Topic : General Advice

well i gave my daughter a few days to see if things were going to get better, which they didnt. i called the doctor and he put both girls on antibiotics today. after the phone call, i was holding my daughter and she shoved my finger in her mouth, and she had her first tooth. i guess it made things a little worse. hopefully with the medicine they will get to feeling better.

first thing first, set the rules, think of things he does that you hate the most and and have a sit down you and daddy and sonny, and talk about what he does and how it will be handled, a 2 min time out, in ________ corner, or stairs. now that he has been warned, get ready for a challenge. No 1-2-3 when a persone bites, it is wrong right of the bat, no 3 warnings, when child bites, it should be the same!! same thing for spiting, hitting and cussing, anything that is unapropiate!! now that he has been warned how things will work, start it and finishe it!!!

When he is in his fit mode, or does something inapropriate, just go down on your knees in front of him and softly but firmly say, " what you are doing is unaxeptable, you will have a 2 min time out" that's it, that's all!! no more, no less. put him in a corner, but alway's use that corner, Me I sit my kids in the stairs, put a timer on so when it beeps he will here it,

If he does not stay in the corner, gentrly take him back, and say " your 2 min will start only when you stay" no more, if he still gets out, put him back, no words!!!! even if it lasts 30 min, don't stop until he acutally stay's the full 2 min!!!!! It will take time but it will work belive me!!! no yelling, no arm grabbing, no mean tone of voice, just a firm, commanding voice, not a loving soft voce, but stick it thtought or else it will just tell him " so if I yell long enough and hard enough my mom gives in and I get what I want, o.k. let's play this game!!" get it? so play it for you to win!!!

good luck and keep me posted, it is hard but it is harder when he turns 6 or 13 or 16 get it! do it now!!!!

Recently there have been more deaths from the ‘choking game’. I am hoping you will post this additional information for your readers. Thank you for helping to spread awareness on this killer of our children, thank you for recognizing the urgency.
Sarah Pacatte, Gabriel Mordecai’s mom

Educational and Informational resources are available online, most of them free of charge.

D.A.R.E. / Police officer Scott Metheny has developed a power point presentation which is downloadable online at:

WWW.http://DeadlyGamesChildrenPlay.com
aka
WWW.http://StopTheChokingGame.com

Officer Metheny, along with parent Carol Connelly who’s son Steven Connelly’s died as a result of another high risk, thrill seeking asphyxiation activity have given many school presentations in an effort to bring awareness to society of this deadly, wicked killer.

Human Relations Media Educational Publishers have also created a cd / video for distribution:

Product Awards
CINE Golden Eagle Award

This program exposes “the choking game”…a shockingly foolish and deadly activity among 9-14 year olds that has resulted in the tragic deaths of children across the country. Through interviews with children who have participated in the “game”, siblings and parents of children who have died, and experts and physicians, young viewers get the straight and alarming facts about just how dangerous this “game” is. One young teen describes his personal experiences with the “game” and how his twin brother Gabriel died from it in an attempt to get high without drugs. Dr. Thomas Andrew, a medical examiner, describes what actually happens to the brain when the blood flow gets cut off causing brain damage and possible death. A parent describes and details the tragic death of her son in an attempt to prevent others from the same fate. Gives young viewers information explaining the difference between healthy and dangerous risk taking.
Includes Pre- and Post-Tests Running Time: 19 minutes
Click here for online preview:

http://www.hrmvideo.com/items.cfm?action=view&item_id=2864&type=&search_keywords=

http://209.35.211.201/quicktime/thechokinggame_384k.wmv

Since losing my 13 year old son Gabriel to this ‘game’ on May 6, 2005, over 140 others have fallen victim to it. Education, warning and awareness can and has saved lives.

Ignorance is not bliss,
Sarah Pacatte, Gabriel Mordecai’s mom

http://StillLovingMyGabriel.com

I had a realationship about 2 years ago the girl got pregnant she told me the child was not mine so I moved on.  Now 2 years later I find out that the baby might be mind but the girl will not give me a paternity test.  What should my next step be?

have a 3 year old daughter who refuses to do anything she is told to do. For example If it is dinner time if I don't make her what she wants to eat she will not eat one bite of the food given to her. I have made her sit at the table until she eats something (like our parents use to do) , Sometimes she'll sit there for an hour and not eat one bite. And its food she has eaten many times, so its not as if she just does not like it.

She will refuses to go potty on her "big girl potty" unless she wants too. She'll pee in her panties and wear them until I notice what she has done, So the whole leave them on her advice doesn't work cause she doesn't mind it.

Just anything she does not want to do she does not do, regardless if I put her in time out, get down to her level and talk to her and try to explain to her, or spanking her. Nothing is working. I don't know what to do anymore. I've done everything I know to do.

We (my wife and I) know what your going thru we have a three yr old boy with that good ol' stubborn streak.  What we found that works is to make it his job wether it is using the potty or eating.  With eating we let him help us cook, doing little things like mixing with a sponn or ripping up lettuce makes him feel like he helped make the supper.  Then when he does eat we telhim he did a great a job.  With the potty thing it took patience and time.  We made it his job to change his pullup (only when wet) and explained to him as best we could about jobs and helping out and day by day he caught on(there were times when i wanted to scream).  Then as he got better we would give him little rewards of things he liked wether it was reading a new book with him or letting him watch cars for the millionth time.  Hope this helps have  great day. Billy