When I say it was too late, I mean we had already gotten married and had kids. Before we got married he was living with his wife but I didn't know it was his wife because he told me that he was divorced when i met him. I was never told we would be living with his mom, that was the last thing I ever expected!... When he finally admitted to his lies, he said, don't worry I will make it up to you....everything will be okay, I promise. I was in a different country so there is no way I would have known or found out about any of his lies.
This show was taped a year and a half ago and I did leave him 3 months after we did the show, because nothing had changed and it was way too stressful. Not only did I have his mother, but I had his ex mother in law coming over and I had his ex wife coming over....it was unbearable, they are all the same, very disrespectful people. Then he got a job and then he was able to get a cute little apartment, which we still live in and I take the kids over to see his mother every once in a while. Now, he is unemployed AGAIN and has been for three months now and there is just no stability nor is there a safe and secure feeling. I'm waiting for the day (and it might be soon) that he tells me that we will have to live with his mother again...well, I absolutely refuse to do it again...I won't! The thing is his ex wife is living in the house they lived in together he is legally supposed to pay $1600/mo to her and is supposed to sell when their youngest turns 18 in 5 years, and the house should be worth about $600 000. And the house that his mother lives in is in our name, however we don't get it until she passes away. That house has the potential to be worth another $500 000, until then we are struggling on a monthly basis waiting for kids to grow up or someone to pass away.
I'm actually not sure how much more of this I can take. I'm thinking since he has so much equity, maybe I can get him to give me a reasonable settlement and then be done with it. Enough that would allow me to buy a house for me and the kids. Its terrible worrying if we are even going to still be living here or not next week.
Anyway, thanks for listening and responding....I'm working on a plan, I hope that its successful for me and my children.
p.s. Some of these posts are BRUTAL!!!
It's the invasion of the in-laws! Despite an intervention by Dr. Phil, a couple and their respective mothers still struggle to get along. See how Ernie and Kerry are doing, and what happens when their moms agree to set their differences aside and meet for coffee. Since the last show, Kerry says her relationship with her mother-in-law has never been better! Unfortunately, her relationship with her own mother has never been worse. Plus, Alaina and Ray are married with two children, and they all live with Ray's mother, Eda. The two women are constantly at each other's throats. Is this family too close for comfort? Share your thoughts, join the discussion.
