Topic : General Advice

Today I start the Dr Phil diaries, even though I have been documenting feelings, and facts for years now.  I have email lists a mile long of documentation to our Family Counselor, who is a Doctor of Child Pyschology, several teachers of both my children, family members and attorneys.  I wasa told to document all the many, many screwed up situations my kids are placed in by their Mother.  Day in and Day out, the list grows.  EVERYONE who is aware of or knows us feels the same and agrees that this woman has to be out of this world.  The problem is, for some reason, the great state of Florida has certain manners of going through the child custody process, and a series of errors on the part of the court ordered assessor, and thus the judicial system, caused the kids to be placed with a mother who has been the biggest source of the emotional problems the kids have, and even in the course of the divorce and custody hearing, as an expert witness, the Doctor of Child Psychology stated she had overwhelming concerns about the state of the children and the emotional, mental and physical abuse by the mother to the children, the court awarded her with the primary residential custody.  Several other witness' testified on behalf of the father and yet NODODY would come forward to testify for the mother, to include the person who accomplished the Parent Assessment.  The person who accomplished the assessment is currently facing several counts of violation of Florida Statutes reference his assessment, to include practising without a license, advertising himself to be a Doctor of Psychology, failure to follow the guidelines of gathering several different methods of data for the knowledge of placement of the children, as well as several other.  Thus, when he ruled each parent equally fit to provide for the care and well being of the children, he placed inadequate information in the courts hands to make a viable decision on the well being of the children.  This person has a histroy of deception and fraud in his qualifications as he advertises, and this was unknown to the father until after the assessment was released to the court.  The problem is the court made the decision based on the filed assessment, and because the charges placed against the assessor haven't been completed and a hearing accomplished yet, the court declined a motion for re-hearing, and so the kids remain in a volatile environment.  I guess I rambled, but have not scratched the surface.

I am having trouble with consequences????  My son is 15, he works full time during the day (for his summer holidays, back to school in the fall) He seems to think he can do what he wants, come and go when he pleases.  He will leave the house when he gets home from work, and we tell him to be back shortly as supper is being prepared.  He doesn't call or come home until bed time.  Last weekend he didn't even come home. 

What can you do do get him to take us seriously? Take his skateboard away?  But what if he used his own money to buy it?  Can I take it away when it is his?  (he bought it with his money he made by working)

I need some suggestions on consequences.....Please help!  Thanks!