Topic : Dating After 40

I go out to dances and find myself surrounded by women, couples, and octagenarians (I;m 50). I volunteer for three different organizations - all the other volunteers  are women. Okay, three of the 60 at one place are men. In the other organization, the two men I have met talked incessantly about their wives. The third, I work alone and the email's from women. I go to parties and meet couples and two or three other women in their late 50s who ask me the same question, "Where are the men?" I am an atheist, but my best friend is a member of a church. I've gone to a couple of the holiday socials and am surrounded by couples and women. She's been in that church for years and has never met a man and she's very attractive.

Do men go out to places to meet women? If so, where?

Hi ! I am a single mom, with 3 kids, (one is on her own) my other 2 are 16 and 12 in school. I am self employed. I am in a relationship with a younger man that isn't going anywhere. I really think he has a bipolar disorder. A typical day, he can come home from work, in a tired but decent mood and then out of the blue the smallest thing ignites his rage. I try to calm him down, but it only seems to irritate him further. I have talked with him, aleast I have tryed, about this disorder, only to be told I don't know anything about the medical field. He will not go to a doctor, he makes excuses why he can't. I had an Uncle that was diagnosed as bipolar unfortuntely to late for his marriage. I know my BF doesn't see that I am worried that this will split us up. I just don't know how long I can put up with his inappropiate behavior. Examples( Loud and vulgar music, Yelling, agruing, calling names, slamming doors, cussing etc.) I have read things about this disorder and it does scare me to think if he doesn't get help something extreme will happen. Does anyone have any suggestions that will help him to understand how dangerous this disorder can be? Thanks in advance for any and all comments!

I am divorced after being married 25 years, and trying to learn how to date. After 2 years I began to date a nice man I met on the internet. He too was divorced after a long marriage. We seemed to hit it off immediately. He made it very clear in the beginning of our relationship, that it was difficult for him to tell the people he loved that he loved them. So I did not press him. I fell in love with him, and thought, through his actions, that he too was in love with me. We went everywhere together, I met all his family, all his friends, and business associates. I accompanied him to many business events, and he always said he was proud to be with me. After dating more than 6 months, he told me he was not in love with me and wanted to see other people. We were apart for several months, and just recently began to see each other again. I understand, through a few people, that he went on a couple of dates during that time, but that was about it. At this point, I love him, but I am not in love with him. But the more we see each other, I can feel those feelings starting again. What should I do???

I am divorced after being married 25 years, and trying to learn how to date. After 2 years I began to date a nice man I met on the internet. He too was divorced after a long marriage. We seemed to hit it off immediately. He made it very clear in the beginning of our relationship, that it was difficult for him to tell the people he loved that he loved them. So I did not press him. I fell in love with him, and thought, through his actions, that he too was in love with me. We went everywhere together, I met all his family, all his friends, and business associates. I accompanied him to many business events, and he always said he was proud to be with me. After dating more than 6 months, he told me he was not in love with me and wanted to see other people. We were apart for several months, and just recently began to see each other again. I understand, through a few people, that he went on a couple of dates during that time, but that was about it. At this point, I love him, but I am not in love with him. But the more we see each other, I can feel those feelings starting again. What should I do???

i am trying to understand how this message board works

I have twins for a bipolar man who is also a twin. all i can say is run for the hills, its not worth it. even if he starts taking meds he will be normal most of the time but still will display that behavior at times. there are too many normal folks out here. i believe that men are already difficult to deal with and one that has mental issues is worst. more power to you and yours anyway. i hope all works out for you.

 Hello there!!
I am the "newkidontheblock" with this dating thing...I am 42 and I feel like a kid in a candy store!!  lol 
Had some good and bad dates but so odd still to be dating after being married for 20 yrs!!
Let me ask u ladies this...do u find men over 40 more set in their ways???  That has been the hardest for me I think.

Good luck to all

~wink~

I was married for 29 years and divorced a little over a year now...I was wondering what love really is and am not sure that I ever was or even know what true love is.

I am a widow and was completely turned off by the thought of dating. My first experience was not pleasant and as soon as I caught the first sign of his disfunction, I ran as fast as I could because he had all the signs of an abuser.  Recently I have been dating this other wonderful man who has done everything to treat me like gold as well as my son I am raising by myself.  I have known him for seven years, and he also knew and iiked my husband.  The problem I am having, is that it seems he is not able to make love to me.  We have tried twice, and I am feeling very unattractive and depressed.  It has been over a month dating now and I am pulling back.  He could be the best thing that ever happened to me as far as a relationship goes but I feel wounded sexually now.  He is going to his doctor to get checked.  He says it is because he wants to do things right and every relationship he has had that started too soon with sex has been disastrous.  He re-assured me that he is crazy about me but is nervous and is kicking himself for passing up some opportunities when he was physically ready.  I told him I was not going to dwell on it and that if he wasn't ready, then fine.  But - we see each other very often and I feel that after thirty-five days and tons of dates and twice in the bedroom and no sex. something isnt normal.  He and I are the same age - 45.  He [just an hour ago] called me just to re-assure me he was crazy about me and that just last night, had to take off some sexual stress and thought about me when he was pleasured.  He said it took alot for him to tell me that but that it was important for me to know that he wants me.  I am scared that if we try again and nothing happens, that I will be devastated.   I would rather keep out of bed than to be lead down the path of hurt and disappointment again.  I love everything else about this relationship - it is awesome even!  Help!