Topic : 03/21 When In-Laws Cross the Line

children do not *need* grandparents.

Children *need* happy, healthy, secure, and loving PARENTS.

If those grandparents are making it impossible for the parents to be happy, healthy, secure and loving to each other and their children, then those grandparents need to be taken out of the situation completely.

Grandparents are great when they can contribute to the healthy loving environment that children need, but they arent necessary to those kids lives as long as mom and dad are doing good and taking care of them properly.

I hope the MIL in this show got help, she should never have been so involved that she felt she had the right to do the things she did and said. :(

I know exactly how it feels to be put through hell. In fact on Christmas this year, my fiances mother attacked me physically out of anger because she found out we were going to be moving into our own place together after being together about a year. I was always nice and tried to be accepting of everything. I am traumatized now and I wont even go there for Christmas anymore.

Why is it parents are so protective of their children even when they are grown up?

Dont they realize the more protective they are the more they push them away?

People should be free to love whomever they choose whether or not anyone approves. Remember, its not the parent thats marrying them, its the child.

Wouldnt you want your child to be happy? Maybe sometimes the parents need to let go and let their kids make their own choices and just accept them.

My advice is try to be open to the person and even if you dont like them, out of respect for your family member, try to make the attempt to just be civil.

ANOTHER NOTE: Holiday events are not times to confront people.

Holiday confrontation = embarrassment and disaster.

This is the second time I've seen this program, and like the first time, I wondered why Dr. Phil did not respond nor question the husband after his mother said her d-in-law stated her husband had been screwing his girlfriend all week.  There was no further mention of the husband's alleged infidelity,  and it's entirely possible that his wife was angry/worried about him and this may have aggravated the situation with her mother-in-law.  Hope there'll be some follow-up on this situation.

I just watched the first segment of todays show.  I was surprised that Dr P listened to the manipulative lies of this MIL!!!  She even had to turn on the water works!  It was like Dr P thought she was just being a cute old lady!  If the son or DIL had been that way, I am sure he would have come down on them!  Perhaps he was just being a "southern gentleman" and respecting his elders, but come on!  Lets at least tell MIL that she needs to BUTT OUT!!!

I have often wondered if taking my inlaw story on the show would help sove things.  SIL and MIL both are master manipulators, and pour on the tears and lies to get what they want.  I am sure they would make me and my husband look like the "bad guy" too to Dr P.

Was there more that we missed from the show?  I just cannot believe that "I'm going to put you both in counceling in going to work at all.

When MIL said  "Oh I LUV YOU!"  to her DIL I thought I was going to loose my lunch!

There are a lot of people out here who put up with inlaw crap like this all the time!  We could use some help when the toxic inlaws are JUST TO MUCH TO TAKE!!!  DH and I have had to make the choice to remove ourselves from the relationship with his parents and one sister.  Threating phone calls, letters and viscous rumors were more than we could take!  Where is the advice for that? 

"Peace" at any price?  I don't think so!  Peace for DH and myself means allowing his parents and sister to continue to let them control our lives!  That will never happen. We want peace for ourselves!!!