l lost my little sister,she was my best friend,she was only 39,she had many problems,Cancer ,Lupus
a bad heart that we all knew that could give out on her at anytime Oct,7 2007,it did. She left 3 childen behind 18,12,& 8, she was a wonderful mother,she worked very hard,I used to tell her she needed to slow down ,her reply would always be I can't if I do then nothing will get done,I do it for my children,,The kids are by three differnt fathers she had No help from any of them, she did it all ,If she wasn't working she was doing something with her kids& if she wasn't doing something w/them she was doing for them. She had a heart of gold if you needed something & she had it was yours or if she didn't have it she would find a way to get it for you.
Her son & my daughter are 4 days apart Bruce was born Oct ,25 & Annastachia was born Oct29, I and my daughther & my father were they only ones she was talking to,I have an older brother That she was not speaking to at the time of her death, But on the Friday before she died she call me asked if I would come over for awhile ,I thought she was at work for some reason , I told her sure I would be there in a little while, I went there and her boyfriend was there it was his birtday , We sat around talking & she was telling us that before she died that she wanted to make things right with my brother,that if he could find it in his heart to forgive her for the things she had said & done to him & his wife,she told us what she wanted done with her body when she died ,I asked her why are we talking about this ,she said she needed someone to know what she wanted done when she died, I told her she wasn't going anywhere soon, but I guess I was wrong, really wrong ,I miss her so much I really didn't think anyone would ever feel the pain I'm going though ,she would call me every morning while we got our childern ready for school ,then she would come pick up my little girl which is 9 & take them to school every morning, I miss talking to her every morning its like I don't know what to do with myself in the morning now. Well this pass Sunday Annastachia come to the house & was crying , she kept saying over & over she's gone mommy ! she really gone! I said who baby girl She said your god baby I say what do you mean she gone she cried out she died of SIDS this morning! I really couldn't belive what I was hearing ,the baby was Annastachia's best friends baby she was 6 months old , I really don't know how to get Anna throw this ,it was 5 weeks to the day when she just lost her Aunt ,now she lost a baby that she loves so much it was just like it was hers too she was helping her bestfriend take care of her , she keeps asking me why God has to do these things, everytime I see Anna shes crying,she calls me from work crying ,I really don't know what to do for her besides be there for her if she needs to talk & cry with her.
On November 3, 2007 I loss my father. The man who cared for me and my 2 siblings by himself for 2 years. I was 3 years old, my sister was 1 1/2 and my brother was 6 mos. He worked hard all his life until he was forced to retire at 68. He was not a hugging man, but he made sure his children did excellent work in school, attend college, dressed well and we all were community volunteers and consistent church members. He was a very religious man and that is why I guess God allowed him to live 89 years. He missed his wife a lot and toward the end she was all he talked about.