Topic : Depression

Hi ladies.

Sue, I'm so proud of you. And YAY great to see you pop on. You've been missed. So sorry you had to be bothered by false allegations. I actually just contacted Dr. Phil about false allegations and erroneous filling in of blanks painting some fantasy rather than reality. I forgive everyone because I've filled in the wrong blanks myself before so so easy to do if you think about it... can be quite unsettling. So, let's not.

It could be "there is no reality and only perception", as Dr. Phil quotes, however, with fact finding usually some perceptions turn out to be misperceptions or out and out delusions. Not fact. Fantasies created from filling in the blanks not with facts and with assumptions.

I'm glad you have an excellent fact finding attorney. Like you, my integrity is important to me. I actually "think anyway" that I wish Dr. Phil could get me a new SS#. I heard that battered women can have that (as regards my first marriage). State of OK said I could have a new driver's license # yet I wasn't successful with a new SS#.

I want all my ducks in a row and I want any allegation about me gone over with me so can be facts not fantasy. That is, IF won't open up a can of worms anyway snowballing further into pseudo reality than already is. I'd like an apology and damages too, however, just having the record set straight sounds nice. I'm glad you got the record set straight.

itsme62 and Sue. Let me know how y'all's cities are fairing with all the rain up y'all's ways. I hope y'all's homes are on dry ground.

P.S. itsme62, I hope you had good news about your house. Perhaps, your city has a beautifcation grant program like my brother's city does that I got him on list for a little over a year ago. He just came up on list to have $25,000 improvements done to his home FREE, in 2 weeks, if he lives there 4 more years. First home has to be updated to code. Yet, he's hoping for paint inside and out, new carpet and maybe a new hot water heater, too. It took waiting a year to be his turn on list. Remember, now, you don't have to do it all at once. You have a life time. Whenever I have a home in my home town again... I'm not going to try to do all at once like I usually do. Wait for sales... Just have to's. Even appliances... I'd wait for a sale. Some churches have a nightly or weekly inexpensive meal. One church in my home town did and still may have a nightly one.

Remember, you can put up a note at churches of items you need as most would prefer a person have than nice items without room to store ending up in a junk pile. Garage and Estate Sales you pass in afternoon stop in to look around because sometimes will just say FREE. I had a FREE double door refrigerator that was in very good condition that really I didn't want to part with. Lynn decided, to be nice, to get me all new appliances. I suggested he give to his mom since her's over 20 years old yet... he didn't want to fool with. Now, wishes he had. So... lots of people replace things before need to be and I pray you'll be lucky to be lucky recipient of items given away that you need. Enter contests too. I think Room Store has a $1,000 of items FREE contest right now. I've won 2 microwaves in the past. Suzanne and her husband won a big screen TV one Christmas. So raise head up with eyes and ears open so you don't miss a single blessing prayed your way.

Hugs and prayers to y'all and all. SEA xox

Maybe you just need to vent so vent away.

Do a check list to see if anything in lifestyle could be tweaked for a more user friendly mind/body connection. Getting enough rest, fluids, balanced meals. Keeping a healthy routine and habits.

Even thought diet can need us to change dial from everything that is or has gone wrong to everything that has or could go right. Not only do I have to watch bingeing on Dove ice cream mini bit size ice cream. I have to watch bingeing running reels of less than perfect times in my life to validate my pain. Sure allow ourself to grieve yet try to get a handle so your grief doesn't control you. Sort of like Serenity Prayer:

God grant me the serenity to accept
The things I cannot change
Courage to change
the things I can change
and Wisdom
To know the difference

Panic, anxiety, and depression have been linked to shallow breathing so a physical is always a good idea with complete blood work including thyroid and hormone level test. Something physical can cause low oxygen levels as can not enough doctor approved exercise... like walks even just to corner and back.

You are wise to recognize that more than anything different at work your PMS was magnifying. Some people just take Paxil during PMS. I don't know if still done or a good idea so you'd have to research. Its for those whose hormones take them for an emotional roller coaster ride via PMS.

So sit down with pen and pad and see if anything you can do to tweak your life. Get a good physical with complete blood work and vent and chat with us while you decide what is in your best interest. Up to you. Life isn't cured it is managed.

So grab ahold of steering wheel of your life like you wouldn't just sit in a car moving down road and see what happens or where ends up.

Definitely, not punching out co-workers IS in your best interest.

Do realize that stewing over past or things you cannot change in present reflects on expressions on your face and compounds stress of anything stressful in present happening or that occurs.

So, just like hitting ten with someone might have to do with 8 parts of that resulting from a thought diet from stewing over collective perceived infractions from repertoire of when life is or was less than perfect. We all have our own personal repertoires of painful life stories. Even Dr. Phil and Robin have sad things that have happened to them.

Share whatever you feel comfortable sharing. Most of us here have vented... Including me. Most of us are just winging it on a wing and a prayer.

DR PHIL QUOTE: You're the one who talks to you all day every day. Characterize messages you send yourself by a rational and productive optimism.

You can Google: Depression Self Help Tips

Also, note above where you see "Click here for" in red "General and Mental Health Resources." Nice to meet you.

SEA

A ONE DAY BELATED... YAY!!!

What a wonderful way to have your hands full right now holding your grand daughter.

Hugs and prayers to you and yours,

SEA

 I did try to call my dr. today but of course the office closed at 4pm and i called around 4:15. Anyways! I really don't know where to start. I can go back to when I was a child, or I can go back just a few years. I do have to say atleast I know it does go way back to my childhood what has triggered it. I do keep thinking what friend can I call to vent to, but I just don't want to be that birden. I know two of my friends where already like open up will you. I can't cause I do know what my one friend has going on in her life, and I feel like she has enough going on. My other friend, I really don't belive she will know what to do, what words to say to help me. I have been there for them, all my friends that have came running to me for advice. I even sit back and think of what I have told them, Heck why can't I take the advice I give them to help me. I know I take after my father with temper. I use to punch walls and yell alot when someone would tick me off. I can say I never hit no one. My dad is a drinker, not as bad as he was when I was younger thank god. Just glad I didn't follow that. Yes he was a mean drunk. I did look up depression online and there was a little quiz to take to roughly see what kind of depreesed person I am. I am not sure how acurate the quiz is, but heck I even started balling reading the questions. UGH!!!!!!! It says I am moderately severe depressive. Doesn't sound that bad. LOL...Yes I have to laugh at that just because mainly that is what I think, it dont sound bad. I have in the past sat down and wrote things for like two days. Then after that I couldn't stick with it cause it couldn't keep my attention, pertty much borded me i guess. Heck maybe buying a punching bag will help, wont hurt the fist as much when punching a wall. HAHAHA 

Labelfree- It is so good to hear from you. It's great to see you sticking up for yourself, as you should. as always I'll  keep you in my prayers and take care.

                                                                                            aces24

Good evening all- Today has been a very long day. I spent five hours in my daughters room cleaning it. Which I was not very happy about. I pulled 6 garbage bags full of garbage and 2 garbage bags of stuff to take to the salvation army. I still need to go through her clothes and get rid of what doesn't fit her. Lord help me there. Then I went to work and now I'm home and tired. i'm going to bed for the night. Hope everyone has a good nite.

                                                     aces24

Good news: I'm NOT being petitioned after all!

Bad news: I'm being forced to move to an absolute hellhole! It's an assisted living facility downtown. I've been to it before and it is horrible! I HATE IT, but I don't get a say in the matter. I'd rather be petitioned.

Denise

         I can so relate to the PMS thing! I use to beat my mattress with a plastic baseball bat! I so wish I had never done that! I'm paying for it now! Lumpy mattresses are not fun to sleep on! Seriously though, I wouldn't worry about how much stuff your friend has going on. She may welcome a chance to get her mind off her own problems.

        I know when I'm overwhelmed with the crap going on in my own life I welcome any kind of distraction! Your friend may welcome the chance to hear about your baggage! If you are like me you can probably see the answers for other peoples problems but when it comes to your own those blinders just wont come off! I think, if the truth be known, we are ALL like that! You are blessed to have friends willing to listen to you.One thing I have learned is to not expect others to have "the right words" for you. Talking about things is all about getting them out of you! Momma use to say there's more room out than in! Granted she wasn't talking about feelings but it works! Think about talking about thing with your friends as taking the garbage out! If  you keep them bottled up they're going to get all greasy,slimy and smelly, just like the garbage in my trash can! If you talk about them and bring them out into the open and let the fresh air have them then there is much less of a stench! Oh, by the way the part about my trash can was just for humor! 

         

          They cannot force you to move without a court order! YOU have rights! See my last post for you!!! Call legal services and get an attorney to work for you!

         When it comes to my "garbage" the blinders just get darker and darker! It's so much easier to help others see the light than to go through my own darkness! I'm hoping and praying I get my tax refund SOON! If i can just go without writing another check from the insurance account I'll be okay. I filed my taxes back in FEBRUARY! They said they found a problem with it! Well, I went over it again and everything was right! I wasn't the one who filled them out though. They say I should have it within the next thirty days! I'm sure not going to hold my breath!