My brother and his wife haven't been married long. They just had a baby on August 31st and his wife is going crazy. She blows things way out of proportion. She thinks my bestfriend wants my brother and that my brother wants her. She wont let my brother come over to my parents house alone or if my bestfriend is here. (My bestfriend lives here with my parents and I.) She's always calling my brother such horrible names and she thinks he's the worst guy she could have ever been with. She's mad at my parents for not kicking my bestfriend out because she says that if they really loved her, they would have put her out onto the street. (In other words, she's trying to make us choose between my bestfriend and my sister in law.)
She doesn't think she needs help. But they had a friend over to their apartment the other day and my brother offered the girl a drink. (Proper right?) Well his wife got jealous and this caused an arguement. They also work together, so when my brother talks to girls at work she confronts them. In fact, she confronted a girl who's a lesbian and accused her of wanting my brother.
She wasn't this way before the baby. She was always happy. Now she's very bitter and always arguing with my brother.
My brother is the nicest guy on the planet. He's very quiet and passive. If it helps to realize what kind of guy he is. He waited....meaning. She's the only girl he's ever been with. He's not like most guys. I know he would never cheet on her but because of her accusations, he's actually starting to think he's this horrible person and doubting himself. The baby is almost three months old and he doesn't even feel like she's his because his wife always calls her "her baby" and doesn't treat him like a father. In fact, my mom was holding the baby and my mom said "are you hungry" before anyone could say anything, my sister in law stood up and said "don't worry, I'll do it. Don't get up" in a smart ass way to my brother. My brother said "if you would have asked I would have done it" her responce back was "I shouldnt' have to ask"....but if she doesn't give him a chance. How can he even have a time to respond? She doesn't let him do things then gets mad at him.
It's driving my family crazy and tearing us apart. My bestfriend who she thinks is so horrible, has a boyfriend who she loves. She has given the baby gifts and oftered to baby sit to help out when needed. Now that she knows my sister in law hates her, she avoids her. Even though this is her house, she leaves when they come over so she wont cause problems. In fact, she tries to stay away as long as possible so my parents can see their only grandchild.
I'm not clueless either. If I ever thought my brother would do this sort of thing, or if I ever thought my bestfriend would, I'd say so. They are both very innocent people, who aren't like others and I can't stress that enough.
We don't know what to do. I've thought of calling Dr Phil to see if he does house calls because she'd never agree to go on the show. But I know they wouldn't want to air their "dirty laundry" on national Tv. At the same time, I know he'd give her the "tough love" or "truth" they needed to hear. I want my brother to be happy but I know she's making his life misserable! Please someone, give me and my family some advice.
I very very depressed, for over 16 years, dealing with the death of my mother and having to move over 1,000 miles after loosing lots of things in the hurrcaines of 2004, was living in Fl. at the time, when the place I was living in was hit by 3 hurrcaines. My family will not talk to me, I live all alone with my dog. I'm thinking of ending it all. Just wish I could have a friend to talk to everyday. thanks bye
