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Topic : Are You Afraid to Age?

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Created on : Tuesday, August 08, 2006, 01:53:05 pm
Author : DrPhilBoard1
They say age is just a number, but many people will do just about anything to stay young. Are you afraid to age? How do you stay young in mind and body?

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February 6, 2007, 8:07 pm CST

it's all in your head

The truth is I feel younger today than I did ten years ago. I was in bad health ten years ago and was suffering from depression. But there was a day where I took control of my life and I got my health back and I feel happy and hopeful again. Today, as I walked up my back stairs I thought to myself how I feel stronger today than two years ago. Sometimes i feel so young I can't believe it. Life is a challenge and it can be a struggle. But there are times when it can be so joyful and wonderful. I just lost my father a few months ago - it's very sad. We were really good friends and he was my dad.But my faith in God and a future helps me to go on. It is true, tutto e possible - everything is possible. You just don't know the surprises God has in store for you. Just believe he loves you. And believe in your dreams. God bless.
 
February 19, 2007, 2:51 pm CST

any body have this problem?

I am 57 years old and the actual act of sex has become so uncomfortable that my husband and I have sat down and decided that it is not worth the hassle althought if it was possible we would both be actively looking into it..anyone else out ther have this problem? how are you coping...all answers appreciated

 
February 26, 2007, 9:20 am CST

Are You Afraid to Age?

Quote From: kphilips10

I am 58 and not afraid of getting older.  I want to slide into heaven yelling "Holy S___!  What a ride!"  I want my gravestone to read "Crazy Old Woman" not "Nice Old Lady".  I live every day as if it could be my last.  Remember, this is not a dress rehersal.  Live life to the fullest - every day.  And forget about the mirror and calendar.
Hear Hear!!
 
February 26, 2007, 10:09 am CST

aging faces?

I'm not afraid to age...inside.  I am only 42 and already don't like the outside!  The only thing I would change is my face.  You cannot get how much I hate to see my face everyday.  It is 4 different colors.  The color I was born with, white acne scars surrounded by some odd pattern of brown with dark spots of brown in that.  And the dermatologist don't care,  as soon as the learn that I live on $500. a month!  (disabled). 

I was surgically induced into menapause, so I really just don't care about it anymore. 

Am I weird?

 
February 26, 2007, 6:37 pm CST

Life is Good

I have learned that life goes on with or without me. I just turned 55, emotionally I am still 27 and physically my body is 90. I have MS., a degenerated last vertabrae and mild scoliosis (at birth), and Raynaud's disease and neuropathy. I am in extreme pain everyday-even with my pain meds.

I live on disability in Senior disabled housing. I have a beautiful flower garden, a vegetable garden (raised beds),  work in my art studio, teach 3 art classes three hours a week (volunteer), walk my dog three times a day.   Focus on the here and now and live each day as it might be your last.    Live your age as it is the only time you will be this age. Celebrate that!

   I didn't want to make it to 50 and now I don't want to make it to 60-only because of physical disability. I DO NOT WANT TO SPEND MY  LAST YEARS IN A NURSING HOME!!!!!

     My dad always said that we start to age the day we are born-get used to it. 

 
March 14, 2007, 8:33 am CDT

Are You Afraid to Age?

i myself am not afraid of aging. I think that a woman is beautiful from her being a nice person and a loving human being.  No matter if her hair is gray or she has wrinkles or some extra weight. as long as she is beautiful on this inside I will love her and treat her like she is a queen. thanks Love <3Erik
 
March 14, 2007, 8:35 am CDT

Are You Afraid to Age?

P.S. tell me what you guys think ;-)
 
March 24, 2007, 12:02 am CDT

Hi

Quote From: ndawson

I am 52 years old and although my gyn disagrees I believe I'm going through menopause. I am having many of the symptoms but because I have not experienced hot flashes and because of my estrogen level in blood tests, my doctor dismisses what I'm going through. I am considering the saliva test, but to be honest, money is somewhat tight. Also, the test I've looked into wants me to chart my temperature for three months prior to taking the test and I want help NOW! The most difficult symptom I have is depression and add to that I am a Christian so guilt typically follows the depression. I know I have put too much importance on my physical appearance my entire adult life and now aging is having its impact. I am trying desperately to reprioritize and value myself for things less superficial but it's so hard to teach an old dog new tricks. My daughters laugh and say my bedroom is like a cosmetic counter because every product that comes on the market for lines and wrinkles - I've bought! Maybe that's why our money is so tight! Also, my libido as well as my husband's has just about disappeared and we were a couple who used to make love 4 to 5 times a week - for 33 years. It was a major part of how we related. That is not helping my depression either. How do I get to the point that I am aging gracefully, not so much for everyone else, but for myself?

I just read your comment and I think I may have an answer for you. 

 

I am 37 and recently had a hystorectomy and started going through a lot of things your talking about. I also went to the Dr. and had them check me for early menopause. And like you, my tests came back perfect. Everything was normal. I kept complaining to my Doc that things were just not right.  So, my Doc tested my Thyroid. And what do you know, I had over active thyroid problems. 

 

My Doc explained to me that Thyroid problems look almost exactly like Menopause. You will suffer from mood swings, hot flashes, night sweats, change in sex drive, vaginal dryness, change in weight, hair loss, dry skin, premature wrinkling and just a general feeling of BLAH. It feels like someone sucked all the energy right out of you.

 

The Thyroid test is very simple to do. All you do is give a little blood and wait for about 10 for the results to come in.  A normal Thyroid should show result numbers between  0.0 - 3.75.  If your test result numbers fall into the negative area...for example, -2.45...then it is an under active thyroid problem...Hypothyroidism.  If your test result numbers are above 3.75, then you suffer from over active thyroid problems...Hyperthyroidism.

 

There 3 different treatsments for either of these problems.  I strongly recommend...if you do indead have a Thyroid problem... DO NOT DRINK THE RADIOACTIVE COCKTAIL!  Please make that your very last resort.  They have a pill that you can take on a daily basis. I highly recommend that way of treatment.   I am not saying you have a Thyroid problem...but I do think you should have it checked out. 

 

And I must say, since I've begun my Thyroid treatment I feel like a new woman!  I feel like I'm 19 again.

 

I really hope this helps you out some. I know there is nothing worse then feeling your body change and knowing there is something wrong but the Dr.'s are just not listening to you.  Instead they just want to put you on anti-depressants and tell you to deal with it.  

 

I wish you lots of luck and hang in there. I've been where you are now and believe me..everything is going to work out just fine.

 
April 5, 2007, 6:10 am CDT

I,m not afraid,but I was!

 

  I,m a swedish guy, of 37. Ican tell when I was about to be 30, I felt a lot of fearness about being older....but I can tell that I just feel better for every year, actually. I do not see mysellf as an ordinary 37 yr old guy, in the normal way, to begin  with I have five kids, four with my x, and my little baby toghteher wiyh my girlfriend, who is 22....  I can say I dont know if I could fit toghteher with an elder woman,  My mind in way of dress etc, are younger, BUT I am still a responsibal man, after my seperation I lived alone with my four kids fulltime, and manage it without larger problems.

I can see that I select sometimes conciusly what I want out of my age, so to say, All my experience, I ve been working with kids also since I was 19, f.i , so i know I sometimes chose, and select what to use of my lifeexperince.  and also I have easy to see new trends and to hang on them, because it makes me intressted.

My musicchoice is mostly like eurodisco,  rave, clubmusic, but I can also listen to old good mike and the mechanics or Toto, etc.

I guess I,m openminded, and I,m not locked up into any special category of generation I think.

But importnat to tell in this, is that I am a caring father and a immiture man that takes care of my girlfriend, and do not cheat and party every night etc.

As my girlfriend are younger I have friends that are both in the 20,s and thoose who are like 35+, and I belive I am just as good to interact with both  of the ages.

There are just something that bothers me, which is my eyelocks wich are starting to hang,  otherwise I,m pleased with my age,and the way I,m handeling it.

What I think could be something that I start bother more about later on is sickness, like cancer, which unfortunatly is a far to common deasease in my family, and also the fear aof getting a heartattack thoug my grandpa passed away only 63 yrs old in a heartattack.

Because then it would mean that I had lived over half of my life already now, and that can sometimes scare me, because I love life, and I intend to be at least 100 yr of age, I,wouldnt be scared of being that old, rather the other way around, be able to see all my grandkids and their familys develope.

To end with, I think that womans are generally more afraid of getting older, because unfortunatly the society tells all womans that you have to look young, with all antischrinkle medicals that sells and so, I think that is verry tragical, so i,m sorry to say it , but I belive men havnt generally got that fear of getting old as womans have.

And ofcourse the biological clock is ticking in another way for womans than for men, but I want to say as an end of this message, dont be afraid of  getting older, mix yuor experince with new thoghts and trends and I think you  will be a openminded and intresting person for all ages.     Please have forgivness against me for my writing, or gramatics, as I said I live in Sweden but , anyway I,m a great fan of dr Phil and I,m  also intressted to discuss with american people, for a change, is intressting to see your point of view of things compared to ours in Europe, scandinavia.

yours Mathias, Swden

 

 
April 5, 2007, 12:47 pm CDT

MY OPINION

Quote From: ceildh1

To be honest, this is something I had never really thought about, I always joke that aging is inevitable, but "Growing Up" is a choice, but even at 37, I still don't really think about it, but this question did bring up a couple of issues I try NOT to think about anyway.

My biggest fear about aging is Alzheimers or any other type of Demetiaassociated with aging, I drive people crazy because I am ALWAYS exercising my brain to keep it sharp ( if you don't use it you loose it ) the idea of my children changing my diapers, or myself not recognizing them is completly reprehensible to me, and I really think I would kill myself before I let that happen.

After watching people die from this, watching them deteriorate, I came to the conclusion that if there is any kindness in this, the patient has NO IDEA what's going on anyway, but the toll it takes on the other members of the family can be devastating.  My relatives were lucky enough to have supportave caring family around them, but there are many who are left alone in nursing homes (why bother if they don't know me anyway ), or end up being abused physically or financially ( the wrtong person being made power of attorney ), many times the family feels relief, yes I said RELIEF when that member passes, because then they can get their lives straight ( the amount of work these patients NEED is incredible, sometimes overwhelming to the uninitiated ), and they can really then grieve for the parent, grandparent Aunt Uncle etc., that they reall lost long before.

So that's my ramble, the wrinkles ( there are creams for those ) , the grey hair ( my hairdresser can fix that ) are superficial, if my mind is guarenteed, then I'll go for as long as fate allows, but I will NOT allow myself to lose my mind, that simple.

I used to work in Nursing homes and love the elderly with all my heart.  I have worked on an alzheimers unit as well.  What little people know about this disease!  they may not know what they ate for breakfast, or recognize faces, and sometimes their bladder and bowels loose control, but they can feel love!  i know this for a fact, and that is why i loved working with them.  the mean ones and the ones who spit and threw things, they all need love.  My main theory behind the way i think of them is this... they have lived obviously alot longer than us, they have every right to feel the way they do, or act the way they want.  i worked there to make the last few years of their life enjoyable and hopefully they felt some love when i cared for them, because i loved them all as if they were my own grandparents.  they may have forgotten who i even was the next day but i loved them and cared for them just the same.  sometimes it is a relief when they do pass, because we do not want to see them suffer.  do not feel sorry for yourself, just do everything in your power to make the last years of any elderly person their best!!!  They deserve it no matter what.  i no longer work in a nursing home because i cannot afford to take care of my family with what i was being paid, but i do love them all with all my heart and will stand up for them for the rest of my life!!!

 

sorry for any grammer or spelling, but sometimes i get upset thinking about the way the elderly are treated.

 
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