Quote From: kmstepina I am not new to Dr.Phil or his website- but I am deciding to post here because I feel like I could use some help and am at a loss as to where else to turn..
Four months ago I left my husband after he cheated on me for the 3rd time. I am now a single mother to a one year old and an almost 3 year old- and back in the working world for the first time in three years!
I did well for the first few months because I kept really busy with friends and my kids- recently I have started to feel very overwelmed with life-- like its out of control. I can no longer multi task at work- I freak out when things get hectic and I am not the mother I want to be to my children! I no longer have much patients with them and most days I don't even sit and play with them anymore-
I have decided to see my dr. and see what he says-- but I am just so confused-- should I have left my husband...did I do the right thing...I hate that other people are raising my girls while I work 40 plus hours a week away from them...
How will I ever get the money to go to court and file for my divorce...whats the next step? How do I stop blaming myself and thinking that I wasn't good enough for my husband...
Will someone ever love a 24 year old mother of 2 with an ex husband? Isn't that a lof of baggage!
I think I need Dr. Phil to come to my home and shake me really hard and make me wake up-- somedays are ok-- otherdays I wake up and the whole day is a whirlwind from beginging to end-- likes life is just going on around me and I am going in slow motion--
Am I crazy? Do I make any sence?
Kristen in Colorado
first i want to say that you express yourself very well in writing!!! when you asked did i make since i thought omg i feel like i am there wathcing it happen!!! you should write more often i thiknkk thta will do you a lot of good!!! sometimes when we don't know whats going on around us and we seem to forget how to cry or are overwhelmed you cry so much writing is a very good way to let it out kind of like away to just release some stuff.
wow when i saw you were 24 i thought awwwwww so much for such a younge lady (hehe i am almost 24 and haaaa i haven't even been on a date) o but i will meet mr right one day...... anyway back to you....... it isn't your fault that this happened i mean it's not like you said honey can you cheat on me....... not at all he was selfish and thought he could find something somewhere that he is never going to find it!!! it is not your fault!!!!
i think there are a lot of situations where people do fine the first bit and then boooommm it hits and everything seems to spin out of control once total reality sets and things are just seeming to fall in place...... i can understand why you would hate to leave your kids with everyone else while you work....... it must be one of the hardest decisions you have made...... you are going through so much at such a younge age and guess what it can get better.
actually i know 3 women who go to my church that had three children (one had 2 i think though) and they lived in one bedroom place with all their kids..... 2 of them had no car and the other her car was on it's last leg........ they started coming to the church and letting Jesus be Lord,King, Provider and all those other things in lessthena month they had a better job (one just got better hours and a raise) the one who needed a better car got one and the two taht didn't have one got one...... they came to our church for a food and clothing ministry we do never know that one time of going to a church was going to be what changed their life forever........ well i said all this to say that i have all faith that God can do the same for you..... i don't know if you are a believer but i am and i will be sure to have you in my prayers......... God can do amazing things....... oo by the way all 3 of the ladies also get to spend more time with their kids!!!!
