Topic : 01/01 Revenge of the Exes

Its not slander if its true, black or white.

I'm wondering what show you were watching, because Todd did not come off as whining but wounded!  I wouldn't want anyone airing my dirty laundry on the web either.  If you noticed Dr. Phil was not very sympathetic to Tasha.  Just because someone anonymously says something has happened to them doesn't neccessarily mean it is so (even if they are female!).  You sound as if you are taking it a little too personal and not very objectively!

 

All of us don't think all men are guilty until proven innocent.

 

I totally agree. That's what our girlfriends are for as well. Honestly, I don't know how these women that post on that site sleep at night knowing that they could cause huge problems in someone's life.

People make slanderous allegations all the time.  They do it via the internet, newspapers, in person, in emails etc.  I get them all the time myself and no they are not about dating.  I hope the website does NOT get shutdown.  It is like TV , change the channel or don't watch it.  Besides one has to wonder if Todd was trying to keep it "quiet" so to speak then why did he go on national television to discuss it?  I wonder if he wasn't seeking a little free advertising there with his complaint.  I did go check out the website and in my little opinion it seems they are also able to talk about how to get over it, as most people here are saying.  To be honest I think we have all dated Mr. Wrong at one time or another and if you think about it your best friend or someone you know warned you not to but you didn't listen.....meaning I don't really think that alot of people will be believing everything on the site anyway. It is harmless

SOME PEOPLE ARE STRONGER THAN OTHERS, WHEN IT COMES TO MATTERS OF THE HEART,  THIS MIGHT BE THE PERFECT FORUM FOR SOMEONE WHO HAS BEEN TRULY EMOTIONALY RAPED TO VENT.  THOSE WHO LIE, SHAME THEM ON THEM.  THIS WED-STE COULD BE THE THERAPY A TRULY EMOTIONALLY INJURED PERSON NEEDS TO GET OVER A JERK BY EXPOSING HIM OR HER.  WHAT WORKS FOR SOME DOESN'T  WORK ALL.   WHO ARE WE TO JUDGE?

  I am an absolute fan of Dr. Phil, his Intellect,Candidness and great advice not forgetting his 

  Partner, and supportive Beautiful, Intelligent Wife, Robin!!!  Together they are helping America

  to face what is hard hitting issues, and letting people know they are not alone.  Thanks for

  giving so much to so many.  Your time, and compassion is so appreciated by many viewers.

  God Bless all of you at The Dr. Phil Show that work so hard by giving of yourself  for others.

       Now down to business, as for todays show about Todd and Tasha.... I guess our society 

  has become so numb to all that goes on in the world that it tolerates someones right to privacy.

  I feel that Todd has every right to be angry with the posts on the web site as I am sure we have

  all made are fair share of mistakes.  I am not saying that I believe what was said in the blogs,

  nor should anyone have the right to publish such defaming accusation on the "wonderful

  world wide web".  I believe that if the website that you create makes any money, than you have

  the responsibility as to what is allowed to be posted.  No Graphic or defaming material

  should be allowed.   Nor full names or pictures, addresses ex cetera, this should also be a

  condition of The Website Creator to explain clearly no last names, photo, address or likeness

  will be published, and will not be posted on the site.

       The example in todays show where she admitted clearly to a deleted posting because of it's

 context that dealt with a police officer, It only leaves me asking why his and why not all men! 

 Why should Todd be any different.  All blogs on the site should be open to freedom of speech,

 yet still protect the privacy of others.  I am appalled that such a website even exists, and is so

bias on the side of women

        I am a 46 year old female and would rather not have my name on the  web.

  To state my case;  Why do we have "User Names"?   To keep our identity private, DING ! 

  Let's get real people!  We have child abductions, and child predators, and evil people in the

  world that we should be devoting our precious time to invest in.  Let's put our time to better use.

  Grow up ladies!  Your only a victim if you choose to be!  I am speaking from experience.

         So I am in favor of Todd, and his right to privacy.  The responsibility falls back on Tasha who

  profits from these women who in a time of hurt,self-pity, and anger lash out to destroy  some-

  ones else's life to make themselves "feel better".   You know the old saying misery loves

  company?  This site only entices people who are already hurting, and vulnerable to stay angry

  and hateful.   It has no redeeming value or serves no other purpose.

 My prayers are with you Todd.  Good Luck!

                                                                              " And Thats My Opinion"    Signed, Christy   

I was the cheater in my marriage and after my spouse found out, he went to several of these on-line support forums and aired all the sorted details of my affair short of giving my name, where we lived, or where I work (he did provide that information to several people from the boards privately through e-mail).  I was then “invited” to participate on these boards and repent and cleanse myself.  Because so much had been written about me and how badly I treated him, I became a target.  The people (referred to as Betrayed Spouse) let me know what they thought of me, that what I did is compared to killing a child, how I destroyed my husband’s soul and on and on.

 

I fought back a few times but was outnumbered and overruled while my husband sat back and watched me get what I deserved.  He feels those on-line forums were what saved him and apparently our marriage.  For me, I tried to commit suicide (but failed at that too).  Those forums did show me just how horrible I am and I will never make the same mistake again.  So in a way, those forums did shock some sense in me.  Those forums allowed my husband to get his anger out of his system by writing about my affair.  He was given a lot of suggestions on how to repair the damage my affair created, and received support from his friends on these forums. 

 

I no longer go to those forums (nor am I allowed to by their moderators) since I am unable to abide by their very strict rules.  I will assume that my husband won’t allow any of his board pals (as I refer to them) to hurt me.  He was able to get some revenge, and it served its purpose.  I’m still alive, we’re still married and the forums go on giving their advice and support to people who have been hurt by their partner’s affairs.

Oh, me too. I can't stand my ex. He has hurt me beyond belief, but to do something so juvenile is synonymous to 8th graders writing nasty things about someone on the bathroom walls. I totally vote for Todd.

 

After seeing the show on Don't date him girl.com I just had to reply. Me and my husband have been together 15 years and have three children together. Recently I discovered he was fullfilling fantasy's online with women he met over the internet. These women fell for him hook, line, and sinker, without ever meeting him. Once I discovered what was going on, we split up and  I contacted these women and explained what was going on. There were a couple of women who refused to believe me and became convinced that he was going to marry them, and they were going to have children together, etc... My husband and I decided to try and work things out and have been in counseling, but when he broke things off with these women all hell has broken loose. He to is now on the don't date him girl website, posted as a cheater to women he never actually met with. One even claims to have been pregnant, a claim that is not true. Imagine my chagrin at having my husband's picture posted on this website with false claims. I don't want anybody we know logging on and thinking my husband has children all over the country. These women knew he had a family when they got involved, yet they chose to remain anonymous, unwilling to brand themselves as potential homewreckers. He has recieved explicit pictures from these women, pictures I would love to post on the website to show what there like, but I am fearful of the ramifications. I also must say that the format has been changed as initially when he was put on the website, we had to send a rebuttal directly to the "editors" of don't date him girl, and our comments were never posted. Recently I went on, and was able to post a rebuttal directly, so it most definitely has been changed. I hope that this website is removed as it is harmful to alleged wrongdoers as well as their families, not to mention the fact that women can say anything they want, true or not without any repurcussions.

I couldn't agree with you more!