Topic : 01/01 Revenge of the Exes

My 1st. marriage lasted 24 yrs. with 5 children. I should have left him 6 wks. after we married, but I was a strong Catholic and leaving wasn't an option in the 50's. After his years of indfidelity, poker games, hunting trips, trips to the beer parlor, golfing, bowling...(WHEN DID HE HAVE TIME FOR ME AND THE KIDS? ---ALMOST NEVER!!!).we divorced.  After many years and... Now, with his 4th. wife in tow, we can be in the same room for children's and grandchildren's events....I SMILE---I TALK--VERY PLEASANTLY---I BAKE & COOK ALL the KIDS FAVORITES,,,,,BUT THEY'RE ALSO  HIS FAVORITES --I LAUGH AT HIS STUPID JOKES, I TELL HIM HOW WONDERFUL HIS HOME MADE WINE IS--(IT'S HORRIBLE BY THE WAY)  -----It took me 12 years to make certain I would never end up with this kind of man again---and I didn't.  My now husband of 13 yrs. and I believe in the old adages --KILL THEM WITH KINDNESS.  --it works and no one gets hurt and the kids don't notice.... Every once in a while I catch the EX staring at me and giving me the little "EYE" just like he used to do to other women when I was married to him.... Inside, I'm laughing my ....... off....outside, I pretend I don't see it....

WORKS FOR ME!!!

I was appalled at Tasha's smirk and attitude...... gives anyone that has a website for "hanging out and talking" a bad rap. I used to have a website that people could come to and talk about anything... likes, problems, hurts, etc..... it was wonderful - for 3 years.. until so-called friends decided that that they wanted to "play games" with some people's lives and I wouldn't allow it.... so they turned on me and bashed me, my website, and my name all over the internet. This filtered into animal rescue groups that I am affiliated with as well as other "online friendships"...... I have had no contact with these people for almost 2 years and yet they are still trying to cause trouble. It is my opinion that people that have nothing better to do than spread lies and unfounded rumors over the internet are unhappy and unfulfilled people in their own lives - they have to lie and make up stories about others to feel better themselves.... and Tasha... shame on you for allowing REAL NAMES to be posted as well as vital information as to people's contact information. Do you not realize that you are responsible for the confidentiality of EVERYONE at your site.. whether they be the one's posting messages or the ones being written about. You can air your dirty laundry and talk about it with others but you don't have to mention names.... if it's a legal issue or a safety issue concerning pedophiles or sex offenders... contact the authorities... otherwise.. keep names to yourself.

Tasha struck me as an arrogant, self-absorbed, unmannered woman.  She was always disrupting whoever talked, she repeated the same thing, and never really had any real answers.  Cheating on someone is far from right, but ruining someone's life is absolutely outrageous!  Things happen for a reason, both good and bad.  To seek revenge is just so wrong.  I've been married before, my first husband beating me up.  The good thing out of this is that if I didn't marry him I wouldn't be where I am now and wouldn't have met my husband and had my 2 girls.  I also found the best revenge is to be nice to my ex.  He just can't understand it.  What better revenge then to show that I am a better person than him!

Dr. Phil, maybe you ought to have a few sessions with Tasha and help her realize that she needs to change herself and stop being so evil!

  I could not believe the c**p put on that 'Dontdatehimgirl.com' website.  Pissed off at an ex? Anonymously slam him on the internet with anything and everything that might be embarrassing, even if it's not true.  What cowards!!  And yes, Tasha, you ARE responsible for what these people are writing in YOUR forum - and I hope that you get a dozen more libel suits.  How would you like it if I went onto some forum and posted statements that you are gay, have herpes, are into S&M, bondage & pedophilia, or anything else I can think of??? If every time you went for a job interview, your prospective employers googled your name & came up with several statements like that for you to explain??? Or your mother saw it?  Would that give you a thrill?  Even if you are able to post statements repudiating it, it's still there.  What do you think that someone who didn't know you would believe? 

How much more childish can these people be???  GROW UP, LADIES!! (and I use the word 'ladies' very loosely in this case)  I've had exes treat me badly, and yes, I have been tempted to do something nasty to them in return - but the fact is, they are not worth the damage that sort of behaviour would do to ME - when you start flinging mud, some of it always sticks to you.   My best revenge is that I know that I'm a better person than they are.  I'm not perfect, I never will be.  But at least I'm not some spoiled, bratty, childish, nasty, vindictive, moronic DWEEB  like the women who go onto that website.

You're not in Junior High School anymore - stop acting like it!!!