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Have you or a loved one had gastric bypass surgery? Share the pros and cons with others contemplating this procedure.

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February 16, 2007, 2:07 pm CST

Pros and Cons of Gastric Bypass Surgery

Quote From: jennajones

I had the gastric bypass surgery in 2000.  I used to weigh close to 270 and went down to 170 and kept most of it off.  I have recently developed a bad habit. I thought I had my life under control. I was ready to lose weight at the time. I did it! I had a lot of very recent tragedies happen all at once that threw me off. I am drinking 3-6 alcoholic drinks 3-5X weekly at night time.  I don't like myself. I'm afraid to tell anyone. I am afraid for my children, for my husband and ultimately for myself. I am so ashamed I can barely write this email. I can't see the screen real well through the tears. I wish I had the courage to come forward and tell someone that could help me. I could lose my job if anyone found out. My job is very "image" oriented.  Even though I never drink and drive or drink alone I cannot take this anymore. I am a fraud. I am lonely and I am tired of my bad coping skill. Any words of encouragement are welcome. gastricbypassqueen@yahoo.com
Hi Queenie.... You really do need to go and talk to someone about what is disrupting your life.  You should go and see a therapist so that you can talk to someone impartial and you don't have to tell anyone that you are going.  Life had it's many ups and downs and sometimes we just need that little bit of help to get us through.  You do not have to be ashamed or embarrased.  Just admit to yourself that you need some help and go and get it.  You may even require some medication to help you through this, but don't wait.  Go and get some help before you get past the point of no return.  You are not a fraud.  You are human and you just need some help at this time in your life.  Just think about what you have accomplished in your life.  You LOST 100 lbs...That is fantastic.  You have a good job that is excellent.  Go and see someone about this NOW.  Pick up the phone and make an appointment.  You can do it and you can stop drinking and you will be happy about yourself again, but you have to start somewhere! 
 
February 16, 2007, 4:10 pm CST

Every individual is UNIQUE

I had the gastric bypass in 2001 when I was 21 years old. It was the hardest but the most important decision I have ever made in my life. Obesity runs in my family. I grew up watching my mother struggle to loose weight on crash diets, weight watchers, Jenny Craig, Physicians Weight Loss, Atkins, Water diets. You name it, and she tried it. I was really thin when I was young. I hit puberty and my life changed. From the age of 12 I started to follow my moms foot steps. I joined weight watchers, a gym, I even starved myself. I did whatever, I thought could work and I lost weight. Never for long though, because I always gained it back. Finally, one day I looked in the mirror and I realized that I had to do something or I was going to live a very short life. I was sick all the time, I was in constant body pain, and I never had any energy. Worst of all, I was told that I would have a very low chance of being able to have children because of my weight. I researched the surgery for two years and I read all the pros and cons on all types of websites dealing with the surgery and websites for individuals who had the surgery. The ultimate decision came when I asked myself if the risk was worth a new and longer lease on life.

I weighed 250 lbs and I lost 120 lbs. Someone told me before I had the surgery that I was taking the easy way out. I can tell you that there was nothing easy about the choice to have the surgery, going through the series of pre-op exams and tests, the surgery itself, the recovery and the ongoing side effects. Effects commonly referred to as dumping, gas, or not being able to eat an entire meal and there are some others.

I may have to use the restroom at the most inopportune times and have some discomfort. I may have to share a meal, order from the kids meal, or always walk out of a restaurant with a carry out box but those things are nothing in the scope of what I have gained.

I am healthy now and that alone is worth it, not having to see doctors all the time or take meds is a blessing. Being thinner and wearing certain clothing, that is just a perk to me. Most wonderful of all, I have a beautiful 19 month old daughter who is my gift from up above.

Now, I can say that losing weight only changes your physical aspect. It does not fix any phychological issues that one may have. The insecurities that come with being overweight do not go away, the source of insecurity just changes or new ones develop. How we cope with these determines a great deal. It is important to get help if you feel that you are causing harm to yourself in any way. I found that you could very easily begin other habits that can be very dangerous to your own life. I have had to see a therapist and get help to deal with some of the psychological issues that came from having the surgery.

Ultimately, the decision is a personal decision. When people ask me if I recommend it, all I can say is If I was given the chance to do it differently, I wouldn't change a thing.

 
February 16, 2007, 4:20 pm CST

You are not alone

Quote From: jennajones

I had the gastric bypass surgery in 2000.  I used to weigh close to 270 and went down to 170 and kept most of it off.  I have recently developed a bad habit. I thought I had my life under control. I was ready to lose weight at the time. I did it! I had a lot of very recent tragedies happen all at once that threw me off. I am drinking 3-6 alcoholic drinks 3-5X weekly at night time.  I don't like myself. I'm afraid to tell anyone. I am afraid for my children, for my husband and ultimately for myself. I am so ashamed I can barely write this email. I can't see the screen real well through the tears. I wish I had the courage to come forward and tell someone that could help me. I could lose my job if anyone found out. My job is very "image" oriented.  Even though I never drink and drive or drink alone I cannot take this anymore. I am a fraud. I am lonely and I am tired of my bad coping skill. Any words of encouragement are welcome. gastricbypassqueen@yahoo.com
 I can tell you that losing weight only changes your physical aspect. It does not fix any phychological issues that one may have. The insecurities that come with being overweight do not go away, the source of insecurity just changes or new ones develop. I learned this the hard way.I myself at one time, found myself drinking too much and did not like the person I was becoming. I had to come to terms with the fact that I had other things that I was trying to escape from and realized I needed help. I had to see a therapist for a while.  Life throws a great deal of unexpected changes our ways. Traumas occur. The surgery is an extreme change in your life and it you had other things that occured at the time of your recovery, it compounds all the stress is compounded. You are not a fraud, you are human and you deserve to cut yourself some slack. You have many options and you are not alone. Take strength in your weight loss accomplisment and in the wonderful family that I am sure you have. There is no shame in reaching out for help. Take care and God Bless.
 
February 16, 2007, 5:00 pm CST

Queenie

Quote From: jennajones

I had the gastric bypass surgery in 2000.  I used to weigh close to 270 and went down to 170 and kept most of it off.  I have recently developed a bad habit. I thought I had my life under control. I was ready to lose weight at the time. I did it! I had a lot of very recent tragedies happen all at once that threw me off. I am drinking 3-6 alcoholic drinks 3-5X weekly at night time.  I don't like myself. I'm afraid to tell anyone. I am afraid for my children, for my husband and ultimately for myself. I am so ashamed I can barely write this email. I can't see the screen real well through the tears. I wish I had the courage to come forward and tell someone that could help me. I could lose my job if anyone found out. My job is very "image" oriented.  Even though I never drink and drive or drink alone I cannot take this anymore. I am a fraud. I am lonely and I am tired of my bad coping skill. Any words of encouragement are welcome. gastricbypassqueen@yahoo.com

Hi Queenie - this is my first time on here.  Your message touched me very deeply.  I am overweight and hoping to have the surgery at somepoint.  However, that is not what my message is about. 

 

Please, do NOT feel ashamed of yourself or guilty for your drinking.  You have made the first step, the BIGGEST step...you have admitted that you have a problem.  I know that it may be the hardest thing you'll ever do, but I do believe you need to talk to your husband.  He must love you dearly.  He stuck by you through your weight loss, and I'm sure at times your emotions from that were not the most pleasant.  You have to trust him; trust that he can handle what you have to tell him.  Trust that he loves you enough to help you.  Trust yourself to be strong enough to take the step towards him.  You did it for your weight loss, do it for the drinking.  I watched my brother's life turn to pot from his alcohol.  He virtually lost everything because he didn't see a problem.  He even turned to crime.  Don't let that happen to you.  You have the strength necessary to beat this thing. 

 

I want you and everybody else reading this to think about one thing; it's one thing that nobody every says but in my mind is so very true.  A smoker can quit smoking and never have to look at another cigarette again.  An alcoholic can stop drinking and never take another sip again.  A gambler can walk away from a casino and never gamble again.  But tell me this, can an overeater walk away from food and never eat again?  Something to think about.  My point is, you conquered the food addiction, I KNOW you can walk away from the alcohol. 

 

Tragedy has a tendency to turn us to things we choose to use at crutches.  Instead of dealing with the loss or grief from a situation, we try to cover it up.  Please don't smother yourself with that crutch.  Stop drinking!  Tell your husband!  Get some help!  I will pray for you, promise!

 
February 16, 2007, 5:11 pm CST

Its What's Eating You

My sister-in-law had the surgery a few years ago.  I really don't know what her weight was before and after.  I know she attended pre-counseling and initially lost at least 50-75 lbs.  That's it.  She is still a very large woman.  She is 40.  She is very active (biking and swimming).  Her diet sucks!!  She eats a lot of junk food.  When your stomach is so small, priority must be given to food with vitamins, minerals, and protein.  I think she is deeply resentful of always being defined by her weight.  She has been overweight and obese since she was a young child.   I thinks she feels like she has been mistreated due to her weight and,  while she might like to be smaller and healthier, it angers her to "bend to the will" of a society that has unfairly judged her.  She has to confront her own inner conflict if she is ever going to succeed at losing the weight.
 
February 16, 2007, 7:35 pm CST

mainly pro, but a little con

I had gastric bypass surgery eight years ago at the age of 19, heighth of 5'7", weight 335.  I would do it again in a heartbeat.  Although I now weigh about 190, which is still considered obese, I wear a size 12-14 and have never had any type of tummy tuck or other surgeries to reduce the amount of excess skin.  I no longer have high blood pressure, and although I was iron-deficient anemic at my lowest weight (about 168), I have since become normal, as far as iron levels go, and I have maintained my weight (although not my lower, unhealthy weight) for about four years now.  My insurance (my parents', b/c I was a full time student), did not cover the surgery, but my parents borrowed from their 401(k) plan to pay for it.  It was DEFINITELY worth it, because I was committed to making a change for the better.  However, in my case, there was virtually no post- or pre- operative medical support, be it physical or psychological.  I would advise anybody who is seriously considering this surgery to decide if they are willing to make the lifestyle changes required.  If the answer is yes, than I would suggest that they receive some psychological or psychiatric support both pre and post op.  That would have made lots of difference for me, especially because I was so young, although I am still thrilled at the outcome of the surgery 8 years later. 
 
February 17, 2007, 3:52 am CST

Thanks for the posts

Thanks to everyone that posted and emailed me to bring comfort.  I will do my best to get as much help and accountability as possible.  Although I am not chemically dependent I do not want to get to that point.  Everyone that posted and emailed has great nuggets of truth that I will keep with me as I grieve my losses.  I can't begin to say all the tragic things that have happened in the past year but I am ready to face them.  I am truly blessed with a great family and marriage and I want to hold on to them as long as I can.  Thanks again for all of your support.  gastricbypassqueen@yahoo.com
 
February 26, 2007, 1:05 pm CST

Hang in there

Quote From: jennajones

I had the gastric bypass surgery in 2000.  I used to weigh close to 270 and went down to 170 and kept most of it off.  I have recently developed a bad habit. I thought I had my life under control. I was ready to lose weight at the time. I did it! I had a lot of very recent tragedies happen all at once that threw me off. I am drinking 3-6 alcoholic drinks 3-5X weekly at night time.  I don't like myself. I'm afraid to tell anyone. I am afraid for my children, for my husband and ultimately for myself. I am so ashamed I can barely write this email. I can't see the screen real well through the tears. I wish I had the courage to come forward and tell someone that could help me. I could lose my job if anyone found out. My job is very "image" oriented.  Even though I never drink and drive or drink alone I cannot take this anymore. I am a fraud. I am lonely and I am tired of my bad coping skill. Any words of encouragement are welcome. gastricbypassqueen@yahoo.com
     Your quote brought back memories. I did the same thing, I started drinking to cope. That was over 10 years ago I quite. I was afraid to tell anyone or get help because I am a professional and I didn't want people to know how screwed up I was. I felt alone and cryed all the time. I ended up in a recovery center because it took me to deep levels where I hope you don't have to go. I refused to go to AA because I was afraid to see someone who knew me. Well, things worsened and I finally was forced to go. It was the best thing I ever did as far as make positive changes, it taught me so much, the 12 step program. I had such pride and ego that it was killing me. I had to get humble to save myself from suicide because I was headed in that direction. You are not alone. The first step is to admit it and deal with it. Its funny but everyone already knew, they were just waiting for me to step out and say it.
 
March 5, 2007, 5:30 am CST

Im Not Sure Where To Post This Im In 2 Catagories

I'm 32 5'5 and as of yesterday i weighed 350lbs After i turned 16 i started gaining and couldn't control it i have dieted all my life and yet it never has helped As of last April i became disabled due to an injury at work I fell on some ice (I was a Certified Nurses Aide) I tore the Miniscis Disk in my left knee and required immediate surgery After the surgery i had no feeling or movement in 3 of my toes and i was unable to walk or sit in a chair for long My fiance waited on me hand and foot bathed me and everything while i was on bed rest My leg was so swelling i couldn't do anything During my checkup with the surgeon i was sent to the hospital for a ultrasound of my knee and was then admitted into the hospital for a week because i had a blood clot on my knee They started me on blood thinners and after a week i was sent home still unable to walk and do things for myself A week went by and i was no better but getting worse I was rushed back to the hospital and was told i had yet another blood clot on top of the other one A specialist was then given my case and allot of blood work was taking looking for the reason why i had developed the clots in the first place I had a clot years ago when i was 20 and had a miscarriage and was put on birth control to soon Then started on  blood thinners for a year It was located in my opposite leg after But they knew that wasn't the reason for this set of clots I spent another week in the hospital and finally came home A month later i was relieved of my job It couldn't be held for me any longer I was receiving workers compensation After a month i went to see the specialist to find out what he had learned from the blood work and it wasn't good news I had tested positive for Lupus Anticoagulant Which meant my blood clots and my body think its got to fight off its own cells and antibodies And I'm at high risk for developing full blown Lupus as i get older So now I'm disabled because the damage to my leg from the clots is so severe it cant be rehabilitated and i now recieve SSI/SSD I cant work ever again I cant walk farther than a block I cant sit in a chair longer than 2 hours a day I cant lift more than 15lbs and i have gained an extra 100lbs since it all happened I am unable to do allot of the things i used to do that i loved I'm a outdoorsy person and yet i cant go camping because i wouldn't be able to sleep on the ground let alone get on the ground to sleep I cant go fishing because i cant sit there long enough to catch anything I'm in serious need of some help with my weight before it kills me I know if i have the surgery and i start to lose some weight i will be able to do more than i can now i would be able to possibly walk farther or sit without my leg swelling up or even just take a fishing trip with my Fiance and enjoy a day outside our apartment His family lives in Baltimore MD and we have visited but i have yet to see the ocean because its all walking and i cant do it We are getting married this August 18th 2007 and I'm happy to be able to walk enough to make it down the isle But i wish i could look allot better than i do Just for that one day After all he has been thru with me and all he has done and still does for me It would be the greatest thing in the world for me to give him at least that first dance at the reception I'm speaking to my family Dr about options and I'm looking into joining the YMCA near us and I'm going to try and do what i can to lose some weight myself but its extremely hard when i am disabled in this way I wish i could have a fairy godmother and make it happen

 
March 7, 2007, 8:01 pm CST

update on husband

My husband has his laparoscopic gastric bypass on November 2, 2006.  He has lost approximately 90 pounds and has been happily closet-shopping!  He has gotten back into clothes that he hasn't worn in ten years.  The other day, he had to fly for a business trip and didn't need the seatbelt extender on the plane.  He was really excited also because the tray table folded all the way down without touching his belly.  I'm really happy for him.  Some people have said they wouldn't do what he did because he can't enjoy a good meal anymore.  He does.......just not as large of one.  I'm just happy that I'll probably have him around a lot longer now and I know that his self-esteem is way up too.  I think it was a good thing for him and I encourage anyone who is considering it to find a wonderful doctor like Dr. Hargroder in Baton Rouge. 
 
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