Quote From: wildwood Woe is me, I am feeling da ja vu and feeling abused by this board, I keep typing relies or adding to my own posts, only to have it "go in one ear" typing like my talking and never come out, as motivation for changed actions (by spouse) . Reminds me so of dealing with my husband!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
There was a moral to that post.
It was to illustrate how my husband STILL blames a everyone but himself for the current state (seperated) of things, and how He is still dishonest, irregardless of the consequences, even to go so far as to PAY someone to help us and for him to STILL withhold the relevant TRUTHFUL information that is required. NOT HIS FAULT? He is the one LYING still, and still lying to self about his lies. DUH. I forgot to add that to the story.
Wildwood, he's banking alright!
Banking on it!
Banking on the fact that all this new and ongoing manipulation, game playing, his tactics & all will break you, $$ and otherwise into not going ahead with your intentions.
Man oh man, he's banking on it!
Yet again, the extremes and ongoing manipulations both at home and otherwise are all part of HIS plan.
His survival...survival with his plan. He doesn't want nor have a plan for a life, a functional decent life.
His actions are just that, survival. He doesn't live, .... he just survives. And he does what he has to in order to pull that off!
The money issue needs to be just that an ISSUE cause then he uses it for a way to get you, a way to stay in contact with you, though this is suppose to be a separation. He's still using it to CONTROL. A form of POWER.
The money will be used just as the leaves, the children, the outside lawn, the burning. Puts him back on the premises in a large way.
I know you know all this.
Its but another way to escalate further abuse and antics.
After all, you are not going to have the last word, not in his eyes anyway.
I caution you to be careful, seek outside resources to document episodes. I caution you to sincerely be careful. Don't underestimate your situation with him.
You too, need to keep your actions in check. Where is your local support?
He's gonna lie, and lie and lie...
He's gonna distort, and twist and turn to his hearts content.
He's gonna abuse, and disrespect both you and your boundaries.
He thinks he's gonna use the systems in place, also.
He's gonna do what he knows how to do best.
He's gonna do what in his mind has worked for him all these years, out there.
He's gonna survive!
He's banking on it!
Please take good care of yourself.
I am worried and so
concerned.
Take care.
