Topic : General Advice

Your little polly pocket grew up into a selfish monster. 

I'm curious to know, you said your husband isnt her father but has been her dad since she was 8 months old, does Ashley know her biological father at all? She sounds like an extremely angry young lady, and that could be one of her anger issues, among many.  

Its very, very sad that your other two children feel that they need to walk on egg shells around their sister. Why, at age 19, is she still living at home when she makes everyone's life miserable? There needs to be serious concequences. The reason that she treats you all like this is because she can. Plain and simple. You know how dr. phil says, "you teach people how to treat you"... well, you all have bowed down to Queen Ashley for so long, she assumes that the world is going to, also. She is in for a totally RUDE awakening when she gets out into the real world. My advice to you is to take back control. Your family shouldn't be living their lives, skirting around Ashley and her issues. That is so not fair to all of you!! You deserve to have a peaceful home, why don't you create that for your family? Starting right now, you must take back your personal power from Ashley. She is old enough to understand concequences and rules- its time to get tough!! Mom, don't back down. If you keep up like this, you are going to have so many regrets. Please do this for all of you!! 

yes ashley knows chet(my  husband) isnt her father and she has meet him,she found out  a year ago from my cousins and aunt and uncle when  i was in florida 1700 miles and chet was here with the kids.I had gone to visit my parents who had moved their i was only gone 6 days.Ashley had been told this while she was at a wedding.She was a little upset told her cousin to take her home so she could talk to chet. They talked for hours and explained to her why we did not tell her sooner,then they called me in florida and chet told me what was going on.I as my parents and grandpants were so mad that they would tell her this when we werent around ,and who the hell are they to tell her this.So I talked to her for a very long time and explained to her why,as did my parents and sister.Much to our suprise she took the news VERY WELL.She chet a long letter saying how it did not matter he was not her real dad and she still LOVED him,he will always be her father.Well she still lives at home because she has NO MONEY...YES their needs to concequences but what she doesnt listen.I bow down because i cant take the anger and madness that she has.I agree she is in for RUDE awakeningwhen she goes out on her own.How do you take back CONTROLL.I dont know how to take back controll?I want to so bad I ,and chet, and haleigh, and Alex havent had a peacefull home in a very long time.HOW DO YOU GIVE CONCEQUENCES AND RULES TO A 19 YEAR OLD WHO DOESNT LISTEN TO ANYONE.i WANT TO GET TOUGH but i dont know where to start.I do not want to have regets! I so want to be able to talk to her !I dont want her to be a throw away young adult.      

My daughter had taken Adderall XR 30 mg for the last 2 1/2 years, Her hormones are changing and they just changed her meds. they now have her on Concerta 20 mg. The doctor did say we have room to go up in the Med.  

I know i did a lot of research on the meds and ADD/ADHD. The meds will most likely not kill your son. All medications have bad side effects. If you look at any label they have to tell you what the most common side effects were during clinical trials and also what the adverse effects are. They are usually based on less than 5 percent of the people.  

However, you son should be having an Appt. with the doctor every 2-4 months in the beginning then they can be longer in the duration. My daughter was going about every 4-6 month before they changed the med. She has been on the new med for about 3-4 weeks now and she seems to like it. Back to what I was saying about Appt. If you still have him on the Meds, you have soo many rights and reasons to complain. If your doctor will not se your child call your insurance company and file a complaint. If that doesn't work you can always call/write and complain to his National Board. All doctors are required to register and continue there education. He will be listed. It just might take some work. He should also be having his weight and Blood pressure monitored. You can also do that. A pretty good website that I have found pretty informative was DRUGS.COM  

I hope this may have helped a little... 

Hi, I hope somebody might have a little advice for me. I have a 13 year son in seventh grade. Over the past two years he has had problems in school. He has had problems being responsible completing assignments. He also had an on going problem with the boy who lived across the street: teasing him, throwing things at him and being a real pest, (maybe bully). He has since moved. This year it has been the same thing, quit a few in school detentions, and basically verbal sexual harassment of a girl in his science class.Also, another boy was involved with this. Needless to say I was mortified, than out raged and wanted to ring his neck. I've also recently caught him in allot of lies about school and money disappearing from around the house. 

     My husband and I have done all the typical, normal, common sense disciplinary actions as well as contact all the teachers and staying in touch with them. So far none if this is working. I'm afraid of where this behavior might lead if we can't get a grip on itThe one common thread that all the teachers say is he tries to be the class clown. 

   I know this is an incomplete explanation of the situation but I"m all out of ideas and would love to have some advice or suggestions. I am seriously considering military school but there is not one close to us and I can't afford the tuition. 

   We have 3 other children and my son is the 3rd child. So we do have some parenting experience.