So, I was wondering, if your child (20) and away at college, and has a b/f. and I feel, he speaks in a disrespectful way to me, and I've told my daughter but she doesn't say/do anything what I should do? She's been with him, for over 1 yr. now. I went out there, to spend time with my daughter and said I would like to meet him/take them out to lunch. But, that didn't happen. He didn't seem to make time?? Again, my daughter doesn't say anything. Should I talk about it again, OR just drop it? I mean, she says it's not serious, and yet I feel it is. I mean, he gave her a ring with a diamond. Yet, she says it's nothing...
I'm just feeling very uncomfortable about this whole situation. Maybe, I'm old-fashion, and from the 'old-school' where parents MEET the guy she's with...and the 'guy' is VERY respectful!! OR ELSE lol...When I was out there, the 2nd day. (I rented a car) and my daughter ask if she could take it, to see him. I said she could, since she said it was just a short while. She called me, and ask ME if THEY could take HIS mom out to dinner..NEVER inviting me?!? I couldn't believe it...so, I go very hurt/confused/upset...HIS mom lives where they do..I'm 8-9 hrs. away...my daughter later, said she was wrong and sorry..but, still it remains in my head, that it was HIS idea...because, later things got worse, my daughter was just all over the place with emotions, because she missed him..and it was HER that ask me to come see her...anyway, I called him, because things just getting worse and worse...He hung up on me..which made me upset..then, his voice was VERY disrespectful when he answered..anyway, I went home early...and it took 1 yr. to finally get things better between her and I..and I ask her, if her b/f could just send me a card..saying, that next time I'm up, he'd like to get together..and yet, nothing...Anyone have any suggestions??
Dee
