Topic : 09/14 More Brats

I have had some nights exactly like yours. My 4 year old started throwing a fit in the hall. I calmly stepped right over her and went into the kitchen. She looked at me and said "dont you see me throwing a fit here"

I replied "yes" and then calmly turned around and continued making MYSELF an awesome snack!!

Madeline and David might want to take a glance at Cops and Jerry Springer because Isabella will more than likely be appearing on them in the future if they don't start disciplining. Parenting starts from birth--you are two years behind!  In the meantime, please don't set foot in my classy hometown of Atlanta where we know etiquette.

 

There is no excuse for bringing kids under the age of about 5-6 to nicer restaurants, theater, graduations, upscale weddings, etc. The paper actually ran a column about a woman who was kicked out of a restaurant by the manager due to her child shrieking. There should be more people like him and more places need rules banning kids under 5. A few weeks ago, I witnessed a little girl being allowed to run around and crawl on the restaurant floor! She also came up to our table often and the parents pretty much ignored her even after I gave them the "Look." There is such a concept called RESPECT. Parents have no right to impose their shrieking children on others and a disability is no excuse. Your kids are still an embarassment to society and need discipline. How else are they going to function in the real world if they are still acting up with the so-called ADD excuse at 20?!

 

Also, for those of  you who have boys, how are you going to feel when you receive a call from the parents of future girlfriends telling you that your son has horrible manners and etiquette? That's something to think about if you want them to find a decent spouse.

 

Wake up, we don't think it's cute and we are sick of it! To quote Gone With the Wind, my reponse to all of these excuses we hear from parents today: "Frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn."

I'm another that's going to join the chorus of "Try the Feingold Program!"

I had a 6 year old who had extreme meltdowns/reactions that I just couldn't control.  He's my middle child and my other two were just like every other child in the world.  I took him to a psychologist who diagnosed anxiety disorders and gave me a list of meds that I was going to need to put him on.  I took him to a psychiatrist who said it was all my fault, it was my parenting style.  In desperation I tried the Feingold Program (www.feingold.org) and changed his diet.  On day 6 I noticed how much calmer he was.  At the 2 week mark I got an email from his first grade teacher asking what we were doing differently at home, he had changed THAT MUCH.   It's been 10 months now and you would never know that last year he had such problems.

The Feingold Association researches foods to see which contain artificial preservatives, colors, dyes, etc.  Dr. Feingold (an allergist MD) theorized that a lot of behavior could be related to the brains reaction to these (petroleum based) artificials.   Foods high in salicylates (a naturally occuring chemical that some people are sensitive to) are also removed for the first 6 weeks and then added back in gradually.  The artificials and preservatives are never added back in.

Unfortunately, the Feingold Program has gotten a bad rap, with studies that were funded by the food industry saying it didn't work and that there is no harm in eating these chemicals.  Which is why I waited an extra year to try it.  The Feingold website has substantial studies showing that it
does work.  We are living proof.

I am an empty nester, have been for a little over a year. I LOVED being a mom and I never new I would miss the "hard work" it took to be decent mother. Not great, just decent. Mentally, physically, emothionally. I remember one day my youngest son was 5 or 6, upset about something of course, he looked me straight in the eye and said 'I hate you". I looked back at him and said that's ok, because nothing will ever make me stop loving you. Now for an instant ,deep down my heart broke in half, but for a life time, I never heard him say he hated me again and he's never been afraid to give me a hug. Best life story, probably not. I just want all the young parents out there to know all the "hard work" WILL pay off in the end. Of course, pray ALOT, it will help you stay on track with a clearer mind and heart. Love and protect those children, you only get one time around. ENJOY parenting and quit trying to be friends with your children. That is NOT what they need.  

Love like you've never been hurt!!!!

I think that little isabela needs a spanking. She is spoiled like her mom. I want the daddy. I think he is so handsome with dimples. His feelings were so hurt when the mother said she felt she settled for him. I felt really bad for him.

My son started hitting his head really bad around 1 1/2 years old to almost 3. We tried everything. The thing we learned was not to give him affection when he did it. What I mean by that. We wouldn't run over and say, "Poor baby". As hard it was, we sit where we were and wouldn't go to him and he had to come to come to us. Explain to him that Mommy and Daddy doesn't like to see anyone (including him) hurting their wonderful boy. He had bruises on his forehead.  We realized once we stopped reacting to it, the behavior went away. But, it took us being patient with us.

 

We also learn that the environment helped him too. If we don't have kid's music on. We play classical music. Baby and Little Einstein are his favorite. He even recognize the songs when listening to them on the radio. We don't allow him to watch violent shows. We watch 99 percent his age appropriate. Good channels are DisneyChannel and NOGGIN.

 

My husband and I do not fight around the kids. We believe it is important to provide a safe environment.

 

All of this does take effort, but it is worth saving yourself and the family stress.

 

We also don't believe in labeling kids at this age as "demons" or "possessed." We don't even call them a brat. All of these are negative names.

What were those parents looking so relieved about at the end of the show???  If Bella were just reacting to the tension between the parents, I would think she'd be happy as a clam at day care (where she seems to have as many, if not more, fits as she does at home with the tense parents); additionally, which came first -- the fighting parents or the bratty kid (I think they were probably a pretty happy couple until Bella came along)???  And what were they thinking having another; was this an "oops" (was Bella?) in an attempt on the mother's part to hang onto the father???  I'm not understanding why we have soooo many unhappy kids today (don't buy the brain development theory; brain development hasn't changed, but kids definitely have); something is VERY wrong!!!

I agree that this little girl looked awfully lonely at the day care...  The mom staying home (where she could provide consistent discipline as well as consistent love) might be a good first step...  Why do people have all these kids when they're only planning to see them a few hours a day and even then it seems to be a great big inconvenience for them???  These are not happy little people, nor big people either (and they make me unhappy when they scream during my restaurant meal).   I just know I'm glad I don't have kids.  If you need "someone to love," go to the shelter and adopt a pet!!!  And I, too, felt sorry for the handsome guy when the gal said "settled"; she doesn't deserve him...

I have a 15 year old bipolar child, a 4 year old "normal" child, and myself who is bipolar.

 

I raise both my children with the same set of rules, the same punihments etc. and I am a stay at home mom, so I can tell you it is NOT my parenting. I can take my 4 year old into a store and shop for hours with no complaints. I can't even get into a store without my bipolar child going into mission mode. I won't explain what that is because you won't take the time to try and understand.

 

My point is,  you will never understand what life is like for a mentally ill child, or family if you don't live it and you shouldn't judge.

 

 

Ok I have been a stay at home mom for over 4 years. Now what??

My 15 year old is still Bipolar, she still has manic and depressive cycles. She still has uncontrolable rages, that sometimes require police assistance, she still has a special education IEP for school ? So now what?