Topic : Dating After 40

Once you put in your username and password, there should be a black bar across the top of your screen that has the Match.com logo, then 'MY MATCH', 'SEARCH', 'MY PORTRAIT', 'MY ACCOUNT', etc.

Click once on 'MY PORTRAIT', and it should give you the choice to 'Edit Portrait', 'Add/Delete Photos', 'Who's Viewed Me' (though Who's Viewed Me only works if you pay for the subscription...)

Click 'Edit Portrait' and you will go through a series of 8 screens filling in info about yourself and who you'd like to date, which are filled in both by clicking certain choices and by typing some of it in your own words... As you finish each screen , click the 'Save and Continue' tab at the right. That makes it save the page you just worked on, and go to the next one.  When you have it all filled out to your satisfaction, click 'Submit for Approval'.  The approval usually takes a day or two.  They don't want people using bad language or posting inappropriate pictures, etc on their website, so the profiles are filtered before they are approved for use...

Good Luck!

 G  ;)

I have been a singled dad for 9 years now. I have noticed big changes in women in the last decade or so. Women have always known a good man is hard to find, Now I say a good woman is impossible to find. US Women seem to be lost.. My General experience with  women  today is confusing and I feel they are having the following problems as a whole in the US  -  Women tend to date men who have no character and expect a solid man, more women smoke than ever, especially while drinking, women look for men in bars, and dancing in bars and shopping seems to be the primary  entertainment  - like these are healthy hobbies, give their children to the ex's or their family to live the single life. (We have 3 single dads in our subdivision and no single moms.) Date men 20 years younger and again expect a man to be her equal. ( I know, I know what your thinking here... equal rights).  WOmen have been the moral backbone of society, They used to keep families together and nurture those around them ( family, Friends, neighbors). That awesome trait of female human nature is almost gone in my opinion. It's definately not flourishing here in the US. I am now fairly certain I will not find a quality partner for the 2nd half of my life ,which I am ok with. But what about my son.. Does he have a chance with long term love... with the teen girls we are seeing following the fads and pressures of the world.. I pray he does.

It's simple - he wants to have his cake and eat it too ... only you can decide if that is ok ...

I knew a guy who did this - had "multiple relationships" - the first one I knew of was with a PhD pyschotherapist - who let him have his cake and eat it too (I know! To this day it amazes me!).

After he stopped seeing her - he hooked up with my x-sis-in-law and when he told her he had "multiple relationships" she said "ah yeah .. that's ok ... see ya later" and she dumped him right away - within 3 months he was back and had ended the other relationships.  She did not let him have his cake and eat it too.

I'm just curious, where did you read it was healthy to have a relationship for three to five years before marrying? Are you saying they date for 3 to 5 years or be single for that length of time. Everything I have read states that if a man doesn't marry you by at least the 2 yr. mark you should break up and see if he comes back with the proposal. If not move on. What I have read is that it is expected to become engaged within that length of time. That if a women lets it ride longer than that then a man might wonder why she lets it ride. I have been dating a guy for three years and he shakes everytime someone says marriage.