my husand and i have been married for 5 months but we have been together for 5 and half yrs. We have a 3 yr old son. while i was 6 weeks pregnant with our son in like oct/ nov of 01 i met a woman my age and also 6 weeks along. We became fast friends so did our guys.mine even started working for him. pregnancy and newborns came along and went as the boys got older she started confinding in me that she was unhappy in her marriage in every aspect and said the only thing he was good for was for money cuz she would never be able to live on her own. so one day she tells me that her ex boyfriend who lived in florida got a hold of her by email on a search engine we live in Indiana they were in constant contact, emails, instant messages. then phone calls while hubby was at work . she then tells me that she was trying to make arrangements to go down to visit him cuz their was no possible way hubby could find anything out. but he wasnt wanting her to go alone if she didnt want a family vacation then just the two of them could just go. so basically she was trying everything to go byherself . i flat out told her she was stupid, cheating wasnt the answer and never is. if she was that unhappy then separate or go to counceling. after that remark i never heard anything again about her ex, but was finding more info on how skanky she actually was. going out for drinks with guys leading them on thinking it was all fun and games. i started seeing she was an attention hog, doing anything possible to get it, from guys..she was an awful mother, and wife didnt cook, clean take care of her kids spend time with them basically as soon as they would get home from school, supper bath bed.. bed would be 6, 7 pm. then she got a job at a bank... no guys there to mess around with.. i started noticing she was paying to much attention to my man in everything he did, say, look, wear.. so i started talking to her less but he was still bestfriends with her husband. she made sure if i wasnt around she had her fat A-- out there with whatever he was involved with.if happend to talk to her on the phone or computer her first questiong would be were was my man at and what was he doing, so naturally it didnt take very long to figure anything out when they were constantly talking bout each other flirting in front of me and her husband. ect.they started doing whatever it was in about mar of 03... 2 months go by, at my sons 2nd b day party in may of 03 she showed up with her kids and husband to a childrens party looking like a complete hooker short skin tight skirt, tight shirt. i about died. by then i was already sick of her, i didnt speak to her just watched how she acted around my man. she was pretty desent she spent time with her husband and kids i guess she had the feeling she was being watched by several people, me, his mother and his 4 brothers and sister. i had for the past 2 months told him and his family somthing was going on. and had even made comments to to her that i thought he was cheating . not missing a beat she would be like really wow who with trying to look like a conserned friend.. so exactly a week after the party i hadnt seen or spoke to her was ignoring her calls, emails ect.. i got on the computer and went through my mans emails and low and behold what did i find.emails containing plans for meetings after she got off work. how she wanted to kiss him blah blah and felt safe and secure around him how she missed him was mad becouse of me they wouldnt be able to meet, so on and so forth they wouldnt dare email each other from home to home she was using her work email to contact him cuz her husband went throught all her things on a daily basis, email, purse, car everything. no trust there huh? i printed every single email out went to his house i dont know how fast i drove but a 10 min drive took me 3 mins. he was sitting at his computer i threw the papers on the desk asked him what the hell was going on and dont lie i had the proof i had been looking for. he just laughed i was tripping for nothing it was a game i was whatever so punched him. we got in to it bad,i was throwing punchs left and right, shoving everything he didnt lay on hand on me. he confessed they talked she listened to him without judgement and so on, they met 3 times after her work, kissed once that was it, i was ya and if i hadnt busted the 2 of you then it would have gone further he was like no, i wouldnt have let it i was like whatever.. i called her house a few hours later to make sure she was home i was on my way there. so i could beat the dog Sh-- out of her. shes luckey she wasnt home. magically she called right away from her cell she was out to eat with her husband, i laid in on her screaming she was trying to get me to calm down cuz duh her husband was right there listening to every word. i forgave my husband since the only thing they did was kiss once, her husband only knows about that. the only reason i havent said anything is cuz all im thinking is job security, since since mine works for him, i also found out when she confessed to a few details to him she beat the dog crap out of her, then it went to the back yard and he threw her off their deck. i dont agree in that kind of thing but i honestly didnt feel sorry for her one bit, and thought it was funny, because of him being the boss i wont touch her she knows it, i laid down the law if his boss was gonna be stupid enough to forgive him and still wanna be buddies he's even more ignorant then i ever thought, i laid down the law , i didnt care if i was there, her husband thery were not to speak to each other the guys were friends not them 2. i told her she had to reason to be in the garage if they were in it working on a car, she had 4 kids from ages 7 to 2 to take care of and spend time with. so its now 06 almost 3 yrs i still hate her want to kill her, ive forgiven my husband but the trust isnt 100 percent like it use to be, i dont trust her period becouse i know she hasnt changed one bit she's got a different job to were she is constintly around men. in the past few yrs she has broken the no speaking rule so on halloween i paid her a visit at her job, she's lucky there was a counter between us otherwise her face would have been hitting a wall, our husbands throw darts on a team once a week together i went to say hi one night and they were whispering to each other when i walked in she saw me and ran for cover i went a shoved him , he and i got into it there, i went after her, i left and went home i was done, her big bad worthless husband thought he was gonna follow me hom and threaten me before my husband got there as soon as he showed up his attitude magically changed, i wouldnt turn around to face him look at him cuz i knew id be throwing punches i also knew he's bigger then me and his attitude is to strangle a woman cuz hes had done it a few times to the wife. i keep thinking i should have let him put his hands on me., his ass would be in jail, lost him job, i would have sued for mental angush on him cuz i was also a little over a month pregant. so the thougth of her losing her house and cars is funny.. so after that all 4 of us had a meeting sat down and talked. it solved nothing except she admitted she was a whore and knew exactly what she was doing and wasnt thinking of anything excpet for herself. she was the one who started the whole thing. she still knows that i hate her dont trust her, i flat out told her if u piss me off just once you'll be in the hospital i am to the point were i dont care anymore, and i will come after you. he knows i mean business cuz i will go after him too, and im gone. were ok now but im still watching her cuz i know she started it.. i also recently found out the all the folks at the bar i went after the 2 of them are now scared of me. i told my husband good so now they all know that i wont put up with any crap, and i tell him there are women out there that completely suck they are selffish whores sure as heck stab u in the back but if their men were to even speak to a woman on the street out of niceness oh heck no it aint happening..
