Topic : 01/01 Revenge of the Exes

I am actually surprised at Dr. Phils response to these women.  I was shocked when I heard him tell the second guy that there was nothing wrong with his lifestyle.....I may be old fashioned, but I think that you should be only sleeping with one person at a time.  Date whoever, but as soon as you include sex as part of the relationship, I think women take that as a sign of commitement, and assume that it is a monogomous relationship.  I felt like Dr. Phil made that young girl feel stupid and nieve (sp?) , and really I think her feelings were very natural and common for a women scorned.  Sex with more than one partner at a time should not be encouraged, and safe sex was not even mentioned.  Although I have never been cheated on, I have daughters not  dating age yet, but the thought that men like that are out there terrifies me.  He WAS an adult and she to me was still a child.  Shame on you!

As far as the law suit case goes, he is after the wrong person.  Go after the ex if you are mad.  Honestly though I think it is about time women stuck together and think it is wise to warn others about the men who think it is O.K to use women.  The BBB is out there for people to be warned about bad businesses and now this site warns about  men :)

What are the young girls of today thinking. I am in my late 30's and have always been one of the guys. Let me just say there is a reason guys my age date girls that just became legal. They are dumb enough to buy the lines these guys are selling! These men are not all together, they have self asteem isssues, they have sexual issues, or they are scaried of a real relationship.

The guys I know very well all say the same thing:

Young girls don't expect much because they have no real experience.

Young girls believe the stories they tell. "Wow, You make how much money?"

The whole alfa-male thing. "She doesn't question my opinion, she thinks I'm a GOD."

I know what your thinking, how do you know? What makes you think you know so much?

They tell me, that's how I know! They sit in my garage and they spill their souls. I am a girl but not one that is so removed Most of the time they just what to know what I think, "you know as a girl".

The rules are real simple:

Don't date a guy twice your age. Period

Believe him when he says he just wants to hang out. You can't change anything.

If he's 35 and never been married or in a long term relationship, there is something wrong.

Never date anyone you meet in a bar after 1:00. It's a one night stand, That's it!

You will be just a decoration! Is that what you want? Look pretty but don't speak.

Girls please think alittle bit. If you just what to play older guys are fun, they have enough money to have a really good time, they usually know the people who can make things really fun. If you are looking for a long term life time relationship, just say thanks for the drink and walk away.

I am so sick of women who think that they need to get even.  If things aren't working out for you or him, just move on.  Is he really worth it?  Why would all these women put so much time and effort into getting back at someone they say isn't worth anyone's time of day?  And what does the fact that someone is bi-sexual have to do with what kind of person they are?  This website seems like a forum to bash men.  If this is just a forum for women to talk to one another and share their feelings, why are the mens name's posted while the women hide behind forum names?  Why couldn't they speak about what they have been through without using names?  I bet there is a lot of untruth on that website.  I really hate the fact that there are so many women out there who feel that they need to get revenge on a man becasue she feels wronged.  How many of these same women have dumped men?  How many have cheated on boyfriends or strung along two guys at one time?  How many of these women are completely faultless in the relationship that they are now complaining about?  Or for that matter any relationship they have ever been in?  None of us can say that they have not made mistakes in relationships.  How would any of us like it if we were then slandered on a website for the whole world to see?  If these women were really wronged, they should handle it privately, speak to the person.  If the person doesn't care, move on with your life.  They are not worth the trouble.  I was engaged to a man when I was in my 20's.  He broke my heart and the engagement.  Years later, he looked me up and called me and said he was sorry for the way he had treated me and for hurting me.  He had grown up and realized he was wrong.  I was very glad that I had not lowered myself to his level at the time.  Women should not compound bad behavior from a man by acting childish and getting revenge.  When they do, they are no better than the man who treated them badly. 

While Tashia may not be responsible for the truth of all the messages on the forum, she showed today on the show that she is unfeeling when it comes to the effects those message have on other people.  She would not even aknowledge the pain those statements had on this man.  When Dr. Phil asked her if she understood how hurtful those statements could be to him, she said she understood how hurt the women on the forum were by the men they were involved with.  Nice cold answer.  She could have removed those posts when she realized the trouble it was causing.  She could have tried to difuse the situation.  She wants to try to hide behind the law instead of doing the right thing.  People doen't seem willing to stand up and do the right thing whether they legally have to or not.  The question, I feel is not whether she is legally responsible.  The question is whether she morally should do something about it.  I say she should.  I don't blame him for filing the lawsuit.  It appears he has no choice but to try legally to get her to remove this slanderous material about him from the forum.  She doesn't appear to care who is hurt by it or be willing to remove it.  I hope she is forced to remove it.

His character will stand on its own, but slander is against the law.  Most of what Tasha was saying about the law was incorrect.  Go to the website and read the terms of use.  A part of it says:

You will not post on the Service, or transmit to other Registered Users, any defamatory, inaccurate, abusive, obscene, profane, offensive, sexually oriented, threatening, harassing, racially offensive, or illegal material, or any material that infringes or violates another party's rights (including, but not limited to, intellectual property rights, and rights of privacy and publicity).

 It is unfortunate that people talk nasty about other people and air their dirty laundry in public, web sites, newspapers, etc., etc., but, last time I looked we do have freedom of speech in America.  One thing that I have found out in life, and it was a very expensive lesson (not monetary), is that if you don't want people to know your business, keep it to your self.  If you don't want people to spread nasty things about you, be kind to people.  It may be that you have to walk away and bite your tongue and even consider the source.  If you do not want to be called a "duck," don't walk like one and don't quack like one. 

I will have to say one thing, if Todd was so worried about his family and his wife finding out, what was he doing acting like a whore dog on the internet.  Shouldn't he have been talking to his wife, his attorney, or both instead of trying to have his cake and eat it to??     

I couldn't have put my thoughts any better than you did, so thanks for expressing it so well.

Of course he shouldn't be doing things that can come back to bite him, and I agree with Dr. Phil ..  why didn't the woman who blasted him put her "blame" on the web while she was dishing it out on him?