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Created on : Friday, July 01, 2005, 05:01:22 pm
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May 8, 2009, 8:22 am CDT

Ain't that the turth...

Quote From: ritehere

I was pretty dense too until my daughter had children of her own. Then I was much in demand and asked advice of again.

 

The weather is beautiful here in Denver this week too, after the snow storm last week.

Both of my daughters have admitted to me many times that they plan to use me for advise when they have kids of their own. LOL 

 

I have been to Denver once ( 2004 ) for vacation, and I have to say it is a very beautiful state.

 

Have a good weekend

 

 

 
May 8, 2009, 8:24 am CDT

But not for spelling... truth. LOL

Quote From: manoman

Both of my daughters have admitted to me many times that they plan to use me for advise when they have kids of their own. LOL 

 

I have been to Denver once ( 2004 ) for vacation, and I have to say it is a very beautiful state.

 

Have a good weekend

 

 

 
May 8, 2009, 10:51 am CDT

Brad

Hope your day is going well and you have a wonderful weekend!  ((hugs)) ~Red
 
May 8, 2009, 11:06 am CDT

Hi Red...

Quote From: redneon

Hope your day is going well and you have a wonderful weekend!  ((hugs)) Red

Good to see your hear...

 

I am doing better than I deserve. :-)  How about you.?  Keeping your hopes up on the house.? Still believe there are a (few) good men out threre.? I did say a few.  LOL 

 

My oldest daughter came to visit me for lunch. I am one lucky guy. :-)  and the weekend is here... don't have any plans yet, but that can be a good thing sometimes. Here in Indiana were suppose to have really good weather all weekend. One thought is to have a fire outside in the backyard.? Or a bike ride on Saturday maybe.? 

 

Take care and have a great,great day... it's all in the attitude baby. :-)))

 

((hugs)) Brad

 
May 24, 2009, 11:04 am CDT

Internet

I was posted sometimes here about internet cheated on, an issue about my wife contacts one ex-boyfriend and change sex-porn-dirty emails.

Now thats happen the following, my wife stills have internet conversations about sex, with her friends, doenst matter if a man or a woman.

She saw to me its just jokes, conversations in vain, but with the theme about porn e-mail to her ex-boyfriend, this hurt me so much.She saw I want to control her life, her friendships life, but I not talking about this, I just ask for she to stop with this type of conversation, because I feel hurted like on those times that ex-boyfriend porn email.She still highly pissed off with me and saw that dont want go on with the marriage on this conditions.For a example, she posts things like this : "My love........my life....", and answer questionarys saiyng she wants sex on that moment, and this post are open for all friends of that page.

She had one conversation one time, where she saiyng that is hard to have sex with me, and her friends saiyng to her to go for a drink, to get good to have sex and makes "the gueisha" service, and after this, she comes to me, we have sex on this night, and as soon we finished the act, she propuse me split up.

Today, after one discution about this theme, she deleted your facebook page, deleted the friends list, delete everything.

I saw to she this is not necessary, I just want she stop with te sex type conversation, questionarys, and thing relationed with this theme just for a time, but she affirmed again "or I can have this in a full, or I dont want have nothing."

I really dont know what to do.......I`m afrad so much, afradi that past things happen again, and get a worse way, the phisical cheat.

What I have to do???

 
May 25, 2009, 12:59 pm CDT

Cheated On

Quote From: mrlogan

I was posted sometimes here about internet cheated on, an issue about my wife contacts one ex-boyfriend and change sex-porn-dirty emails.

Now thats happen the following, my wife stills have internet conversations about sex, with her friends, doenst matter if a man or a woman.

She saw to me its just jokes, conversations in vain, but with the theme about porn e-mail to her ex-boyfriend, this hurt me so much.She saw I want to control her life, her friendships life, but I not talking about this, I just ask for she to stop with this type of conversation, because I feel hurted like on those times that ex-boyfriend porn email.She still highly pissed off with me and saw that dont want go on with the marriage on this conditions.For a example, she posts things like this : "My love........my life....", and answer questionarys saiyng she wants sex on that moment, and this post are open for all friends of that page.

She had one conversation one time, where she saiyng that is hard to have sex with me, and her friends saiyng to her to go for a drink, to get good to have sex and makes "the gueisha" service, and after this, she comes to me, we have sex on this night, and as soon we finished the act, she propuse me split up.

Today, after one discution about this theme, she deleted your facebook page, deleted the friends list, delete everything.

I saw to she this is not necessary, I just want she stop with te sex type conversation, questionarys, and thing relationed with this theme just for a time, but she affirmed again "or I can have this in a full, or I dont want have nothing."

I really dont know what to do.......Im afrad so much, afradi that past things happen again, and get a worse way, the phisical cheat.

What I have to do???

   

               I WILL DO THE POST AGAIN CAUSE ITS WRONG! SORRY!!!

 
May 25, 2009, 2:26 pm CDT

I am still worried about my wife!

I posted here about internet cheated on, an issue about my wife, she had contact one ex-boyfriend and change sex-porn-dirty emails.

Now, after almost 1 year this fact have passed, its happening the following:
My wife got a friend, a girl, since we are in another country, not our hometown country, she kind of had no friends over here... so she got this friend from work... it was everything ok when she decided to have a facebook account and added this girl from work. She was talking to this girl everyday, and I realized that they started to get closer, as friend. And, there is a music, here in the country we are, a kind of rap music that talks about sex! kind of 50 cents...you know? well... her friend sent her a couple of musics like that and she started to hear it and not only that, but started to post, in facebook, to her friend, like a conversation between bouth, started to send her the lirycs of this songs, like they were singing! but you know, even if you post something in someone facebook, all of your friends will check it, and I think, to me, this is pretty much as what she was doing before! before she sent emails to her exboyfriend true internet, now she is doing this!! to me this is the same as cheating as well!!! Plus that, she calls her girl friend as: "baby" "sweety" "my love" "my life"....
She answer questionaries(QUIZ), for a example some QUIZ title : HOW I AM GOOD IN THE BED!!!, THE FIVE THINGS I WANT RIGHT NOW!!! and the answer its regarding to sex , and again all facebook friends list are abble to see it and read it.Those things really stills puts me into doubts.

She said to me its just jokes, conversations between friends, but with the porn e-mail to her ex-boyfriend thing, this hurts me so much.She said I want to control her life, her friendships life, but I not talking about this, I just ask for her to stop with this kind of conversation, because I feel the same as with those times that she sent porn emails to ex-boyfriend.She is really mad at me beacause she said that she can not speak our have a sex theme conversation with any friends, even girlfriends, and said that this is not normal! said that the normal is, sometimes, have this kind of conversations, our k¡jokes around this subject and she said if she cant speak at all about that with any friends, she can not go into a condition like that in her marriage...like a "prohibited subject" in her life.

She had a conversation once, between her firneds, that she were saying that it was hard to have sex with me, and one friend, a woman saiyng to her to go for a drink, to get good to have sex and makes "the gueisha" service, and after this, she comes to me, we have sex on this night, and as soon we finished the act, she proposed me to split up.

Today, after one argument about this subject, she deleted her facebook page, deleted the friends list, deleted everything.

I said to her this it was not necessary, I just want to her to stop with the sex kind of conversation, questionaries, and things related with this subject just for a time, but she said again "if I will have a facebook to keeps wondering every joke or every friends conversation and be afraid to someone talk to me something regarding that, and be always afraid with everything, i do prefer not to have".

I really dont know what to do.......I am afraid that things that happened in the past, happen again and-or worst, goes to a physical thing, you know?
I dont think those things are necesary to her, to live, I mean... she can live without it!! right?

 
May 26, 2009, 4:34 pm CDT

I need to know

Quote From: mrlogan

I posted here about internet cheated on, an issue about my wife, she had contact one ex-boyfriend and change sex-porn-dirty emails.

Now, after almost 1 year this fact have passed, its happening the following:
My wife got a friend, a girl, since we are in another country, not our hometown country, she kind of had no friends over here... so she got this friend from work... it was everything ok when she decided to have a facebook account and added this girl from work. She was talking to this girl everyday, and I realized that they started to get closer, as friend. And, there is a music, here in the country we are, a kind of rap music that talks about sex! kind of 50 cents...you know? well... her friend sent her a couple of musics like that and she started to hear it and not only that, but started to post, in facebook, to her friend, like a conversation between bouth, started to send her the lirycs of this songs, like they were singing! but you know, even if you post something in someone facebook, all of your friends will check it, and I think, to me, this is pretty much as what she was doing before! before she sent emails to her exboyfriend true internet, now she is doing this!! to me this is the same as cheating as well!!! Plus that, she calls her girl friend as: "baby" "sweety" "my love" "my life"....
She answer questionaries(QUIZ), for a example some QUIZ title : HOW I AM GOOD IN THE BED!!!, THE FIVE THINGS I WANT RIGHT NOW!!! and the answer its regarding to sex , and again all facebook friends list are abble to see it and read it.Those things really stills puts me into doubts.

She said to me its just jokes, conversations between friends, but with the porn e-mail to her ex-boyfriend thing, this hurts me so much.She said I want to control her life, her friendships life, but I not talking about this, I just ask for her to stop with this kind of conversation, because I feel the same as with those times that she sent porn emails to ex-boyfriend.She is really mad at me beacause she said that she can not speak our have a sex theme conversation with any friends, even girlfriends, and said that this is not normal! said that the normal is, sometimes, have this kind of conversations, our k¡jokes around this subject and she said if she cant speak at all about that with any friends, she can not go into a condition like that in her marriage...like a "prohibited subject" in her life.

She had a conversation once, between her firneds, that she were saying that it was hard to have sex with me, and one friend, a woman saiyng to her to go for a drink, to get good to have sex and makes "the gueisha" service, and after this, she comes to me, we have sex on this night, and as soon we finished the act, she proposed me to split up.

Today, after one argument about this subject, she deleted her facebook page, deleted the friends list, deleted everything.

I said to her this it was not necessary, I just want to her to stop with the sex kind of conversation, questionaries, and things related with this subject just for a time, but she said again "if I will have a facebook to keeps wondering every joke or every friends conversation and be afraid to someone talk to me something regarding that, and be always afraid with everything, i do prefer not to have".

I really dont know what to do.......I am afraid that things that happened in the past, happen again and-or worst, goes to a physical thing, you know?
I dont think those things are necesary to her, to live, I mean... she can live without it!! right?

how old you and your wife are and what country your from, cause I think your reactions to what she is doing might be related to your culture and beliefs... let me know ~Red
 
May 26, 2009, 6:02 pm CDT

Answer

Quote From: redneon

how old you and your wife are and what country your from, cause I think your reactions to what she is doing might be related to your culture and beliefs... let me know Red

We are from Brazil, and we live in Argentina right now.

But let me tell you the culture and beliefs are pretty much the same.

I have 28 years old and she has 26 years old.We are married for four years now, and we have two kids.

I dont know about the all south america but Brazil and Argentina share almost the same culture as north america, I think this can change in Europe or Asia maybe...anyways...is a pretty much "american culture".

 
May 27, 2009, 7:45 pm CDT

ok mrlogan

Quote From: mrlogan

I posted here about internet cheated on, an issue about my wife, she had contact one ex-boyfriend and change sex-porn-dirty emails.

Now, after almost 1 year this fact have passed, its happening the following:
My wife got a friend, a girl, since we are in another country, not our hometown country, she kind of had no friends over here... so she got this friend from work... it was everything ok when she decided to have a facebook account and added this girl from work. She was talking to this girl everyday, and I realized that they started to get closer, as friend. And, there is a music, here in the country we are, a kind of rap music that talks about sex! kind of 50 cents...you know? well... her friend sent her a couple of musics like that and she started to hear it and not only that, but started to post, in facebook, to her friend, like a conversation between bouth, started to send her the lirycs of this songs, like they were singing! but you know, even if you post something in someone facebook, all of your friends will check it, and I think, to me, this is pretty much as what she was doing before! before she sent emails to her exboyfriend true internet, now she is doing this!! to me this is the same as cheating as well!!! Plus that, she calls her girl friend as: "baby" "sweety" "my love" "my life"....
She answer questionaries(QUIZ), for a example some QUIZ title : HOW I AM GOOD IN THE BED!!!, THE FIVE THINGS I WANT RIGHT NOW!!! and the answer its regarding to sex , and again all facebook friends list are abble to see it and read it.Those things really stills puts me into doubts.

She said to me its just jokes, conversations between friends, but with the porn e-mail to her ex-boyfriend thing, this hurts me so much.She said I want to control her life, her friendships life, but I not talking about this, I just ask for her to stop with this kind of conversation, because I feel the same as with those times that she sent porn emails to ex-boyfriend.She is really mad at me beacause she said that she can not speak our have a sex theme conversation with any friends, even girlfriends, and said that this is not normal! said that the normal is, sometimes, have this kind of conversations, our k¡jokes around this subject and she said if she cant speak at all about that with any friends, she can not go into a condition like that in her marriage...like a "prohibited subject" in her life.

She had a conversation once, between her firneds, that she were saying that it was hard to have sex with me, and one friend, a woman saiyng to her to go for a drink, to get good to have sex and makes "the gueisha" service, and after this, she comes to me, we have sex on this night, and as soon we finished the act, she proposed me to split up.

Today, after one argument about this subject, she deleted her facebook page, deleted the friends list, deleted everything.

I said to her this it was not necessary, I just want to her to stop with the sex kind of conversation, questionaries, and things related with this subject just for a time, but she said again "if I will have a facebook to keeps wondering every joke or every friends conversation and be afraid to someone talk to me something regarding that, and be always afraid with everything, i do prefer not to have".

I really dont know what to do.......I am afraid that things that happened in the past, happen again and-or worst, goes to a physical thing, you know?
I dont think those things are necesary to her, to live, I mean... she can live without it!! right?

Now that I know your ages and where your from I can answer this a bit easier.  I asked about cultures, because some countries the male is very dominate and the woman is treated like an unequal partner and it puts a big strain on the marriage.  If you treat your wife as a partner and you are both working o n the marriage in a constructive way its good, if not its going to cause problems.

 

That said, I do think your wifes behaviour is not appropriate for being married.  I think she is looking for something she isn't getting from you and your marriage.  Maybe she is lonely, maybe she wants more sex from you, some attention, so alone time without the kids around?  What ever it is,  she should NOT be going outside your marriage to find it.  She should be talking to you, telling you what she needs instead of going on line and talking sexy to anyone...male or female.  Talking to and even sending "porn" email to an exboyfriend really does cross the line and should not continue.  I'm not sure what you mean by porn emails, but I am assuming that she has sent nude or inapproprate pictures to this exboyfriend?

 

Now that said, she deserves to have friends.  Preferably female friends, but she shouldn't cross the line with how she talks to them.  I know young people like to talk "dirty" sometimes to their friends, but if you don't think the way she is talking to them is appropriate for a married woman, then she really should respect your request not to talk that way.  If she has more male online friends than female ones, then that is cause for concern to you, and I understand that concern.  It means she is flirting with them and she shouldn't be doing that with men,,, she is married to you.

 

Do you think that she feels like she got married too soon or too young?  Is she behaving this way because she regrets getting married and being tied down with two children?  If she feels like you are trying to control her life and what she can and can't do,, then there really is a bigger problem within your marriage and you need to sit down calmly and discuss what that problem is.  Does she feel used, just being someone who cooks, cleans, looks after your children and has sex with you and she wants to be more than that to you?

 

If she continues to email stuff you don't think a marrried woman should be emailing, then maybe you should take the computer out of the house? Just a thought....

 

Being too jealous of your wife isn't a good thing either, there needs to be some trust, I can see why you don't trust her, but if she wants you to trust her... she needs to prove to you that she is behaving the way you expect your wife to behave.  If all of this is too much for her, if she feels like there are to many rules that you have for her, then maybe she will continue to want to seperate from you,, and in that case you will have to live with the fact you might be divorced in the near future.  I hope you can talk to her and find out what is going on and why she is turning away from you.  I hope you can come to an agreement that the two of you can both live with.  Good luck~Red

 
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