Topic : 09/13 Man Stealers

Quote From: Pleasance

What a ridiculous group "still wet behind the ears" and both couples have children.  What a mess!

 

My concern is for the children.

 

Both these women are being used by Dennis.

 

And neither guy is a "peach".....even the male cousin has cheated. 

 

The women have been with other men, too.  Good grief !

 

No self respect at all....not on anyone's part.    To say nothing of the immaturity involved.

 

I certainly hope  they all have been tested for HIV, STD's and Aids.  Good grief !

 

What kind of "backward" life are they all leading?  

 

 

 

 

Get your heads screwed on  straight  & right......do some self reflection...clean up your act........ Dennis' wife needs to dump him...and get on with her life.....and  her children's well being. 

 

 Take Dr. Phil up on his offer for YOU  to have the individualized counsel.......and oh, by the way......that Lawyer that Dr. Phil offered.....take him up on that one, that's a "biggie !"    With that trucking business......you have marital rights,  for you and your children.

 

Obviously, the winters are too long where ever they all live.....geesh all that snow and mud !!!!!!

 

Here's a hint.....grow up.....

 

...Take up a hobby.......skating,  skiing,  snowshoeing, snowboarding, winter hiking,  snowmobiling,

Ice hockey, ice fishing,  read a BOOK,  get involved in an after school program with your kids,  get involved in your community to affect change, to improve the local library, help a neighbor cut, split and chop, haul wood.....go work in a soup kitchen....Get my drift ?.......do something constructive.

 

Winter will be over before you know it !

 

When that happens.......plant a garden, mow the lawn, plant some vegetables, help with a community garden.......feed the hungry.......help the poor.....take your kids for a walk.....wash the pick-up truck.....set up the kids swimming pool.........Get my drift ?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Quote From: housewife_ns

I have had this done to me but it was my sister and my husband it was before we were married my sister has a habit of doing this this not the first time she did this to other family members .she would start as friends but it always ended up in heart ache for the wife.I knew this happened in the past but didn't think she would do it to me her sister well i was dead wrong. she is now working on break-up another couple. I got to the wife and told her what she was like so may be they will have a chance. If they spend to much time together he will say that he loves her he will break-up with you and leave you. You need to break free take the kids and walk away. He will relise what he has lost.You don't need to used like that it not worth it you can find someone that will love and repect you. If nothing else you need to get rid of the so called friend if she trying to make your life a living hell. She needs to go bye bye! You may be able to work on your  family. She will keeping doing it just like my sister has done it me and other friends and family.. but in this case I got the last laugh because she couldn't keep my husband away from me.

 

Keep strong you are worth it !  nothing is put in front of you can't handle!

Quote From: libsgirl

 

AMEN Dr. Phil :)

 

Amber is too cute, and classy for her husband. Angie was never her friend or she would have never behaved this way. I felt shocked and sorry for you Amber. I've been in your shoes. When you finally realize it's over, and no matter how much you don't want it...it just is. Dennis and Angie didn't show you one ounce of compassion,frankly I wonder if they have feelings. I've not been hurt in front of millions, but I'm cheering for you.  I'm  happier now than I've ever been. Happiness is the best revenge, and I hope(pray) Amber and her children find theirs.

Quote From: latenightjam

I lived 32 years with a man who did not love me......probably never did.  I did not know that until I found someone who REALLY loves me.  If you have questions about whether your mate loves you or you love him, then YOU DON'T and HE DOESN'T!   I have said many times since beginning my true relationship that I love him because he loves me.  We do that for each other.  The most wonderful thing he can give me is to accept my love.  He returns it constantly.  When you have a TRUE love, there is NO doubt. Period.  So, as long as you are hanging on to this no good taker (and there are only 2 kinds of people in life....givers and takers.......and you appear to be the giver, he the taker)  he will milk you for all you are worth, emotionally, financially, and any other way he can.  Get rid of the bum. My kids say the same thing Dr. Phil does.....it is better to be from a broken relationship than be IN one.  You NEED to move on, make the break, and once you do, EMPOWER YOURSELF by telling him NO just once.  Once you tell him NO the first time (and it's scary, but you have to do it for your own control and self worth), but once you do it the first time, it becomes easier, and it makes you stronger in resisting his whining and demanding because that's all these guys do to women like you and what I used to be.  You MUST move on, get rid of him and work on seeking a mate that fits the good qualities and doesn't have any of the bad ones.  You know what is not good in a mate so don't fall back into that trap.  I'm telling you, being alone is better by far than being in an emotionally abusive relationship, and if you don't think you are in an emotionally abusive relationship you need to take a reality check.  After I got rid of my disloyal husband, I felt like I had a huge weight removed and I realized just how much he and our relationship just plain exhausted me.

 

I have one searching question for you:  WHY WOULD YOU LOVE A MAN WHO TREATS YOU LIKE THIS???  HE DOES NOT RESPECT YOU.

 

If he did it once, he'll do it again......and probably with the same woman.  You have no idea what you DON'T know about.  You should never have to tolerate a cheating mate.  If he really loves you, he would have no desire or need to cheat.  His desire would be to come home and spend time with YOU and no one else.  He would look forward to being with you. 

Quote From: rick458

What bothers me most about today's show is the not so underlying message that men and women can't be friends. If it was the husband and his cousin hanging out all the time and talking all the time, well...we wouldn't be seeing these people on Dr. Phil. Is it fair to assume there is an affair just because they are the opposite sex. Honestly, how embarrassing and sad is that. A man and a woman are together so they must be cheating and having sex. They're not having sex? They're talking to each other like guys and guys and gals and gals? Why that's not right. Men and women should not be allowed to fraterinize because it could no doubt lead to friendship or worse.

Shame.

Quote From: strongn

  The show hit home for me because 3 months ago I found out my husband was cheating on me with his business partner in the Philippine. This was going on for over a year. My husband was saying things to me which made me wonder so I started poking around. I found text messages from him to her and her to him referring to each other as husband and wife. When I confronted my husband he said he wanted us to work. We discuss what was wrong in our marriage. I didn't have proof but I knew the affair never ended by the look on his face when he came off the computer with her. I told him he had to leave and figure things out but before he leaves just be present in the marriage. I just want him to know what he was leaving and getting ready to throw away. the two weeks were great for us and the kids. He went to the Phillippine. He saved every IM message between them I read them. I found 12 DVD of them having sex and he taking her on trips. She is wearing my old wedding band. I found pictures of them in a engagement ceremony. Two weeks later he is calling me and tell me he made a mistake. If I would have him back he wants to make us work. Yes I still love him. This may sound crazy I still trust him to have my heart again and forgive him but I want to make sure I don't punish him for life . How could someone do what he did and show such disrespect. He says he was able to do it because he totally disconnected from me emotionally. In his mind we were over. I will face him in another week. He is leaving his business and want have anything to do with the Philippine.

Quote From: corieander

 What a mess. I think Dr. Phil gave them the appropriate advice. That marriage is over. Even if they want to make it work. They need to be living apart. My husband I have a rule, we never go alone somewhere with the opposite sex. I trust him and visa versa but it's better to not lead yourself into temptation. They are lying to themselves and everyone around them.

Quote From: Pleasance

What a ridiculous group "still wet behind the ears" and both couples have children.  What a mess!

 

My concern is for the children.

 

Both these women are being used by Dennis.

 

And neither guy is a "peach".....even the male cousin has cheated. 

 

The women have been with other men, too.  Good grief !

 

No self respect at all....not on anyone's part.    To say nothing of the immaturity involved.

 

I certainly hope  they all have been tested for HIV, STD's and Aids.  Good grief !

 

What kind of "backward" life are they all leading?  

 

 

 

 

Get your heads screwed on  straight  & right......do some self reflection...clean up your act........ Dennis' wife needs to dump him...and get on with her life.....and  her children's well being. 

 

 Take Dr. Phil up on his offer for YOU  to have the individualized counsel.......and oh, by the way......that Lawyer that Dr. Phil offered.....take him up on that one, that's a "biggie !"    With that trucking business......you have marital rights,  for you and your children.

 

Obviously, the winters are too long where ever they all live.....geesh all that snow and mud !!!!!!

 

Here's a hint.....grow up.....

 

...Take up a hobby.......skating,  skiing,  snowshoeing, snowboarding, winter hiking,  snowmobiling,

Ice hockey, ice fishing,  read a BOOK,  get involved in an after school program with your kids,  get involved in your community to affect change, to improve the local library, help a neighbor cut, split and chop, haul wood.....go work in a soup kitchen....Get my drift ?.......do something constructive.

 

Winter will be over before you know it !

 

When that happens.......plant a garden, mow the lawn, plant some vegetables, help with a community garden.......feed the hungry.......help the poor.....take your kids for a walk.....wash the pick-up truck.....set up the kids swimming pool.........Get my drift ?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Quote From: jonjon

JUst watched show. I am in the middle of a messed up situation. My wife and I have been together for 10 years married for 7, have a 6 year old daughter. 3 weeks ago I found out my wife flew to Canada and slept with a guy she met online while playing a kids cartton game that my daughter plays. She said she was in love and ready to leave me and our daughter. As of yesterday she says the guy " dumped her" and that she was a jerk...  I am so messed up. I love my wife very much and I think she loves me. I don't understand why this happening and I still am worried that the guy could come back and that she would leave.

What Dr. Phil said about not building a fence really hit a cord.. but I don't want to lose her. Right now I am living one day at a time. We are both in therapy, but for now she isn't into couples therapy.


I guess I am just writing this because I have no one else to talk to.

Quote From: ladynorma1

About a year ago my husband who is 46 met a young lady at the ATM she asked to borrow a pen and he loaned her a pen and asked her for her phone number.  She is 25 years old.  She gave him her work phone number.  He called her over 14 times throughout a months time and took her on two lunch dates.  I went to Orlando on business when I returned I noticed that he had been looking to buy a home and was prepared to leave me and his only son 15 year old.  He coldly told me the next morning that he had a new friend that was smart and prettier than me.  I was numb.  I went to my office and immediately at 8:00 am contact4ed a private investigator.  Within 4 hours I had all the information to include there last conversation on hand.  I proceeded to go to her house she lived in public housing courts she was on probation for hot check writing and DUI.  He had mentioned to me that she was having a hard time.  We I met her family they were quick to tell me that my husband had been calling and she was not home at the time.  Approximately 2 hours later she and a carload of her family came to my home.  She stated she was not interested in my husband and reduced him to a crumb in front of me, him and our son.  He was very embarrassed and I was SO hurt.. I am finding it so difficult to forgive him this is a man I would lay down my life for I have gone through 4 heart surgery's with him and prayed to god for grace on his healthhow dare he hurt me in such a profound manner.