Topic : I Want Plastic Surgery Because...

ckeithcos...now I feel vain and shallow.  I'm sorry you and your family have had such a difficult time and that your husband suffered such an accident.  i sincerely hope that things get better for you and yours and that your husband's physical disfigurement will someday be corrected, for his well being and yours.  god bless you and your family.

Congratulations on your marvelous new life; it's amazing what we have missed out on because of our weight. 

 

I too am in the same boat as you; I have lost 225 with the gastic bypass surgery (7.17.03) and I am scheduled to have the excess taken off and several hernias repaired at the same time on September 12, 1007.  I fought the insurance company for 10 months to pay for the cosmetic surgery after 5 denials and appeals.  The insurance company kept saying that it was cosmetic and the insurance would not pay for it.  KEEP ON KEEPING ON is my moto.  With all of the yeast infections, back hurting (on pain pills for that); circulation problems in the legs, etc.  Finally, after documenting the circulation problems they opted to go ahead and pay for the surgery.  I can live with the excess on the arms and legs along with the breast; but the abdominal area is a must.  I am scared but READY; GOD has brought me this far and he is not going to let me down.

I am a stay at home mom of 3 and I have had all 3 of my kids by c-section.  My first c-section was horrible because when they started cutting me open I could feel what they were doing, and since this day, I have had a problem with stuttering.  That's a whole issue in itself, and I deal with that everyday.   When I was 5 years old I had an apendectomy and they never stitched up that scar, and they let it heal together by itself.  Well with the c-section scar and my apendectomy scar my pouch (this is what i call it)  hangs over.  I am only 25 years old, but I feel like i'm a lot older, I got married when I was 18 and have had 3 kids in 5 years.  My breasts feel like they were deflated, and I've lost much of the weight from my kids.  I'm 5'3" and weigh 140 pounds.  My ideal weight would be about 120-125.  I have also been going to college part time to get my degree in nursing, so that one day maybe I will have the funds to cover the "mommy makeover".  After having three kids, my body has taken enough and I feel so unsexy.  My husband says he doesn't care what my stomach looks like but I am so insecure about it that the lights have to be off during sex.  I haven't worn a two piece in 6 years, though it sits in my drawer til this day.  It is a constant reminder of how secure I felt and how confident I was in myself.  I don't know if I will ever get back to this point in my life.  I know that if I could get my confidence back that maybe my stuttering would go away as well and just to do something for myself is a dream all in itself.

I would love to have a whole life makeover. I'm a mother of 4 and a grandmother of 1. I hate my body. I had my 1st baby at 16, my 2nd at 17, my 3rd at 20, my 4th at 35. My weight has been a roller coaster all of my life. I have stretch marks everywhere. My arms, my legs, my breasts, and,  of course,  on my mommy belly. My 2nd son just got married this past Saturday. I had to do a lot of "clothes camoflauge" to look presentable. I am 5'2" and I weigh 240 lbs. I have to lose about 100 lbs and I think that over 50 lbs of that is in excess skin hanging allover my body. I'm hoping for some major changes in my life. My finances suck and I'm tired of living paycheck to paycheck. I would love to be able to stay at home with my daughter but we are not there finacially yet. I want to work from home to be home with her. I would love to have a complete makeover for all areas of my life.

   Where do I start, I want a tummy tuck because for me it would allow me to be more confident in myself and give me a more positive outlook and self image. I had 3 c sections and a hysterectomy at a very young age. I am now 41 years of age and a single mother. I have been divorced for 8 years now. Every time I get ahead in my life something seems to happen to bring me so down that I can  not afford anything. In May, I lost my job and my engine went in my car. Any extra money I had I went through to survive. I am still  unemployed but can't afford anything like a tummy tuck at this point. Every year I say to myself and cry not another summer with this ugly tummy. My tummy blues, the sagging skin and the bulges in the lower section of my tummy is just not sexy to look at.  I try to camouflage with dark clothing , this only  hides a little. I am attending college full time on line and trying to get my degree and I have completed my first year . I hope that some day I will not have to worry so much about money and able to do the mommy makeover. But for now I will try to hold my head up , even with my yucky tummy blues. One day I will have this tummy lifted and tucked along with a breast lift.

Dear Dr. Phil,

 

my wife has been bugging me for almost a month now about wanting some kind of make-over. Personally, I don't see why she wants one because to me she looks fine. She's feeling down about how she looks and how her clothes look on her. So if you could please help me, I'm totally lost on how to deal with this constant bickering?

 

Sincerely,

~Husband In Need Of Your Help

Dear Dr Phil

 

I am from South Africa and have just watched your show on abdominal plasti.  I have 2 children and are 38 years old.  I weigh the same as before my pregnancies and are not over weithg,  but still have a stomach that hangs. In  fact I have never had a flat tummy.  Even when I weight 52 kg I still had a ugly tummy.. I always got teased by family members and remember when I was little my mother had to make the front part of my dresses at least 3 cm longer than the back, in order for the dress not to be shorter infront because of my protruding stomach.

 

I walk 5km every day and are very active.  I hardly ever wear a bathing suit because I am always self consious about this flab hanging ouver my pants.

 

Please advise why this happened and why I was born this way.  Will abdominal surgery help and what are the costs involved.  Is it really that dangerous a operation as I have heard and do people really get a lot of infections after the operations..

 

This will mean a great deal to me.

 

Thank you

 

Lindi

I am currently pregnant with my 3rd son.  I have been telling everyone that I want to start an exercise program after the baby is born and then I want some plastic surgery.  I want to lose weight first because I weigh too much and I don't think the surgery would help if I don't get fit first.  After I lose the weight I want abdominoplasty, any hanging skin removed, and a breast lift or reduction (which ever the doc fills is best).  I so want to be able to lose weight...I just have no support on the issue.  I want the plastic surgery because I want to enjoy my body again and not be ashamed of it.  Prekids I was a size 7 and when not pregnant I am now a size 18/20.  When I first met my husband I was a size 3.  I just hate feeling so ugly.  I don't want any surgery done on my face.  I don't mind aging.  I just hate all the excess fat rolls and excess skin.  I want Dr. Phil to whip my ass into shape so I can get my tummy tuck!

Keep telling your wife how you feel, and that you think that she is beautiful.  Encourage her to by some new clothes...some that are flattering to her figure...and keep complimenting her...every day...keep reminding her how much you love her just the way she is.

 

Nordstrom's and some other major stores, and some make-up stores will do makeovers, plus a new hair style might help her feel better.  You usually have to pay for the make-up makeover, but a spa day might be just what she needs...get her a gift certificate and lovingly give it to her, letting her know that you love her just the way she is, but that you understand how she wants to have a different look.  Nordstrom's and some other stores also have clothing consultants to help find just the right look for her.  My sister gave me a make-over for my 30th birthday...it was a lot of fun.  I got a new hair cut, a new make-up look, and a new outfit...just what I needed...I was depressed about my looks, and that was just the pick-me-up I needed.  Be tactful about the way you present this idea to her, so she doesn't take it the wrong way...in the middle of an arguement is not the best time to suggest it.

 

I am now a size 18...almost down to a 16...and I am happy with myself just the way I am...but I would like to lose more weight for the sake of my health.  My tummy sags after three kids...the price a mom pays for wonderful kids.  I wear tummy support underwear, and that helps me look better in my clothes.  I wear a lot of jeans and t-shirts, but when I go out somewhere, I try to look a little more feminine.

 

Join a gym together, or if that is not feasible financially or timewise, try to work in a walk together several days a week.

 

Bickering is part of marriage...try not to argue back on the issue of her looks...it's a losing battle...the wife is always right...LOL.  When you are not arguing, tell her how much you love her...buy her some sexy lingere...be sure you know her size...check her clothing tags when she's not looking...gift-wrap it...take her out to dinner...be frisky with her...be romantic...make it all about her.

 

I think I am repeating myself here...hang in there...my husband has done these things for me, and that has helped my own perception of my body...I'm not the skinny young thing my husband married 26 years ago, and that's OK...just don't tell your wife that she's not the same skinny person she used to be...she'll take it the wrong way...LOL

 

Compliments, compliments, compliments...especially when she has gone to the trouble to look nice, and even in the jeans and t-shirts...Becky