Topic : I Want Plastic Surgery Because...

Why do women think that plastic surgery is the be all and end all?  "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder."   I personally think that it is somewhat vain to get plastic surgery - just to have it done.    Those who have the surgery for legitimate reasons, they are exempt.  I don't fault a woman who has had a masectomy and therefore got an implant because of that.   I don't fault a woman who has had other injuries for getting plastic surgery to make her 'better'   

Women who get implants and other surgeries because their boyfriends/husbands etc think it is necessary or just to show off are to me and in my eyes vain.   God made you the way you are - don't change it - that is how you were born.        

I can understand that some women can be unhappy with their looks for whatever reason, but there has to be other methods of  feeling better about yourself then to get plastic surgery.    

By no means am i beautiful,  and in my younger days I have been called horrible names which had not done much to boost my self esteem, but  over the years i have learned to ignore their taunts and now that i'm and adult i don't ever get those names called to me obviously as i never see those horrible people.     Through this time and during my teenage hood when it was the worst,  I had never ever considered any type of plastic surgery no matter how horrible i felt about my appearance.   

There are also some men who have this done to them too - Look at Michael Jackson.  He used to look so normal - now he looks like a freak.   I am sorry if this offends Michael Jackson fans, but c'mon look at him!  Numerous plastic surgeries,  permenant make-up... he used to be actually cute in his "Thriller: days and possibly his "Bad" days, but now he looks weird. 

One thing though that makes my sel-esteem and self-worth boost in the most postive way is that my boyfriend always complements me by referring to my name - Colleen which means "Pretty Girl"    

I understand that fitting in is important and wanting to belong to a certain crowd, but doing drugs is not the way to go!    Get yourself help immediately please for the love of god!  This is a bad-news crowd and if you continue along this path, it will only get worse.    I have a cousin who was into drugs and it got so bad that he ended up in the emergency room getting his stomach pumped.   It takes a lot of guts to stand up to friends and say no to peer pressure and when i was around your age my friends started smoking and whatnot and i adamatly said a few negative things about smoking - and we're talking just cigarettes.  - i lost that clique of friends mind you but i was not lost without them it was more or less good riddance.   Cigarettes lead to other and much worse things and last i heard about one particular "friend" was that she had been into drugs hard core - had two kids out of wedlock AND to boot lost permenant custody of those kids.    

Please girl, as my advice to you get out of this clique of  so-called friends and clean yourself up before you get into worse trouble!   

Jeannie: 

I've only undergone facial surgery approx 9 and 7 yrs ago in the 1990s.  Love the results.  As we and others know, most plastic surgeries are not fatal.   

It is all up to the individual what makes them happy in life, whether its plastic surgery, a new home, new car, marrying or reproducing themselves and we should respect that and not be so preachy on a website.   

I absolutely agree with the fact that it's up to the individual what makes them happy in life, but I also think that you should really consider your reasons before doing plastic surgery. 

Like this TV show, I'm sure we've all seen it, Extreme makeover. They've all been bullied when they we're kids, if it's not their nose then it's their teeth or their butt. (Then why on earth do they always have to make their boobs ten sizes larger?) 

Honestly, why are they so hung up on what happened at least ten years ago? I remember this one woman, she was fixing up her face and everything else on her body, because she was going to a high school reunion!! A high school reunion that would last a few hours, to meat people who probably wouldn't even remember her!! So she had spent all her life worrying about what some idiots at high school had said. If I were in her situation I wouldn't have gone to that reunion at all. Life is not a dress rehearsal!! :) 

I don't mean to insult anyone who has done plastic surgery, but I just want to say that I think being bullied in school is absolutely no reason for plastic surgery. Beacause I think that in that case it's not really about your nose, it's about your feelings, and you should deal with them first. 

 There was a time when I would have wanted the surgery to take the excess off of my body because I would have thought it made me like myself. After years of experience, I realize and also have heard it enough from the Dr Phil show that this is not the way to like yourself. No matter what the outside looks like. The inside needs the most care and is most important. At this point in my life, I am very proud of myself for finally thinking of me. I am in health care and have always taken care of others all of my life. This includes my oldesst son who is special needs for no apparent medical reason. He just is. And I also still care for my mother who lives with us and has for the past seven years. I am not tooting my horn. I just want to express that there comes a time to care for yourself too. I am going to college part time and am also now active 4 to 6 days a week in a gym. I want to look awesome by the time I am 50, in Dec. 2006. I hope to have my toning and loss done enough to get the excess tummy tire off.   

Hello. I am 26 years old and have been married for almost 10 years. During the years that I have been married I am so embarrased of my body that I cannot get naked in front of my husband. After having a 10lb child my stomach is not something attractive to look at. It does have a major impact on our sex life because I dont want to initiate anything becasue I dont want to be seen naked. I want plastic surgery to boost my self esteem and my sexual desire. I know that if I had this done it would help me be more confident and it would help our sex life.. 

At age 25, I had my first child only to discover that my stomach would forever look like a pound puppy. I never knew tthat such a thing could happen to a person.  Prior to that I had always suffered from depression as a child.  This situation has caused my depression to escalate.  I spend so much time worrying about someone seeing my stomach.  It has truly affected my relationship with my second husband.  I love him , but I hate myself.  I was so afraid that he would leave me once he learned the truth about the way I looked.  Especially with him being 10 1/2 years younger than myself.  I spend so much time considering suicide.  My belief in God has kept me from actually commiting the act.  I am not a fun person to live with some days.  Negativity rules my life. It may seem vain to let one thing control a person so, but it does.  I spent my life trying to be perfect, loving , and giving.  Only to be dealt a hard blow.   I have 3 beautiful daughters and a wonderful husband.  Yet, I am miserable.