Topic : Cheated On

Well I am 38 weeks pregnant and about 6-8 weeks ago I found out that my husband has been hceating on me.  I found an email one night.  I dont' even know why I was suspicious I just had this weird feeling.  He never gave me any reason to be suspicious even when I look back now.  He has a drinking problem as well.  They had been seeing each other for a year or so.  It just hurts so much.  I was so devestated and angry at first and now I am just absolutely hurt.  I can't stop thinking about him being with soemone else.  He tells me that if it wasn't for his drinking and gambling that none of this would've happened.  He said that she would give him money to drink and that she was somebody to go drinking with.  Since I've found out he says that he has finally hit rock bottom and that he still loves me and wants to be there for me and the baby.  He said that she didnt' mean anything.  She was just a result of his drinking.  He has now started to go to AA, has been seeing a counsellor, reading the Dr. PHil relationship rescue book and has been completely honest with me.  He has answered every single question I had for him regardless of whether or not I wanted to really hear the answer.  I have also talked to the other woman and his answers match up with hers so I know he is telling the truth which is kind of reassuring.  He completely cut ties off with her and told her she was  amistake and that he loved me.  I am so torn between staying and trying to make things work or leaving for good.  AS of right now i am staying at my parents place.  I feel like since he is trying that maybe i should give him a chance eventually if he continues to stay sober and continues to seek professional treatment, AA etc for his problems.  I still love him so much adn it is so hard to just let him go especially wiht a new baby on the way.  I'm just wondering what others in put is on this whole thing.  Does he deserve another chance if he stays sober and quits gambling, should I just leave him and be done with it.  I think it is just so hard becasue of the baby.  If itwasn't for the baby I'm sure I could just leave, move and forget about him eventually but we are tied for life now adn I really want him to be there for me and the baby.  I'm just so confused and was looking for a little insight from others who have been in teh situation.  I just never knew anything could hurt so bad.  I wonder if I will ever be able to trust him again or be with him.  Another thing that bothers me or maybe it shouldn't is that they only were togetehr sexually 3 times ina  whole year.  So it's almost like it was more of a relationship they had.  Maybe it was just the drinking but I just feel like it had to be more than that.  We have talked a lot lately adn I still love him with all of my heart and am having a hard time figuring out what I shoudl do.  My attitude changes every day.  Please give me some input.  I need it desperately. 

MY husband has been talking to women on line for about 6 months.  I just learned about this a month ago, but I could feel something had changed in our relationship.  now he says he is happy i found out because his mind and heart are clear again and he just did it because he was bored.  OK....so I did find that he was starting to make plans with some of these women but he says he never got to that point.  We have had a wonderful marriage.  And I want to forgive him.   

So, do I use the phone number I found and ask one of these women if the ever met.  or do I leave it alone and work on our marriage?