Topic : General Advice

I'm not sure if anyone can help me, but I could sure use some advice right now. My 17 year old daughter recently came to live with me. She had been living with her dad and stepmom and they kept locking her out of the house and she claimed that her dad was hitting her. Well, she has lived with me for 6 months. Before she moved here, I knew of her drug abuse, her dad had told me. Well, recently she met this guy, I was totally against her going out and dating him just because I didn't like the way he looked, he just looked like a bum. Well, when she first moved here with me, she and I were so close. Then, along came the boyfriend, she changed, it was like she was another person. Well, I kept coming up short on my hormone pills, and I didn't suspect anything until it happened for 2 months in a row and the pharmacist brought it to my attention. By the way, they are blue and look like a valium. I still believe she had taken them. About a month after she was here my husband had back surgery about a year ago and still had some pain medication left. Well, one day when he went to take one, there were only a few in there and he knew he didn't take them. So, I took it upon myself one day while she was outside to go into her purse and search, low and behold there they were. She had taken them. That is when I knew she was on drugs. Well, now the boyfriend she is with comes in. He came over to my home one morning and walked through my house, I thought him and her were going out to get something out of his truck, they went outside and he left squealing tires and leaving like a mad man. Well, I asked her when she came in what his problem was and she said that he was mad because I told him that he couldn't come back. I never even said anything to him. My husband and I were at our counter going over our bills, neither of us said anything to her or him. Well, I went into her room and told her that if that is the way he drives then she isn't to get back into the truck with him again. That is when things went bad. My husband and I had to go into town for something and when we came back she came into the living room and told me that she was leaving going over to his house to live. I then said " by whose authority, you are only 17" and she told me " by the authortity of the sherriff's office" well, I had her going to night classes to get her diploma at that time and it was on the night she was to go. Well, she came in  the living room and picked up my husbands cell phone because I was on my home phone, and called the boyfriend. I got off of the phone and went into her room to get the cell phone because she wasn't going to leave with his phone. I tried to get the phone from her and that is when she began pushing me and sprang 2 of my fingers and bruised my back. and she cut my leg with a knife. She just kept on yelling at me to hit her, I guess so that the boyfriend could hear her tell me that. Well, I yelled for my husband to call the police and that is when he came in the room and she just stood up and handed him the phone. So, she walked outside and stood at the end of our driveway, waiting on him to get here. When he did get here he waited for her at the end of the road, which is a major highway, she started running when she saw that my husband was running after her. He backed into the main highway and a car almost hit on her side of the truck. All of this for something that I know she will regret. She had to be high on something that day because she was very powerful. Anyway, I ended up pressing charges on her because she dislocated L4 and L5 in my back . Now, her father, who was very abusive to me when we were married, has sent me a very naughty letter telling me that I have once again failed her and that I have pushed her out of my life again. Can someone please tell him if I made the right choice or not??? Please someone help me. I feel like I'm on the edge and I'm about to fall.. She has come to get her things a week after she left. She told me the day she left that she was an adult and that she wanted to be on her own and wanted to be left alone. Now, her dad is blaming me.. Telling me that I have left her now again with nowhere to go.. Can someone please help me before I go over the edge.. I really need a friend right now... I can't talk to my husband anymore about this because he has high blood pressure and don't need this stress to add to that. Any advice would be very grateful.. 

Thanks, 

I'm not sure if anyone can help me, but I could sure use some advice right now. My 17 year old daughter recently came to live with me. She had been living with her dad and stepmom and they kept locking her out of the house and she claimed that her dad was hitting her. Well, she has lived with me for 6 months. Before she moved here, I knew of her drug abuse, her dad had told me. Well, recently she met this guy, I was totally against her going out and dating him just because I didn't like the way he looked, he just looked like a bum. Well, when she first moved here with me, she and I were so close. Then, along came the boyfriend, she changed, it was like she was another person. Well, I kept coming up short on my hormone pills, and I didn't suspect anything until it happened for 2 months in a row and the pharmacist brought it to my attention. By the way, they are blue and look like a valium. I still believe she had taken them. About a month after she was here my husband had back surgery about a year ago and still had some pain medication left. Well, one day when he went to take one, there were only a few in there and he knew he didn't take them. So, I took it upon myself one day while she was outside to go into her purse and search, low and behold there they were. She had taken them. That is when I knew she was on drugs. Well, now the boyfriend she is with comes in. He came over to my home one morning and walked through my house, I thought him and her were going out to get something out of his truck, they went outside and he left squealing tires and leaving like a mad man. Well, I asked her when she came in what his problem was and she said that he was mad because I told him that he couldn't come back. I never even said anything to him. My husband and I were at our counter going over our bills, neither of us said anything to her or him. Well, I went into her room and told her that if that is the way he drives then she isn't to get back into the truck with him again. That is when things went bad. My husband and I had to go into town for something and when we came back she came into the living room and told me that she was leaving going over to his house to live. I then said " by whose authority, you are only 17" and she told me " by the authortity of the sherriff's office" well, I had her going to night classes to get her diploma at that time and it was on the night she was to go. Well, she came in  the living room and picked up my husbands cell phone because I was on my home phone, and called the boyfriend. I got off of the phone and went into her room to get the cell phone because she wasn't going to leave with his phone. I tried to get the phone from her and that is when she began pushing me and sprang 2 of my fingers and bruised my back. and she cut my leg with a knife. She just kept on yelling at me to hit her, I guess so that the boyfriend could hear her tell me that. Well, I yelled for my husband to call the police and that is when he came in the room and she just stood up and handed him the phone. So, she walked outside and stood at the end of our driveway, waiting on him to get here. When he did get here he waited for her at the end of the road, which is a major highway, she started running when she saw that my husband was running after her. He backed into the main highway and a car almost hit on her side of the truck. All of this for something that I know she will regret. She had to be high on something that day because she was very powerful. Anyway, I ended up pressing charges on her because she dislocated L4 and L5 in my back . Now, her father, who was very abusive to me when we were married, has sent me a very naughty letter telling me that I have once again failed her and that I have pushed her out of my life again. Can someone please tell him if I made the right choice or not??? Please someone help me. I feel like I'm on the edge and I'm about to fall.. She has come to get her things a week after she left. She told me the day she left that she was an adult and that she wanted to be on her own and wanted to be left alone. Now, her dad is blaming me.. Telling me that I have left her now again with nowhere to go.. Can someone please help me before I go over the edge.. I really need a friend right now... I can't talk to my husband anymore about this because he has high blood pressure and don't need this stress to add to that. Any advice would be very grateful.. 

Thanks,