Topic : Abuse

How is it that he knows where that shelter is?    Is the shelter a published address?   Some are. 

And when he found it , why weren't the police called, that makes no sense to me, as shelters call the police when batterers show up on the doorstep.   They come immediately! 

You have lots of resources at your disposal and full grant is a BIG amount of $$$$.  A whole lot! 

Congratulations, on getting accepted to college,   now lets apply some of those "smarts" to getting out of the abuse, you and your children are being emotionally and spiritually damaged. Some one has to protect them, that must be YOU. 

I'm going back and read your other posts. 

Then will reply if need be. 

PS.  Are you safe putting your email out there like this?  Does he have access to computers, your password, your account?    

I noticed that you put your state out there, your location....was that necessary, or advisable?  Safety should be a primary concern. 

Safety on the Internet included in that , too. 

What kind of trails are you leaving....he does KNOW how to follow each and every  "bread crumb!!!" 

You NEED A SAFETY PLAN. 

off to school in the morning, he would insist that I stand at the end of the driveway until he walked to the bus stop up the street and until he boarded the bus. 

This wasn't about his leaving or going to school for the day. 

This wasn't about his uncertainty about getting there. 

He confided, that he was worried about ME.   

He walked sideways to the bus stop, never taking his eyes off of me.  Walking and making sure I was well within his sight. 

Waving assurance back at me.    Walking so that he could see me.   Sometimes even  backwards and waving.  

He was concerned about me during the day. 

He was concerned and hoped I would be "alright" while he was gone.   

He didn't want anything to happen to me. 

Children KNOW, no matter how much you believe you have sheltered or protected them from the ISSUES. 

Correlation, yes. 

I don't believe this is a phase, it seems your child is reacting to his circumstances at home. 

I'll try to find some information for you. 

In the meantime, give this some thought. 

Take care.  

Yes, shelters do work in a network. 

Then can make arrangements to move you without your going to the original one, too.  They can even arrange transportation, $$, and rides both with workers and or volunteers, who are trained in safety, and the dynamics of DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND ABUSE. 

Even if you are not in residence in a particular shelter....their resources, advocacy will help. 

There are resources in your area....and beyond. 

Don't forget your local POLICE, your STATE POLICE. 

Does he know where the shelter is? 

You had better start taking an inventory of those relatives of yours. 

At least some of them can't be trusted.   You better face that. 

And I suggest that you NOT TRUST HIS RELATIVES, any of them, either.    Where do you think he learned this crap from?      These relatives don't have your best interest at heart, or your children's, either.......they just want the grand babies near.    Afraid you might leave.       WHAT KIND OF CONCERN OR HELP IS THAT?         None, it appears. 

What out for phone logs on your land lines ..and redial.....and *69, which gives him access to your last call coming in. 

Then there are the cell phones, oh geeze!     Is your account only in your name? 

You were using your head when you removed the important papers from the house...and copies of others....in a safe place.   Good for you. 

Stop Telling him, and those that can not be trusted ....stop telling them a darn thing. 

Its obvious that you have people around you that don't really take this horrible physical abuse seriously......well, you need to.....and  so you need to do lots of things differently.    This is a serious matter. 

All grown up. 

A respectable, responsible, loving  mature human being.  

Well educated, contributing daily to his community, and world , both in his professional and personal life. 

In spite of the odds perpetrated by my husband, I worked overtime 24/7 to counteract and teach through my role modeling and example, the best lessons in life, teaching the proper values, morals and ethical values and ways to live life.  

Momma "done good !!!!!!" 

His choices about himself and his life are all good.   They are right on. 

I am proud of who he is, what he stands for and how he chooses to  live his life. 

Momma did good !!