Topic : Depression

I did watch the show last night.  It was funny, but some folks sure embarrased themselves.  Another show I laugh with is King of Queens.  Thanks for thinking of me.  Lots o love back at ya.  ggma

can i ask a question? if i'm a stay at home mom? does that make me worthless? am i a loser? do i not belong with the rest of the world? am i so beneath all of everyone that i should just commit suicide right now? because according to my husband thats what i should do. and i'm fat, and stupid, and what happened to me as a child was a gift because i'm so ugly that thats all that would take me. i give up. i cook, i clean, i take care of our kids, i wake him up whe he needs it, i make sure he has gas, cigarettes, and make sur the house is clean. believe me i'm not the type of woman who lets her man beat her down; i've seen that happen. i've been there done that. i just  try to have everyone get along.... is that so wrong? i can't deal with this crap...i gotta go

GGMA explained it to me the other day why it happens. 

  

  

hpy_campr 

I would still like to know what you think about setting boundaries and what works for you. It is great to have a general idea about boundaries but something a little more would be helpful. This is something that I know I really need to do and something that I want to start right away. Alot of problems with everyone is that I let them cross the boundaries, even with the kids and picking up their things because it is easier to just let it go than to fight with them all the time. 

  

Laurie 

You are DEFINITELY NOT worthless.  Or a loser.  

  

You have the MOST IMPORTANT job in the entire world.  It is also the most maligned.  I, too, am a stay at home mum and wouldn't have it any other way.  I am proud of it.  My children have me 24/7.  It gets tiring, but it's what they need.  A "switched on" mother.  My kids are better spoken than their cousins, who spent most of their weeks in child care.  Mine also are able to visit with their grandparents any time.  

  

The one who should leave sounds like your husband.  He has very little understanding or empathy for the position you have taken in deciding to stay home for your family.  He is disrespecting you by saying the things he does.  DON'T LET HIM GET AWAY WITH IT ANYMORE.  You are worth more than that.  

  

I hope I haven't overstepped the boundaries by saying those things.  I just want to give you something to think about from a different perspective.  

  

YOU ARE NOT WORTHLESS !!!!!  Remember that. Please.  

Ruthieg  

   





  

No you are NOT a loser. I don't know what it is with men, they want their wives to stay at home then they don't give them the credit they deserve. If he had to do it, he would have a different outlook but probably only while he was doing it, he would soon forget. For one they don't see things we do that need to be done, they think they pick up their stuff and they are helping out but what about all the other stuff, do they think things don't get dirty on their own (dust, the kitchen floor, the fridge) Andre and I just had a discussion about housework, if I just pick up my stuff then it would be easy to clean. Let see I get the groceries put them away, cook supper all this after work and then I am supposed to pick my stuff up and clean house, while he MOWS the LAWN and fixes things outside, sigh, LOL they will never understand. Second I think some men get a thrill out of making their wives feel bad, a friend of mine is going through the same thing you are, they don't have kids but she makes all his meals even lunch to take to work and her house is spotless, she renovates the house, paints you name it, I don't think he knows how to use a screwdriver. But he tells her pretty much the same thing. 

  

Laurie  

That is a very good point. 

  

Ruthieg 

Good evening everyone. Hope you are all doing well tonight.

I think I have dated a few of those guys myself. That is to cute.

My wife gave me an article out of a magazine a few weeks ago about the pain loop.  And that's what it was all about.  All the chemicals and medications had my body locked into a huge loop of pain and it took going through total hell to get beyond it.   But thank God, I am done with it.  

   

She has been telling me that if I could get off of all these medications I would probably feel a lot better.  I agreed with her, but it was hard to do, but God forced me to do it because I begged him to heal my pain.  So anyone who does not belive in prayers, you better believe.  

   

I appreciate your concern.  I realized that we have more power over our bodies than we realize, and sometimes it takes extreme suffering to get over this pain loop.   

   

I have great news!  As we all know, God does answer prayers! AMEN!   

    

I have been going through the worst physical pains and withdrawal symptoms of my entire life.  But on Monday I got down on my knees and prayed!  I prayed that God would release me from these demons of pains and suffering, and I asked God to show the way!   

    

I asked God to heal me and make me whole!    

    

GOD ANSWERS PRAYERS!     

    

    

I am healed!  By chance, I stopped taking the Tramadol HCL or Ultram because it was hurting my stomach.  As soon as it wore off, my neck and back pains went away like magic!  I wondered if this was coincidental.   

    

I asked my pharmacist if Tramadol HCL causes pain and/or muscle tightness.  He looked it up and said that indeed it does!  He handed me the pamphlet that comes with the medication and told me to show it to my doctors.  It clearly states that Tramadol HCL causes HYPERTONIA, which is severe muscle tightness.    

    

The printout that comes with the medication does NOT indicate that it causes Hypertonia.  But the doctors should have known.  This has been my chief complaint for 5 to 6 years!  The fact that I had severe muscle tightness in my neck, back, torso, arms, jaws, I had speech impediments.  It was all being caused by the Tramadol.  I am almost over the withdrawals of the medications, but I am still experiencing what I call after shocks,  off and on episodes of the affects of the withdrawals.   But I feel better today than I have in years.   

    

Thanks for the prayers.  GOD ANSWERS PRAYERS!     

    

    

REMEMBER: ONE ABUSED CHILD IS ONE TOO MANY   

  

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