Topic : I Want Plastic Surgery Because...

  Mommy Makeover are you kidding, what about Daddy makeover and for a REAL problem.  Ten years ago my husband was disfigured by a work injury, after a coma and years of physical and mental therapy he was well enough to be a stay at home dad.  I work and live at my job, because social security continues to decrease our benefits and sent a letter stating if we continue to dispute we may loose the $700 we get a month.  I am so tired of Mommy Makeovers, due to stress I lost 70 lbs and sure would love a tummy tuck but how could I be so selfish with what we can't afford or I would love to give that to my husband instead.

  He has basic balding like most men, but wears long sleeve shirts because of the disfigurement or something as simple as his front tooth being replaced.  However because we were harassed by workers comp for spending so much of their money, we walked away to attempt to take back our own lives.  We have three small children and because we can't afford an attorney take what little money social security offers. 
  He has lost most of his self dignity because of the astigmatism from being a stay at home dad, even from his own family not to mention the scarring and constant pain he undergoes.  Forget returning to the Mayo Clinic they have informed us they can no longer help, but does not matter because he would not take money away from any chance of children have for better things.

  We have settled and made due with what we have, but please if I hear one more fortunate Mom who gets her dreams fulfilled because of her "full time" job of raising kids.  Try being a disfigured male, who can no longer provide for his own family, even with the money we should have gotten from a company who caused this, or a government that wants us to "be grateful" we receive anything at all.  I can't go back to school without my family moving away from what so called normal life I have been able to dig out of over the past 10 years. So what about it, give to the real underdog's who deserve it "what about the Daddy's, the real men in society"  Don't they deserve the simple request they too need to feel better about themselves.

  We are fortunate to have each other, but not pitiful enough for anyone to care. From a Mom that would love to provide more her children but can't slow down to enjoy the ride, and to allow her husband some dignity by allowing him to see that wonderful person under the scars.

Carrie K

After four children and several abdominal surgeries, my mid-section is damaged and somewhat deformed.  I am able to enjoy life and wear things that camouflage it, but it truly keeps me from being who I used to be because I am so self-conscious about it.  The last surgery I had, the surgeon cut so much lower than the previous scars that it left a ridge that is always there, and my loose tummy hangs down.  My stomach looks like it belongs on a different person altogether!

I have lower back problems that I know are related to the way my abdomen is now and it just affects my quality of life.  Everything else that is wrong with my body I can fix through diet and excercise, except or my tummy.  When I look my best and weigh what I should I love the way I look...except for this issue.  It looks horrible!  I just feel that it would dramatically change the way I interact with my husband, and allow me to feel less inhibited during our intimate moments, and it would totally eliminate so much of the back pain that I have.  It's a dream of mine to have just a semblence of the tummy I use to have, and I've definitely got the battle scars of motherhood, which was worth every flaw, but I know it will never be sexy and attractive again.

I've thought about other little improvements as well, like a little botox or mini-lift, just to freshen me up for my forties!  I don't think I need anything drastic though, and I feel I am somewhat attractive the way I am, but I know what's coming!  LOL

I feel so young on the inside, and I think these little improvements will help me medically, but also will definitely allow me to look the way I feel, and I truly believe life is best enjoyed when one is able to be 100% for friends and family, and that personal satisfaction with oneself impacts work, households, attitudes and relationships. 

So, that's why I would love to have plastic surgery!  I hope it doesn't make me seem vain or shallow.  I actually had it planned in 1999, but I knew that I was headed for divorce and figured I'd better not spend the money.  It was a wise decision as raising kids on a single income was definitely not easy, and my ex-husband refused to let me take anything, so that money came in handy for furnishing a house from scratch.  Someday, I will hopefully be able to afford it, but if it takes me too long, the rest of me will catch up to my poor tummy.  Hehehe.

ckeithcos...now I feel vain and shallow.  I'm sorry you and your family have had such a difficult time and that your husband suffered such an accident.  i sincerely hope that things get better for you and yours and that your husband's physical disfigurement will someday be corrected, for his well being and yours.  god bless you and your family.

Congratulations on your marvelous new life; it's amazing what we have missed out on because of our weight. 

 

I too am in the same boat as you; I have lost 225 with the gastic bypass surgery (7.17.03) and I am scheduled to have the excess taken off and several hernias repaired at the same time on September 12, 1007.  I fought the insurance company for 10 months to pay for the cosmetic surgery after 5 denials and appeals.  The insurance company kept saying that it was cosmetic and the insurance would not pay for it.  KEEP ON KEEPING ON is my moto.  With all of the yeast infections, back hurting (on pain pills for that); circulation problems in the legs, etc.  Finally, after documenting the circulation problems they opted to go ahead and pay for the surgery.  I can live with the excess on the arms and legs along with the breast; but the abdominal area is a must.  I am scared but READY; GOD has brought me this far and he is not going to let me down.

I am a stay at home mom of 3 and I have had all 3 of my kids by c-section.  My first c-section was horrible because when they started cutting me open I could feel what they were doing, and since this day, I have had a problem with stuttering.  That's a whole issue in itself, and I deal with that everyday.   When I was 5 years old I had an apendectomy and they never stitched up that scar, and they let it heal together by itself.  Well with the c-section scar and my apendectomy scar my pouch (this is what i call it)  hangs over.  I am only 25 years old, but I feel like i'm a lot older, I got married when I was 18 and have had 3 kids in 5 years.  My breasts feel like they were deflated, and I've lost much of the weight from my kids.  I'm 5'3" and weigh 140 pounds.  My ideal weight would be about 120-125.  I have also been going to college part time to get my degree in nursing, so that one day maybe I will have the funds to cover the "mommy makeover".  After having three kids, my body has taken enough and I feel so unsexy.  My husband says he doesn't care what my stomach looks like but I am so insecure about it that the lights have to be off during sex.  I haven't worn a two piece in 6 years, though it sits in my drawer til this day.  It is a constant reminder of how secure I felt and how confident I was in myself.  I don't know if I will ever get back to this point in my life.  I know that if I could get my confidence back that maybe my stuttering would go away as well and just to do something for myself is a dream all in itself.

I would love to have a whole life makeover. I'm a mother of 4 and a grandmother of 1. I hate my body. I had my 1st baby at 16, my 2nd at 17, my 3rd at 20, my 4th at 35. My weight has been a roller coaster all of my life. I have stretch marks everywhere. My arms, my legs, my breasts, and,  of course,  on my mommy belly. My 2nd son just got married this past Saturday. I had to do a lot of "clothes camoflauge" to look presentable. I am 5'2" and I weigh 240 lbs. I have to lose about 100 lbs and I think that over 50 lbs of that is in excess skin hanging allover my body. I'm hoping for some major changes in my life. My finances suck and I'm tired of living paycheck to paycheck. I would love to be able to stay at home with my daughter but we are not there finacially yet. I want to work from home to be home with her. I would love to have a complete makeover for all areas of my life.

   Where do I start, I want a tummy tuck because for me it would allow me to be more confident in myself and give me a more positive outlook and self image. I had 3 c sections and a hysterectomy at a very young age. I am now 41 years of age and a single mother. I have been divorced for 8 years now. Every time I get ahead in my life something seems to happen to bring me so down that I can  not afford anything. In May, I lost my job and my engine went in my car. Any extra money I had I went through to survive. I am still  unemployed but can't afford anything like a tummy tuck at this point. Every year I say to myself and cry not another summer with this ugly tummy. My tummy blues, the sagging skin and the bulges in the lower section of my tummy is just not sexy to look at.  I try to camouflage with dark clothing , this only  hides a little. I am attending college full time on line and trying to get my degree and I have completed my first year . I hope that some day I will not have to worry so much about money and able to do the mommy makeover. But for now I will try to hold my head up , even with my yucky tummy blues. One day I will have this tummy lifted and tucked along with a breast lift.

Dear Dr. Phil,

 

my wife has been bugging me for almost a month now about wanting some kind of make-over. Personally, I don't see why she wants one because to me she looks fine. She's feeling down about how she looks and how her clothes look on her. So if you could please help me, I'm totally lost on how to deal with this constant bickering?

 

Sincerely,

~Husband In Need Of Your Help

Dear Dr Phil

 

I am from South Africa and have just watched your show on abdominal plasti.  I have 2 children and are 38 years old.  I weigh the same as before my pregnancies and are not over weithg,  but still have a stomach that hangs. In  fact I have never had a flat tummy.  Even when I weight 52 kg I still had a ugly tummy.. I always got teased by family members and remember when I was little my mother had to make the front part of my dresses at least 3 cm longer than the back, in order for the dress not to be shorter infront because of my protruding stomach.

 

I walk 5km every day and are very active.  I hardly ever wear a bathing suit because I am always self consious about this flab hanging ouver my pants.

 

Please advise why this happened and why I was born this way.  Will abdominal surgery help and what are the costs involved.  Is it really that dangerous a operation as I have heard and do people really get a lot of infections after the operations..

 

This will mean a great deal to me.

 

Thank you

 

Lindi