Topic : General Advice

Hi everyone,

My ex husband is an alcoholic and has a bad temper.  We just got divorced and I have full custody and supervised visitation in order.  For the last year the visits were supervised by his parents and it was working out fine.  My son coudl go there and have fun and I felt he was safe.  However, about 2 weeks ago my ex came over unexpectedly and started an argument.  I got my son in the house but then he kept yelling through a window which I coudlnt' get closed because of him.  He left but then came back again and tried to yell some more, this time the window was shut because I shut it as soon as he left.  I picked up the phone and started dialing the RCMP's number and then he punched the window that my 2 year old was standing in front of.  I talked to the police, pressed charges and got restraining orders against him. 

However, he came back a week later and was n my property and broke a beer bottle on my deck. 

I called the cops again but there was nothign they could do because I didnt' see him do it and had no proof that it was him. 

I have since decided to move to get away from him and have a normal life as he is trying to make mine hell by staying where I am. 

I am so upset becauyse I just moved here one year ago and have bought a house for my son and I and am near family and friends and am lovign the small city life.  I'm upset because my son and I are always the ones that have to adjust and he keeps living his merry little life. 

My biggest question to everyone is how do I deal with my son constantly asking for his daddy.  His  dad is a good dad when he is sober, and not angry, he has always paid child support and has spent a lot of time with his son in the past..

I have contemplated letting him see him supervised by a Social Services Worker but I just dont' know what to do.  I feel so confused.  If it wasn't for my son asking for him everyday and telling me how much he loves his daddy everyday I just would move and forget about him but he asks to go see him everyday and i keep having to tell him he is at work because I dont' knwo what else to tell him.  He is so little and innocent and doesn't know what is happening.  I am scared he is going to feel abandoned by his father if I don't let him see him.  I just do not know what to do.  I am so torn both ways.  I would never let him see him alone ever but part of me feels like he just doesn't deserve to see this little boy that loves and admires him when he can act the way he did in front of him.  I just need some advice from others who have been in this situation.

I wish I coudl be a cold hearted witch but I can't.  It is killing me that my son is hurting and missing his dad.  what do I do?

My daughter quit talking to me after her mother and I divorced and  I remarried.  I keep trying to contact her but she rejects my emails, cards,ect..  It has been 10 years.  Do I stop and leave her alone?  I would so very much like to have her in our life and family. 

Hi, I am new to these posts but I'm hoping someone can help me.  My son who is 11, has always been awesome; very polite, well mannered and obedient.  recently he has been flipping out when he doesn't get his way.  He will yell, cry, stomp upstais, hide under his bed, and just talk hateful and disrectful in general.  When he is talked to about his actions he plays the victim.  Or turns the focus to his sister.  There's always a reason why he's acting like this, nervous about middle school, or starting band, upset with mom or dad, sister, whatever he can come up with.  recently he has been hurting himself; biting and scratching. He is my first child and this is all new to me.  You also should know I am divorced.  Brady took it very hard.  He was in counseling for a while.  Dad is not very responsible but I don't want to keep thinking the problems are divorce related.  Also Brady is an A student and is in a couple honors classes.  My question is, What do I do to get a handle on this before it gets bad?  How much is his age?  Thanksfor any help your guys can offer.

My 11 year old daughter who will be starting the 6th grade this year and just found out that none of the friends that she is friendly with are in her class this school year. This was going to be the best year for her because this is the last year of elementary school, after this year she will be going to the high school. Yes we have 7th grade through 12th grade all in one school. She spent the whole day cring and as a parent your heart breaks for them and want to do anything just to make them feel better. I am worried about what the new school year will be like, I don't want her to start hating school. She is friends with the children in her class but nobody that she hangs out with. She  kind of has the kids that are mean sometimes and my daughter Jennifer is not mean to anybody and is kind of shy. She has had breakdowns in class and home when you say somthing to her the wrong way she will cry and just not look at you. She did it more when she was younger but does it now and then  now. I don't want her to feel bullied or left out of the good friends that she does hang out with because she is not in that class. Kids can be very mean sometimes.

How do you get your daughter to talk to you?? We are close I mean we have the family that still eates together most of the time. I tell her all the time that she can tell me anything anytime. I think sometimes she is even shy with me. Please can someone give me any advise to help her and myself get through this school year. Thank you