get myself up until hours after I need to wake up. Going to college classes and not being able to wake myself up is getting to be a real problem. Please email me or reply to this if you have any information concerning this product.

Thank you.

The device is called the Sleep Tracker and you can find it here: http://www.sleeptracker.com/
 
November 6, 2006, 2:09 pm CST

Name of Dr. Frank Lawlis' meditation tape

Can anyone tell me the name of the meditation tape that Dr. Frank Lawlis has referred to on various Dr. Phil shows? 
 
November 16, 2006, 5:01 am CST

Struggling with Sleep Issues?

Quote From: terleb7

In the culture we live in it seems to me that is tabu to have sleeping problems. People in the US seem to think if you need a nap, even though u have only slept maybe 25 hours in a 7 day period, that a nap is for a lazy person. I am always tired. I wake up all night, I take lunesta and 3mg of Xanax everynight. But that does not stop night sweats due to surgical menopause. I am not lazy. I am a housewife of 19 years, a mother to a 26 year old son, and a 14 year old daughter. I am 46 and can not take esrogen, and I have been going thru this since I was 41. I dont suppose any men out there can understand this because they dont have to go through it,but they do have to suffer our mood swings, our hot flashes, night sweats, even though they could add another blanket they would rather complain how cold it is. I guess i should not of got started on this subject!zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz!

OMG.... talk about similarities....whoa. I too have been struggling with sleep issues for a long time now. I am 53, still going though menopause, HOT-FLASHES since I was 42 !!!!!! I can go to sleep, for a few minutes, and wake up like I'm falling from something, so you jump to get back to reality. Or mainly, here comes the hot-flash, usually every 30 minutes. I too can not take HRT, because of cancer. But out of desperation I have taken it, but I guess they were too low of dosage that they didn't help. I have tried just about every over the counter stuff for sleep...that does nothing for me, but makes you feel you have weights on your arms and legs. Then went to the prescription stuff, Lunesta, Roze...something, then the Ambien. The Ambien worked for a while, but focusing the next day. I have been on it around 2 years. And I have come to realize that it is the Ambien that does something to your short term memory. Long story ....short...the Ambien does not help now. So I still have the hot-flashes every 30 minutes, and I keep gaining weight. Of which I have found out that sleep deprivation causes the metabolism to slow down considerable.  I also have two children one 30 and the other 13.  Maybe we can compare notes on what is out there.

Linda

 
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