Topic : Abuse

How you dress will be no reflection on Lemon!  She won't get embarassed. 

  

She and I and we all want you to be the REAL YOU!   

  

So if it's ballerina slipper and bells, GO FOR IT! 

  

Celebrate your individuality and your wonderful humanness. 

  

When we giggle, know that we are celebrating WITH YOU not laughing at you!   

  

I was a ballerina once too... way back when...  turned my point shoes in for a good shovel!  

  

Q 

  

And after lunch a SHOPPING SPREE!!! 

  

I've been needing some new shoes and a dress. 

  

These treats are getting contagious you know!  Q 

no its not normal to doubt that you and your emotions matter. it is normal with abused  women because that is part of the abuse. but hat in  no way means they are right  and that it is acceptable. you are important. you do matter. you are worthy of a caring partner and your emotions do matter. it doesnt matter what others think, thats not important. what matters is what oyu think and feel. step up from the wall and join us on the dance floor of life. i dont know what it is that you do that makes overloking yourself okay. try writing it down. keep a journal or how you feel and your self talk. you may recoginze the same phrases of the same people voices. surround yourself with poeple around you who love and support you. surround yourself with those who think  highly of you. if there is no one in yourlife righ tnow like that then find them. go out if you can. join a club.  get out in  life and as you come into contac twith people we will try to help you but you must know that you are worth it. stand up for yourself. you are worth it.  do things to raise it. do something each day tomake yourself happy.

I have the credit cards (no available credit though).  Sorry I needed a laugh.

I think the legal profession really suits you. 

  

Decision making is something you need to do -- it's part of growing up.  So is living with the consequences of our decisions. 

  

I think buying your self something nice and something you WANT is a way to tell your self YOU MATTER.  

  

I also think that setting up a budget you can live with is another way to tell your self YOU MATTER and that you care about your future. 

  

I think you need to get in the GOOD HABIT of deciding what YOU WANT and then going for it. 

  

This is one to become your "authentic" self.   

  

Don't ever let someone else take over your life so completely again.  Q 

well at least its something good for once thats contagious. treat yourself.!!  You deserve it.

Start with this... 

  

How do I feel? 

  

Then really answer it. 

  

What do I think? 

  

Then really answer it. 

  

Change your internal dialogue is EXACTLY the RIGHT PATH! 

  

You also must learn -- in a deep way -- that you have 100% right to YOUR feelings and YOUR thoughts. 

  

No one can think your thoughts or feel your feelings for you --- UNLESS you give them permission to do so. 

  

ANd you can stop giving them permission ANYTIME you want! 

  

RECONNECT WITH YOU!   

  

If the old recordings don't work for you, erase them and start recording NEW ones. 

  

What do I want? 

How do I feel? 

What do I think? 

How can I change? 

How can I set up my life to get what I want? 

  

Q 

  

for the first time in my life i'm not letting anyone else run it or make my decisions for me. that will be difficult in the coming months as my family likes to continually give advice and not stop but that will be practice for me to set boundaries!!!.  yep i usually dont do anything that cost money. just once in a while. sometimes i'm tempted but all i have to do is look at my cc balances that i have been slowly paying down. i went from 5 to 3. ill be there in a few mont hs. now i'm on a cash only living. if it has to go a cc id ont buy it. the oly thing that will be on the cc is the filing fee for my divorce.  

legal profession i've thought about. i wouldnt have many cleints thouhg. being a lawyer is out of the question so is working under one. i took a personalty test once when i was ogin to college and it had so many different jobs. i want something that takes brain brawn and creativity. and that helps peple in some way. i've been thinking about psychology. but what exactly would i do with it. it takes years to build up your own practice.  

i control my life and i always will. now that i have my power back i will never give it away again.  

my e-mail was doen for awhile i missed your e-mail one from my sister and a couple from the college i did not even knoe it until the college called me i called the cable company and they said they were having some problems i also talked to them about keeping me e-mail safe i explained that i am being abused and they told me that he could not get e-mail unless he had a court order because there company has provisions for people in abusive situations they also gave me instuctions on how delete my e-mail so he could not get it my e-mail is safer then i am

I can buy my girlfriend's presents if I want! 

  

Q